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No More Excuses: Self-Care Matters

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I’m really tired of friends and clients who won’t make time for themselves. You are important! And if you aren’t making time for yourself you are either stressed out or on your way there.

Self-care, as therapists like to call it, is something you do just for you. It’s reading a great novel, scrapbooking, buying yourself flowers, a walk with a friend. It’s really whatever refreshes and energizes you.

What excuses are you making? Excuses are easy.

  • I’m too busy.
  • I don’t have any money.
  • I’m tired.
  • My kids need me.
  • I have to work late.
  • I have to get up early.
  • It’s not that important (translation: I’m not that important).
  • I’ll do it next week.
  • I’ll start on Monday.
  • I’m too fat (thin, ugly, stupid, nervous, uncoordinated, etc).

Look, I get it. I’m busy too. I work full-time, write two blogs, and am working on some other professional projects. I’m a wife and mom with three kids at home.

But if you’re still insisting that there is no possible way for you to have some “me time”, I have to call bullshit. There’s always time for whatever you prioritize. Did you plunk yourself down, beer in hand, in front of the TV or computer today? How much time did you whittle away on Facebook or Twitter? Perhaps that is your self-care. If it truly relaxes you and brings you joy, then carry on. For most of us it’s just a distraction; a way to zone out when we’re too tired for real self-care.

Stress, like most things, is best handled proactively. This means doing things to relax and reduce your stress before it’s exploding out of you like an erupting volcano. And the only way it’s going to happen is if you stop making excuses. Stop putting yourself last. And start taking action.

Where can you find ten minutes or five dollars? Saying “yes” to yourself means saying “no” to something else. Say no to working through lunch and actually take 30 minutes to eat a proper meal. Trade 15 minutes of World of WarCraft for a walk around the block. Don’t check your work email tonight and go get a coffee with your spouse. That’s not so hard, is it?

Most of us achieve our goals one small step at a time. Stress-management is no different. It’s not an all or nothing venture. Every little act of self-care contributes to less stress, better health, and happier relationships. What will you do for yourself today?


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No More Excuses: Self-Care Matters

Sharon Martin, LCSW

Sharon Martin is an emotional wellness speaker, writer, and licensed psychotherapist. Her San Jose based practice specializes in helping over-stressed, high achieving adults and teens learn to embrace their imperfections and grow happiness. Her personal journey of overcoming perfectionism and people-pleasing traits, inspired her passion for this work. Sharon is the author of Setting Boundaries Without Guilt: A Workbook to Move You From Doormat to Empowerment. Sharon also enjoys teaching blogging and writing classes for therapists. You can find her on Twitter, instagram, and her website.

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APA Reference
Martin, S. (2018). No More Excuses: Self-Care Matters. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 22, 2018, from


Last updated: 1 Jan 2018
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 1 Jan 2018
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