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Perfectionism

6 Myths and 6 Truths About Perfectionism


Perfectionism seems straightforward, but it’s often misunderstood.

Many people think perfectionism helps them achieve their goals and get better results.

American culture continues to encourage perfectionism despite all of the research that indicates perfectionism is associated with increased anxiety, depression, suicidal behavior, eating disorders, relationship and health problems.*

The fallacy that perfectionism is helpful (or even necessary for success) persists because we still idealize perfectionism. We get the message from an early age (from our...


self-compassion

How to Use Self-Compassion to Stop Blaming Yourself for Everything


Are you quick to blame yourself – even for things you didn’t do or couldn’t control?

When things go wrong, is your immediate response: “It’s all my fault” or “I shouldn't have done that”?

For many of us, self-blame and criticism are insidious. We’re unrelenting with our demands and expectations, and we’re our own worst critic when things don’t go as planned or we don’t perform perfectly.
Why we’re so hard on ourselves
Self-blame and self-criticism...


Anxiety

9 Tips to Help You Stop Overthinking

What is overthinking?
Do you spend countless hours rehashing your mistakes? Do you worry about what others think of you? Do you struggle to make decisions -- and get caught up in excessive researching in an effort to make the right decision?

This is overthinking -- a form of uncontrollable worry or rumination. It feels like your brain is in overdrive; you can’t turn it off. You worry and...


mental health

8 Tips for Healing Emotional Wounds


Do you ever wonder if healing from emotional wounds is really possible? Can someone really heal from trauma, rejection, depression, a broken heart?

Perhaps you’ve been hurting for a long time and things don’t seem to be getting better.

Perhaps you feel stuck, like you’ve tried everything, and it hasn’t helped.

Or perhaps you feel like you’re too old or it’s too late for you...


Boundaries

Boundaries, Blaming, and Enabling in Codependent Relationships

When boundaries aren’t clear there’s confusion about who’s responsible for what – and this confusion leads to excessive and displaced blame.


 

If you're in a relationship that's riddled with blame (or you grew up in a blaming family), you know how painful this experience is -- and how blame destroys relationships.

However, you may not know that displaced blame is the result of weak or confused boundaries.
What are...


people-pleasing

Say Good Riddance to “Good Girl Syndrome”

Is "good girl syndrome" holding you back?

Be a good girl.
Do as your told.
Don’t talk back.
Wait your turn.
Don’t make trouble.
Smile and look happy.
Don’t make your father angry.
Where are your manners?
Just sit here and be quiet.

How many times have you been told to be “good girl” or “good boy”? From an early age, the expectations were clear – you were to follow the rules,...



Adult Children of Alcoholics

Healing from Emotional Abandonment, Shame, and Unworthiness


Experiencing emotional abandonment in childhood can make us feel anxious, distrustful, ashamed, and inadequate – and these feelings often follow us into adulthood, making it difficult to form healthy, trusting relationships.
What is emotional abandonment?
Emotional abandonment means that someone important, someone you are counting on, isn’t there for you emotionally.

Children rely on their parents to meet their physical and emotional needs. And because young...


Perfectionism

Less Perfection, More Self-Care


 

Perfectionists suck at self-care.

We're much more concerned with goals and accomplishments than with our own wellbeing. Sometimes, we're so busy that we don't even realize that our drive to please people, avoid criticism, and prove we're "good enough" is destroying our mental and physical health.
Are You a Perfectionist?
Perfectionists have impossibly high standards for themselves – and sometimes for others, too. We expect ourselves to excel...


dysfunctional family

4 Strategies to Cope with the Pain of Rejection


Rejection hurts.

We’ve all experienced the pain of rejection – perhaps a job you didn’t get, being ghosted by a friend, or not being invited to a social event -- and then seeing your friends post about it on social media.
What is rejection?
We feel rejected when we’re not included, accepted, or approved of. Rejection involves the loss of something we had or wanted. And rejection, like abandonment, leaves...