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happiness

Your Dog Isn’t The Only One Who Needs Treats


 
Treats vs. Rewards
Last week I was listening to an episode of Gretchen Rubin's podcast Happier (which I highly recommend) about giving yourself treats. Rubin explains that a treat is a pleasure you give yourself "just because" and a reward is something you earn. I had honestly never made this distinction before. And as I've thought about this for the past week, I realized it's hard for me to...
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codependency

What Every Adult Child of an Alcoholic Needs to Know about Perfectionism


Addicted, dysfunctional and chaotic families are a breeding ground for perfectionism. Therapists and addictions counselors often talk about alcoholism (or any addiction) as a family disease because it affects everyone in the family. As I'm sure you're aware, an addict's behavior has far reaching consequences for his/her family, especially the children.

Alcoholic homes are unpredictable and harsh. Some children learn that the best way to cope is...
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Overcoming Perfectionism

10 Proven Tips for Overcoming Perfectionism

If you read my previous post and concluded that you're a perfectionist, it's time I shared a few tips on overcoming perfectionist traits.

I won't lie to you. Undoing perfectionist tendencies is quite an undertaking. You're not going to do it by following these tips for a week or two. You will, however, make good progress if you practice them consistently for several months. Sometimes the guidance of a therapist can really speed progress...
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Overcoming Perfectionism

How Losing Weight Made Me Feel Fatter

Have you ever stepped on the scale, looked down in disgust and decided it was going to be a bad day? I have definitely fallen prey to not feeling thin enough, pretty enough, cute enough, tall enough, sexy enough. If you can you relate, this article is for you. Please keep reading.

It's hard not to make our jean size represent our self-worth. Our weight really shouldn't dictate our happiness level. And yet,...
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Stop Making Excuses!


 

I'm really tired of friends and clients who won't make time for themselves. You are important! And if you aren't making time for yourself you are either stressed out or on your way there.

Self-care, as therapists like to call it, is something you do just for you. It's reading a great novel, scrapbooking, buying yourself flowers, a walk with a friend. It's really whatever refreshes and energizes you.

What excuses are...
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Anxiety

Signs You Are an Overthinker


Overthinking is common among anxious, perfectionists. It is obsessive thinking or ruminating. I recently wrote an article about dealing with my own overthinking tendencies while remodeling my kitchen.

People who overthink feel like they can't turn off their brains. They are constantly questioning, second guessing, evaluating. So much so that they create "analysis paralysis", or the inability to make decisions.

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happiness

It’s National Do Something Nice Day


 

October 5th is National Do Something Nice Day. A day dedicated to doing something nice is a fantastic idea!

Did you know that doing good deeds can actually improve your health? Dr. Stephen Post of the Institute for Unlimited Love revealed that kindness and volunteering increases longevity.  Other research has shown the performing acts of kindness increases levels of happiness.

Today your challenge is to...
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Overcoming Perfectionism

Is Success Making you Happy?


 

Conventional wisdom is that success will lead to happiness. On the surface, it makes perfect sense. If I work hard and achieve my goals, I will be proud of myself and rewarded by the rest of the world.

The research just doesn't support this idea. I loved Shawn Achor's book The Happiness Advantage and popular Ted Talk about happiness at work.



Success doesn't necessarily create happiness. Have...
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