Mental Health Humor Mental Health Humor cartoons is the balanced of blend of mental illness advocacy and psychological disorders drawn from the mind of Cartoonist Chato Stewart. The focus: Use humor as a healthy and positive coping skill for mental disorders. 2017-10-19T20:03:58Z https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/feed/atom/ Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[How Can I Stop Weight Gain From My Bipolar, Depression, Anxiety Medications?]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14911 2017-10-19T19:37:09Z 2017-10-19T20:03:58Z Peer support includes relationships that are respectful, hopeful, trusting AND letting an individual be the expert on themselves AND supports many pathways to recovery…this includes to medicate or not to […]]]>

Peer support includes relationships that are respectful, hopeful, trusting AND letting an individual be the expert on themselves AND supports many pathways to recovery…this includes to medicate or not to medicate.

Chato Stewart Mental Health Humor Cartoon

Insatiable Appetite-Weight Gain Mental Health Humor cartoon- by Chato Stewart Over-Medicated

Meds Weight Gain 1 | Meds Weight Gain 2 | Meds Weight Gain 3       

Now before anyone gets any feathers riled up over the hot topic of being medicated or overmedicated… As peers in recovery, we should support our fellow peers if they decide to take medications or to go alternate routes…Or “pathways to recovery.”

As for me, since the beginning of my journey in recovery, I’ve gone the route/the way of medication along with a network of support and therapy.

Do Medications Cause Weight GAIN?

Do medications cause and/or have side-effects? Yes! Oh, ya do they!!!  Is one of the side-effects a voracious appetite monster or also being known as (excessive) weight gain? YES!

How adverse or tolerable are the side-effects? Well, that’s depending on the individual.  Nevertheless, there are many common side-effects that many of us Peers experience some severe, others mild— I prefer to cope with such side-effects with the fondness of humor; (drawn from many of my Mental Health Humor cartoons and Over-Medicated series).

Why Deal with the Weight Gaining Drugs, Why Not Just Stop them All?

In many cases, side-effects can be mild/moderate and not outweigh the positive impacts of said medication. Reduction and/or recovery from symptoms, e.g., the gentler effect from the major symptoms such as depression, and anxiety, and stress.  The ability to be more productive and sustain a job or living or income is a greater positive result for some of us.

For me, stopping one medication because I don’t like the mild side-effects had more of a damaging effect on my life and by extension my family. Sometimes, I’m not sure how each med will react with my-individual-personal-body-makeup till I try it.  Still, at other times, I’ve tried what works and did not care about the waistline–feeling my life is on the line–from the suicidal behavior/suicidal symptoms triggered. – Chato Stewart

Does that make the side-effects any less intrusive in our lives?  In fact, I hate all the side-effects! and consistently make jokes and cartoons about the different side-effects that I’ve endured. Bearing in mind, it’s not just the issue of medication side-effects. I, personally, have to take into consideration while taking medications I have had long periods of mental stability which has allowed me to work…which I believe contributed to a better life, one less-dominated by my symptoms.

It’s not perfect, my life is still affected by my Bipolar symptoms, but not as severe. Bipolar symptoms are more manageable– thanks, in part, to my medications.  The other part is hard work on educating myself about my condition along with building a network of support.

Let’s take a closer look at one particular side-effect that is the most irritating to me and my waistline… Weight gain!

Meds Weight Gain 1 | Meds Weight Gain 2 | Meds Weight Gain 3              

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[Bipolar, Depression, and Anxiety Disorder Medications Plus Weight Gain]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14915 2017-10-19T19:26:23Z 2017-10-19T20:02:34Z Do medications make you voracious?  Wanting or devouring great quantities of food? Meds Weight Gain 1 | Meds Weight Gain 2 | Meds Weight Gain 3        Voracious  […]]]>

Do medications make you voracious?  Wanting or devouring great quantities of food?

Chato Stewart Mental Health Humor Cartoon

Insatiable Appetite-Weight Gain Mental Health Humor cartoon- by Chato Stewart Over-Medicated

Meds Weight Gain 1 | Meds Weight Gain 2 | Meds Weight Gain 3       

Voracious  Synonyms:    
insatiable, unquenchable, unappeasable, prodigious, uncontrollable, compulsive, gluttonous, greedy, rapacious; enthusiastic, eager, keen, avid, desirous, hungry, ravenous; informal: piggish.

If you were prescribed any medications for Bipolar Disorder, Anxiety or Depression, chances are one of the medicines (if not all) had a little side-effect associated to it called…weight gain.

To be clear, what type of medications are we talking about?  Some mood stabilizers with the side-effect of weight gain include the following: lithium (Lithobid), valproic acid (Depakene), divalproex sodium (Depakote), carbamazepine (Tegretol, Equetro), olanzapine (Zyprexa), risperidone (Risperdal), quetiapine (Seroquel). Also, many SSRI’s and antidepressants will cause weight gain. 

There is a long list, but it’s best to ask “your” doctor about each medication.

Weight gain and Bipolar medication, sometimes, they are hand-in-hand.  Some of the side-effects can be drastic; we’re talking about 15, 30, 50, to 100 pounds or more.  I know this because I live it!  I have had weeks and months of an insatiable appetite.

The insatiable voracious appetite was medication induced.  Nothing appeased my furious appetite! I remember eating everything eatable in the house one day being still hungry and then ate a frozen pizza…still frozen. I couldn’t wait to cook it.  All I felt was: I MUST EAT EVERYTHING!!

That was my epiphany moment! I talked with my doctor as soon as possible and we adjusted the medications.  The binge eating didn’t entirely stop, not till I maxed out at 405 pounds.  I’ve been fighting the “losing weight” battle for more than 30 years.  In 2013, I was asked if I was “weak-willed or lazy” my reply:

“I am not Lazy!  It takes a lot of work to get to 400lbs!” – Chato Stewart

Not being balanced, and the meditations and poor understanding of food and diet don’t help the situation either.  I would have small successes, but then significant defeats in the weight loss game.

Meds Weight Gain 1 | Meds Weight Gain 2 | Meds Weight Gain 3              

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[5 Things To Do Today If Medications Are Putting On The Pounds?]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14916 2017-10-19T19:39:48Z 2017-10-19T20:01:09Z What Can You Do If Medications Are Putting On the Pounds? Meds Weight Gain 1 | Meds Weight Gain 2 | Meds Weight Gain 3        Recovery is […]]]>

What Can You Do If Medications Are Putting On the Pounds?

Chato Stewart Mental Health Humor Cartoon

Insatiable Appetite-Weight Gain Mental Health Humor cartoon- by Chato Stewart Over-Medicated

Meds Weight Gain 1 | Meds Weight Gain 2 | Meds Weight Gain 3       

Recovery is a process and one that takes a lot of hard work!  A road with many hills and valleys; with many twists and turns.  Weight gain and weight management have to be part of the recovery process.  Healing the mind has to include the whole body! Mind, body, and soul approach…it’s a concept that I didn’t fully appreciate until I started on my road to recovery.  Along the way, I thought I was getting it, till a relapse back to the old way.

Here are 5 Things To Do Today If Medications Are Putting On the Pounds.  Each point has helped me along the way: please learn from my errors and share your own successes (failures we can learn from also), please share yours below in the comments.

  1. Talk to the Doctor about weight gain: If you get any prescription, one question should be if the medication causes weight gain. Talk with your doctor about other methods to reach your goal or other medications that have a natural weight effect.  You may not have a choice, you might have to try it to figure out what your body is going to do, but, at least, you can make an informed decision.

Dig Deeper See:

Preventing and Reversing Weight Gain Associated with Psychiatric Medications

  1. Watch Your Weight! If you are starting a prescription medication or tweaking your meds–weigh you.  Write it on the bottle on the new medication and if you see a spike in the weight: 5lbs or more, talk to your doctor. (DO NOT STOP TAKING AY MEDICATION UNLESS INSTRUCTED TO BY YOUR MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL.)

 

  1. GO GREEN! This one was so hard for me, but start eating healthy, or healthier. One of the best ways is to go green or add salads or fresh greens into your diet till it becomes a lifestyle.

Dig Deeper See:

Brain Awareness Week: Super Brain Food #brainweek

  1. Cut out the Sugar; If you’re big like me, sugary sweets can be a threat to health and wellness and waistline. One bite of a cookie and I can crave sugar for days.  About 4 years or more ago, I started out small and slowly cut down on my soda drinking.  Normally would drink a 2 ltr. with every meal.  Once I got off soda, I felt so much better and my moods seemed to be a bit more stable.   Years later, I can’t even sip a soda, it tastes like acid.  I drink water and add a little crystal light flavor.

Dig Deeper See:

Diabetes and Bipolar is Serious: 10 Foods that Lower Blood Sugar

Your Moods, Sugar and Your Brain

 

  1. Exercise! I’m not talking about going to a gym. But try and add movement into every day.  Walk around the office, take the stairs instead of the elevator.  Invest in a Step Tracker to follow your progress and to keep you motivated.  The more I move that better I feel.  Go outside for a short walk around the block or even around the house or someday I can only walk to the mailbox and back.

Dig Deeper See:

How To Lose Weight On Antipsychotic Medications

We all understand weight gain might be unavoidable with our medications to help manage our symptoms.  Nevertheless, we can take proactive steps to gain some control over weight gain.  Talking to your doctor is a primary step, eating healthy, and being active.  A very important key that connects them all is support from family, loved ones, and peers.

I want you to share your story with me, I know there are many who are fighting that same weight battle I am. I also know that many are very successful.

What have you done to cure the munchies or the monster that is a voracious appetite?

Meds Weight Gain 1 | Meds Weight Gain 2 | Meds Weight Gain 3              

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[Reflection On My Friday 13th]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14904 2017-10-13T21:05:35Z 2017-10-13T21:05:35Z Reflecting on today, being Friday 13th. I could not help to think about my recent experience with Hurricane Irma. Is it me, or does it seems like Mother Nature has had a […]]]>

Reflecting on today, being Friday 13th. I could not help to think about my recent experience with Hurricane Irma. Is it me, or does it seems like Mother Nature has had a string of bad luck lately? It’s been a year of wild weather, from heatwaves to hurricane one after another, even earthquakes, and now wildfires.

2012 Mental Health Humor - April Friday 13 Looks Like Your LUCK Is About To Change - by Chato Stewart 455

What else will she toss at us?

Well, with the weather comes resiliency, recovery and for many rebuilding.

As for today, a little bad luck, it will pass…

Maybe like a golf ball size kidney stone, but it will pass.

Chato Stewart

 

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[Medications: Hear No Evil]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14865 2017-09-19T16:40:19Z 2017-09-19T16:40:19Z “I’m fine, but I’m bipolar. I’m on seven medications, and I take medication three times a day. This constantly puts me in touch with the illness I have. I’m never […]]]>

I’m fine, but I’m bipolar. I’m on seven medications, and I take medication three times a day. This constantly puts me in touch with the illness I have. I’m never quite allowed to be free of that for a day. It’s like being a diabetic.” ―Carrie Fisher

Hear No Evil|See No Evil|Speak No Evil

Hear No Evil: NO MEDS, now what???

NO MEDS, now what??? I hear this all the time, people run out of meds, these little evil pills that we must have to try and feel better. For many, medications are a necessary evil. WE DON’T WANT to take them, but without them, we can’t function. The symptoms we experience from our diagnosis makes it hard to function.  Sometimes the meds stop working, sometimes they quit altogether, but we don’t give up. We try to find something, anything that will give us some relief.

Mental Health Humor by Chato Stewart

In June, I lost coverage for my bipolar medication, the medication I need to stay balanced.  Meds that considerably silence the thoughts of suicidal ideation, and other distorted thinking. Meditations that I’ve taken for years.  It did not take long before I could feel the symptoms.

 

Hear No Evil (Home)| Continue to See No Evil|Continue to Speak No Evil

Reference
¹ Meghan Rabbitt (2016). 6 medications that cause weight gain— and how you can fight back. Prevention. Retrieved on September 19, 2017, from http://www.foxnews.com/health/2016/09/05/6-medications-that-cause-weight-gain-and-how-can-fight-back.html

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[Medications: See No Evil]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14881 2017-09-19T16:39:56Z 2017-09-19T16:39:56Z The other thing is that if you rely solely on medication to manage depression or anxiety, for example, you have done nothing to train the mind, so that when you […]]]>

The other thing is that if you rely solely on medication to manage depression or anxiety, for example, you have done nothing to train the mind, so that when you come off the medication, you are just as vulnerable to a relapse as though you had never taken the medication. ~ DANIEL GOLEMAN, author

Hear No Evil|See No Evil|Speak No Evil

See No Evil: Medication Life Lesson

See me taking my meds day in and day out, some days I would feel like I’m in a lab experiment.  After taking meditations for many years, this has taught me a few life lessons.  Let me share them with the help of my Mental Health Humor Cartoons featuring The Family Stew and Over-Medicated series.

My Medication Life Lesson:

The Family Stew

Mental Health Humor by Chato Stewart

My Medication Life Lesson No. 1:  Not all medication works the same, obviously.  It can take some time to find the right combo… During this time, it could feel like we are always tweaking and adding meds.  But fear not, in time, many of us find the right Medication Combo for us.  It required me sticking to the medication program before I got the right mix.  So my lesson is: not giving up too early on meds and write them all off cause of mild, non-life threatening, somewhat normal side-effects.

Mental Health Humor

My Medication Life Lesson No. 2:  Know what side-effects to expect from the medication.  Know you can ask for a different medication if you believe that medication is wrong for you.  For instance, some meds trigger an uncontrollable appetite with me, I would eat everything edible in the house and still feel hungry.  So, I try to avoid medications that cause weight gain.  For example, some selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) namely ProzacZoloft, and Paxil are known for high weight gain.

Mental Health Humor

Shilpi Agarwal, MD, a board-certified family physician in Washington, DC, suggests: “to make sure you get an accurate starting weight before you even fill the prescription, and once you start taking it, check your weight again in 2 weeks,” she says. “A lot of people gain weight without even realizing it, and if you don’t catch it until you’re 6 weeks in, that could mean you’re up 10 or more pounds.

 

Over-Medicated

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6 types of medications that tend to cause weight gain.

  • Antidepressants
  • Birth Control
  • Beta blockers
  • Steroids
  • Antihistamines
  • Migraine-prevention meds 
      • ¹  6 medications that cause weight gain— and how you can fight back. Prevention

My Medication Life Lesson No. 3:  More about side-effects: you have them then many of them will subside in time. Talk to your doctor if you have any, especially suicidal thoughts or have extreme things happen. (i.e. an allergic reaction or a rash of any type.)  Here are some cartoons that depict some of my side-effects.  Note: do not stop taking your meditation until you talk to your doctor or other professional. 

Over-Medicated

Re-Reading Between the Lines of Medications

Over-Medicated

Sooner or later every bully meets their match

Over-Medicated

Over-Medicated

Psychtoon,medication,over-medicated

Over-Medicated

Over-Medicated

Over-Medicated

Strange But Useful Medication Side-Effects Over-Medicated

 

Mental Health Humor

Depression Test Cartoons by Chato B. Stewart

Without the meds, I get the feeling the symptoms start overtaking me. I can quickly start spiraling down quickly into a dark depression.

And just when I thought, I would be out of all my pills I got my coverage back. I got the prescriptions filled; crisis averted.

Hear No Evil (Home)| Top of See No Evil| Continue to See No Evil

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[Medications: Speak No Evil]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14882 2017-09-19T16:39:45Z 2017-09-19T16:39:45Z People like you are the reason people like me need medication. Charlie Bartlett — The Snark Handbook: A Reference Guide to Verbal Sparring Hear No Evil|See No Evil|Speak No Evil Speak No […]]]>

People like you are the reason people like me need medication.

Charlie Bartlett — The Snark Handbook: A Reference Guide to Verbal Sparring

Hear No Evil|See No Evil|Speak No Evil

Speak No Evil: Medication The Lesser Evil

As for me, medication is a necessary evil.  I am prescribed about 14 different medications. Some medication for health issues and some prescribed for Mental Health issues and some to offset the side-effects of other meds.  I hope to stop using some of the medication soon as my weight goes down!  Nevertheless, there will always be medications I must take to stay well and balanced.  I’m okay with that fact…for now.

Are you Taking to many meds? Cartoon by Chato Stewart

Hear No Evil (Home)| Back to See No Evil|Top of Speak No Evil

 

 

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[Happy National Cheeseburger Day!]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14868 2017-09-18T23:09:05Z 2017-09-18T23:08:16Z Mayor McCheese’s least favorite holiday – National Cheeseburger Day.  Did you know that Americans eat around fifty billion (50,000,000,000) burgers a year!!! but today is National Cheeseburger Day. For National Cheeseburger Day, […]]]>

Mayor McCheese’s least favorite holiday – National Cheeseburger Day. 

Did you know that Americans eat around fifty billion (50,000,000,000) burgers a year!!! but today is National Cheeseburger Day.

For National Cheeseburger Day, I thought it would be fun to see where the biggest Hamburgers can be found on a menu.

This massive burger broke the record for the largest commercially available hamburger.  Sold at Mallie’s Sports Grill in Southgate, Michigan set the record weighing in at 164.8 lbs.

Photo is a screenshot of the video Largest hamburger commercially available – Classics

 

What is your favorite type of cheeseburger?

GET Free or Discounter Burgers on National Cheeseburger Day!

Today Time published an article where you could get free or discounted burgers.  I was surprised to find out that McDonald’s and Burger King aren’t participating (at least not on a national level).  Nevertheless, you can still get a good deal today…Here are a few places they mentioned for “free cheeseburger upgrades, cheeseburger eating challenges, special cheeseburger promotional pricing—and yes, some offers for totally free cheeseburgers“.

Here are the deals:

Applebee’s:  National Cheeseburger Day, Monday the September 18th ONLY: Burgers discounted to a flat price of $6.99.

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BurgerFi: National Cheeseburger Day, Monday the September 18th ONLY— Mention the National Cheeseburger Day special offer at the register, and get one $5 burger!

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Dog Haus: National Cheeseburger Day, Monday the September 18th ONLY. “Make it a double with cheese” customers get an upgrade from a single for free.

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Fuddrucker’s:  National Cheeseburger Day, Monday the September 18th ONLY. Can you eat a 3-Pound Burger? Take on the Challenge at Fuddrucker’s it a 3-lb. burger with a 1-lb. order of fries and endless Coca-Cola beverages for $24.99. Finish within one hour and get a $20 gift card and a T-shirt boasting your awesome abilities.

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The Restaurants that are  listed in the Time article are:

Hwy 55: From 5 p.m. until closing on Monday, Lil’ Cheeseburgers at Hwy 55 are just 55 cents apiece (normal price: $3.39). Each Lil’ Cheeseburger can be accompanied with up to 13 toppings, including lettuce, tomato, onion, chili, and grilled mushrooms.

Ninety-Nine Restaurant & Pub: Cheeseburgers with your choice of American, Swiss, or cheddar cheese are $5 each on National Cheeseburger Day.

Shake Shack: From 11 a.m. to 2 p.m. on Monday, Shack Burgers are free when ordered and delivered by DoorDash. Enter the promo code SHACK at checkout.

http://time.com/money/4944003/national-cheeseburger-day-deals-free-burgers/

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[Dealing with Irma – Till My Return: Check Out Some Mental Health Humor Cartoons]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14849 2017-09-09T06:22:44Z 2017-09-10T13:30:17Z Emoticon Emoji Hits The FanThe featured Mental Health Humor cartoon may say what’s about to happen to me and my family…With Hurricane Irma coming this weekend, the proverbial $h!T is about to hit the […]]]> Emoticon Emoji Hits The Fan

The featured Mental Health Humor cartoon may say what’s about to happen to me and my family…With Hurricane Irma coming this weekend, the proverbial $h!T is about to hit the fan!!!   I thought it might be a good time to share some of my recent favorite Mental Health Humor cartoons.

I thought it might be a good time to share some of my recent favorite Mental Health Humor cartoons. With you, keep laughing, and keep me and everyone in the path of this batch of Hurricanes in your thoughts and prayers!

Mental Health Humor Cartoons

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[Cone Of Uncertainty: Category Five Hurricane Heading My Way]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14844 2017-09-09T20:10:25Z 2017-09-09T03:19:40Z “The shrewd person sees the danger and conceals himself, but the inexperienced keep right on going and suffer the consequences.” —Proverbs 27:12. Water is one of the most important items […]]]>

“The shrewd person sees the danger and conceals himself, but the inexperienced keep right on going and suffer the consequences.” —Proverbs 27:12.

Water is one of the most important items you MUST have before a hurricane.  What else is recommended for a DISASTER KIT?

Your disaster kit should include at least 3 days worth of food/water/medications for each member of the family including pets. (One gallon of water per person (or pet) per day.) Pack puzzle books, playing cards or board games to pass the time. Have a battery operated radio and new batteries to be able to monitor emergency messages before, during and after the storm? ~ ◊ Charlotte County Board of County Commissioners 

Irma is making history.  Fifty-mile wide eye, and over 200 miles from edge to edge. Category Five storm, with maximum, sustained 185 mph winds and gusts of more than 200 mph as of 5 p.m. ET Tuesday.  It is heading to Florida…what part of Florida is not certain, but we all have to assume we are going to get impacted. It’s a deadly hurricane-force wind, rain fall, and dangerous storm surge is expected from this “monster” storm.

In my area,  Everyone is going wild buying up water, food, and other items.  Including me! How this hurricane is going to affect us in the south it too soon to tell.  Nevertheless, preparing for the Hurricane is vital and could be life-saving.  With Texas so fresh in everyone’s mind, this has caused an almost panic state of mind for some many.

I have gone through about a number of Florida Hurricanes, and tropical storms.  The worst year was 2004, August 13, 2004 – Hurricane Charley hit.  Charley hit Punta Gorda and before hand had me barricading our bathroom with our beds until the house may start shaking.  We abandoned that idea to ride it out in the bathroom and rushed down to a shelter.  Hurricane Charley, Catagory 4 almost leveled some parts of the Punta Gorda area.  Hurricane Irma has the potential to devastate the large portion of the state.

What does Hurricane Preparation involve?

By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail. ~ Benjamin Franklin

If we fail to prepare now, then if it hits, surviving the storm and the aftermath is greatly increased…decreased.

Frist getting in the mindset not to panic no matter what happens.  The mental preparation is that my loved one and family are at risk or injury or even death.  It is too late to prepare after a hurricane.  Doing this helps to keep safety first.

  • Know where shelters are.

  • Consider if my home is hurricane safe.

  • Make sure there is not anything outside that could be hazards in high winds.

  •  Have batteries and flash lights ready.

In a Hurricane, you could lose power for a day or even a week or more.  With out power, you can’t do a lot of basic things that we don’t realize till it happens. Without power, you would lose water, without water not only can’t you take a shower, but you lose the use of the toilet.

What can you do if you have to do, dodo?  

Before the hurricane, it is recommended to fill your tub with water.  Get a bucket (one gallon works best, but if all you have is a 5 gallon that is fine.)

Hurrican power outage or interruption of water service you can flush your toilet manually.
Force it with a bucket and a gallon of water. Here’s how to do it:
  1. Lift the toilet seat and lid and rest them back against the front of the toilet’s tank. …
  2. Fill a bucket with 1 gallon of water from the bathtub or from a water jug.
  3. Dump the gallon of water into the toilet’s bowl in one thrust. Pouring the water in slowly will only fill the bowl, while heaving the water in is unnecessary and will create a mess. The goal is to provide as much force as an ordinary flush.
  4. Repeat dumping in another gallon of water if necessary to clean the bowl of any residue. Wipe any water that has splashed onto the toilet’s rim or floor with a paper towel. ~ ◊◊ How to Flush a Toilet Using a Bucket of Water

What is recommended to have on hand before a hurricane?

  • Keep at least three gallons (11 L) of water per person
  • Three days of non-perishable, ready-to-eat foods.
  • Medication – make sure you enough for a week or more.
  • Prepared “go bags” and have it at the door or already in your car/truck or van.

What you should have for your Hurricane “go bags”?

  • Blankets, complete change of warm clothes, and sturdy shoe
  • Flashlight, radio (battery or wind up), and spare batteries
  • First-aid kit and a whistle to signal for help
  • Eating utensils, can opener, pocket tool set, and waterproof matches
  • Dust masks, waterproof tape, and plastic sheeting for shelter
  • Toothbrushes, soap, towels, and toilet paper
  • Child-care supplies and special-needs items for seniors or the disabled
  • A waterproof container with needed medication, copies of prescriptions, and other important documents
  • List of emergency contacts and meeting places and a local map
  • Credit cards and cash
  • Extra set of house keys and car keys
  • Paper, pencils, books, and games for children
  • Bible   ◊◊◊When Disaster Strikes —Steps That Can Save Lives

To that end, I joined the county emergency notification alerts…

I’m prepping for Hurricane Irma.., spent an hour in line for water. Got some can foods, gassed up the car and got the life jackets out. I might get the canoe ready depending on where Irma goes and the rain. So I am ready as I can be, now I hope she misses us! If you’re in the path, be safe. Irma is due to hit us Saturday.

Wind speeds of hurricanes:
Storm Category Winds
TROPICAL STORM 39-73 mph
CAT 1 74-95 mph
CAT 2 96-110 mph
CAT 3 111-130 mph
CAT 4 131-155 mph
CAT 5 Over 155 mph

 

 Reference
◊ Charlotte County Board of County Commissioners (2017). Know Your Zone. Charlotte County. Retrieved on September 5, 2017, from http://www.charlottefl.com/stormsurgesearch/Default.aspx 

◊◊ Jennifer Pinto (2012). How to Flush a Toilet Using a Bucket of Water. San Francisco Chronicle. Retrieved on September 5, 2017, from   http://homeguides.sfgate.com/flush-toilet-using-bucket-water-24695.html

◊◊◊  JW.ORG (2017). When Disaster Strikes —Steps That Can Save Lives. Awake! Retrieved on September 5, 2017, from   https://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/awake-no5-2017-october/disaster-steps-that-can-save-lives/#link0

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[Labor-less Day]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14829 2017-09-04T01:16:15Z 2017-09-04T01:12:19Z The Family Stew Cartoon: Caption: Labor-Less Day What do you do for fun on Labor-Less Day?  I have fond memories… Thinking back visualizing myself back there having fun with my family. […]]]>

The Family Stew Cartoon:
Caption: Labor-Less Day

What do you do for fun on Labor-Less Day?  I have fond memories… Thinking back visualizing myself back there having fun with my family.  It feels goods, and it’s good for our mental health to jog our memory.

Labor Day

Gowing up, Labor Day was the last hurra-day, the last time to have fun was on Labor Day! School started after Labor Day in Massachusets.  Not sure if it’s true anymore, here in Florida my kids went back to school about a month ago. Still, I have fond memories of the family going to Wingaersheek Beach in Gloucester (How a real New Englander pronounces “Gloucester”, *Glaw-St-a*), Massachusets.

In the early 80’s my family would go one or two times a year, I could never pronounce Wingaersheek. I would chant the last part of the word to “Wingaer$h!T.” Needless to say, my parents were not happy, but I was too young (9 -10ish) to truly appreciate my word slippage.  I just knew it made my parents laugh, so I kept saying it.  It wasn’t often that I could make them both laugh, so I remember this memory fondly.

Sand Dollars Everywhere!

It was at the beach I discovered Sand dollars.  At low tide, they were everywhere.   My sisters and I would collect them in the buckets.  Bring them home and boil and bleach them.

Recently, my family visited Fort Myers Beach here in Florida.  The kids and Mom (Joan Winifred) collect all types of Sea Shells on the beach.  Some of the Sea Shell we could identify from a shell bag we bought. They found: Pear Whelks, Chestnut Latirus, Fig Shell, Sentis Scallop, Apple Murex and Florida Cone to name a few.

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And on the first day, my oldest daughter got stung by a stingray in her finger.

How did she get it on her finger?  We (my kids and me) were diving for Sand dollars. We had a bunch, and I was thinking back to my childhood and all the fun we had fun finding them.  Well, first I should let you know my daughter was/is okay.  The place we were staying had an info book and in it was instructions on what to do if someone gets stung.

On the back page was information about Sand Dollar (or how I say it *Sanddaller*.)  One I wish I read sooner. Turns out: it is illegal to collect LIVE Sand Dollars, the fine is $50.00 per Sand Dollar.  OMG! I might know someone that had a few Sand Dollars, and I might know someone who rushed back to the beach and went back into the water and gently placed the Sand Dollars back into the Ocean.  All were alive and well this unknown person told me.  I say alive and well, unharmed, and safely back in the ocean.

The next day the entire family and I went for a bike ride down to the end of the beach.  There is a public park and that is when I found the sign below.  I wish someone read this sooner.  The family stuck to collecting legal DEAD Sea Shells.

What memories of Labor Day do you have?

What memories of Labor Day do You have?  (Labor-less Day)

Feel free to share them in the comments below.

I know in some areas people organize barbecues, sports events or watch football.  Some places even have fireworks displays during Labor Day weekend.

Reference

Sea Shell ID – Publisher Unknown | Photo By Chato Stewart 8/6/2017 | https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/files/2017/09/Sea-Shell-ID-Chart.jpg

The Family Stew Cartoon by Chato Stewart 9/3/2017

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[How To Deal With A Narcissist]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14793 2017-09-01T01:19:14Z 2017-09-01T01:31:52Z The ugly face of Narcissist is exposed between the relationship prescription and non-prescription drug. Narcissist prescription drug: Hey, useless, this placebo a friend of yours? Sugar Cub: PHONY! Caption: “no medication to […]]]>

The ugly face of Narcissist is exposed between the relationship prescription and non-prescription drug.
Narcissist prescription drug: Hey, useless, this placebo a friend of yours?
Sugar Cub: PHONY!
Caption: “no medication to stop the diseased Narcissist”

Narcissists especially noted for commanding use of negative, cynical and pessimistic views about life.  Your life,  in particular, might be the brunt of their attack. In attack, narcissists seem proficient and talented in the art of Sarcasm. It’s a narcissistic go to tool. They are extremely efficient in their specialty use of Sarcasm to crush others self-esteem and put them down.  So, what can the victim of Narcissistic Abuse do?

How To Deal With A Narcissist and Narcissistic Abuse

One common type of narcissistic abuse is being the focus of attack from a narcissist will undoubtedly be skillful and impressive with the use of a multilevel assault to tear you down, slice you and stab our heart with their harsh tongue. The narcissist is talented in the art of Sarcasm. It’s a narcissistic go to tool. They are extremely efficient in their specialty use of Sarcasm to crush others self-esteem and put them down.

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How To Deal With A Narcissist? 

Will the True Narcissist Please Stand Up… Good, now here is the best way to deal with a narcissist or someone with narcissistic tendencies?
Holly Brown, a marriage, and family therapist in the San Francisco Bay area give us the following suggestion on *How To Deal with the Narcissist in Your Life*.
  • Recognize that your feelings are valid and important.
  • Stand up for yourself, again and again, even if they’re not listening.
  • Devise clear boundaries, explain them, and enforce them.
  • Don’t give up things that matter to you, no matter what the narcissist thinks about it.
  • Give an ultimatum (but only if you mean it.)

Is there any hope for a narcissist or someone with narcissistic tendencies?

I love Holly’s reply to his comment on the post:

Can narcissists be healed, i.e. is there any hope down the road and is it worth waiting for someone to change? – comment on the post How To Deal with the Narcissist in Your Life

Here is how Holly Brown answered this question

With any personality disorder, treatment can be tricky and long-term. Usually, narcissists don’t present for treatment (they don’t think they have a problem, they think others around them are too sensitive or otherwise to blame.) But if a person is truly motivated to change and willing to do all the work that entails, then healing is always possible. I can’t say what the time frame is, though, or whether it’s worth it for you to wait. There are no guarantees in mental health and relationships, unfortunately. But I wish you all the best in making the right decision for you.

Are you a Narcissist?

The Psych Central Narcissistic Personality Disorder Test / Quiz and find out.

Reference
*Brown, H. (2014). How To Deal with the Narcissist in Your Life. Psych Central. Retrieved on August 31, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/bonding-time/2014/03/how-to-deal-with-the-narcissist-in-your-life/

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[Add A Punchline: Narcissists Joke]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14814 2017-09-01T01:33:23Z 2017-09-01T01:30:32Z How To Deal With A Narcissist | Narcissists Joke | Secret Lie of Narcissists | Ways Your A Narcissistic Narcissists | More | Even More Narcissists Joke: Add Your PunchLine Humor can be […]]]>

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Narcissists Joke: Add Your PunchLine

Humor can be empowering, and since narcissist can be about taking power away from other.  It may be a fun and empower you to think about this joke and add your own punchline in the comments below.

How many narcissists does it take to change a light bulb?
Punchline: Just one, but they’ll blame the whole world for making it burn out.
Punchline: One, They hold the light bulb up while the whole world revolves around them.
Punchline: 10, but they all praise themselves so long for their great accomplishment until the light burns out again. 
“How many narcissists does it take to change a light bulb?” Add a punchline in the comments below.

Are you a Narcissist?

The Psych Central Narcissistic Personality Disorder Test / Quiz and find out.

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[Chato Stewart – I lost 60lbs and am Now Doing The Keto Diet: What’s the best benefit?]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14796 2017-08-31T21:16:12Z 2017-08-31T23:08:02Z Many of my readers know that I’m a big guy that has been trying to lose weight for a LONG TIME!  The last year, my weight has gone up and down with […]]]>

Many of my readers know that I’m a big guy that has been trying to lose weight for a LONG TIME!  The last year, my weight has gone up and down with no stability and my Diabetes maxed out at an unhealthy and dangerous 400 mg/dL (Milligrams per Deciliter).  The Normal range is 70 to 100 milligrams per deciliter.

Our blood sugar is considered a normal range at 70 mg/dL to 100 milligrams per deciliter.  For the past year or more mine has been in the 200+  to 300+ mg/dL.

if blood sugar gets up above 180 to 200, then it exceeds the capacity of the kidneys to reabsorb the glucose and we begin to spill glucose into the urine. And if it gets way up high, up in the 400s or even 500s, it can be associated with some alteration in mental function. And in this situation, if it persists for a long time, we can actually see mental changes as well. So either too low or very exceedingly high can cause changes in mental function.”– EDWARD S. HORTON M.D

Chato Stewart, Me, I’ve been on a diet/life style change since 2013. My max weight was 405lbs. Always Up and down with my weight. Most everything I try failed after two weeks. And I was stuck at 360-ish Lbs.

March 30, 2012

Chato Stewart last Diet was MedievalYou havent dieted till you've done the medieval diet

Chato Stewart and Diabetes

For the last month, I’ve tried the Keto (ketogenic) diet. Mostly for my out-of-control Diabetes, my A1C maxed out at 11. And I could never get my sugar under 200.

Today, after one month on the Keto diet, my A1C is down to 8 points.  I am eating till I’m full and I can have food I like, so I don’t feel deprived.

Chato Stewart and Pizza and Keto Diet the Best Benefit?

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I have had a long standing relationship with PIZZA.  It has been there to cheer me up, it has helped validate me, and and it took care of all many other emotional needs at all hours of the day.  The problem was I turned to pizza as a solution to my many issues.  Sadly, I eat it for the wrong reason, and I could never stop at one slice, well, unless you consider the whole pie as one slice.

The pizza shop called wanting to know if they can close now

The Keto Diet What’s the best benefit?

On the Ketogenic Diet, I had to give up Pizza (for a while).  Along with high carb’s like bread, wheat, and starches.  How could I do it I thought.  Yet, after a month sticking to the basics of low carbs and high fat I don’t miss Pizza at all. The best benefit for me is controlling diabetes.  I feel better, even walked 2 miles (walking is something I could not do before.)

Over all I don’t feel hungry, I’m not craving sweets and I get to eat MEAT! Lots of meat and cheese, yum!

My Favorite food is stuffed mushroom:

The stuffing is a mix of Cream Cheese with Feta, bacon, and spinach.

 

 

 

 

And Salad with lots and lots of tomatoes!

 

 

 

My goal is to keep on the diet, one that allows me to eat bacon and maybe I will get under 300 pounds for the first time in 20+ years.

Not only has this saved me money but as of today I’m down 5lbs (but I know I put on weight before I started so the number for the last month is really 10lbs or more lost.)  This brings my total weight loss to 60lbs since 2013. My new weight is 345.

Starting this week, I’m recording all my meals. I did not do it for the last month so I could get into keto diet without having to think about how much I was eating. I just used the strips to be sure I was in Ketosis.

I’ll keep you posted.

Please, if you are doing the Keto Diet or have in the past, please share helpful suggestions or recipes in the comments. Thanks.

Chato Stewart

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[Narcissism: Secret Lie of Narcissists Narcissistic]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14647 2017-09-01T01:38:30Z 2017-08-31T03:32:15Z One of the most popular topics these days is Narcissism or being Narcissistic. It’s like the hot psychology topic! Yes, it seems everyone knows someone who fits the Narcissism criteria or […]]]>

One of the most popular topics these days is Narcissism or being Narcissistic. It’s like the hot psychology topic! Yes, it seems everyone knows someone who fits the Narcissism criteria or is narcissistic; Isn’t that true? Well, a Google search for “narcissistic” reveals that over 21 Million websites sites and blogs are talking about Narcissism.

So everyone and their brother are getting narcissist about narcissists! It would seem we have an epidemic of global proportion. But who is actually experiencing the effects of the Narcissistic Personality Disorder?

What Causes Narcissism

According to Samuel Lopez De Victoria, Ph.D.

“Everybody has narcissism in them; The point is if you have too little narcissism (self-love) you have a low self-esteem. If you have too much narcissism than your extreme egotist and your egocentric. If you have just a little bit of narcissism then it’s healthy self-respect.” Dr. Sam | HOW TO SPOT A NARCISSIST!

Samuel Lopez De Victoria, Ph.D better known as Dr. Sam has a good point… Everyone has the trait of narcissism to some degree. Yes, Everyone is narcissistic!  This reminded me of that part in the movie The Incredibles when Syndrome says, when “Everyone can be super! And when everyone’s super.” Then “no one will be!”  Just replace the “super” and say when Everyone is Narcissistic! And when everyone’s Narcissistic.” Then “no one will be!

Syndrome: I’ll give them heroics. I’ll give them the most spectacular heroics anyone’s ever seen! And when I’m old and I’ve had my fun, I’ll sell my inventions so that everyone can be superheroes. *Everyone* can be super! And when everyone’s super…[laughs maniacally]…*no one* will be. – The Incredibles (2004)*

Ultimately the lie of narcissism is not a secret anymore, cause we are all narcissistic to some degree.  It’s the people that take it to the extreme (Narcissus) truly define the Cluster B Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

See the following for lists of Ways Your A Narcissistic Narcissist.

Home |Ways Your A Narcissistic Narcissists | More | Even More|How To Deal With A Narcissist | Narcissists Joke

Are you a Narcissist?

The Psych Central Narcissistic Personality Disorder Test / Quiz and find out.

 

 Reference

The Incredibles (2004)

with Athena Staik, Ph.D.

Staik, A. (2016). 3 Secrets to Outsmarting a Narcissist (By Not Trying to). Psych Central. Retrieved on July 31, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/relationships/2016/05/3-secrets-of-outsmarting-a-narcissist-by-not-trying-to/

Narcissism Decoded

with Dan Neuharth, Ph.D.

Neuharth, D. (2017). 11 Ways Narcissists and Alcoholics are Similar. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 17, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/narcissism-decoded/2017/07/11-ways-narcissists-and-alcoholics-are-similar/

Recovering from a Narcissist

Recovering from a
    Narcissist

with Shahida Arabi, M.A.

Arabi, S. (2017). 5 Signs You’re Dealing with a Dangerous Narcissistic “Healer” or Guru. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 17, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/2017/07/5-signs-youre-dealing-with-a-dangerous-narcissistic-healer-or-guru/

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Narcissism Decoded

with Dan Neuharth, Ph.D.

Neuharth, D. (2017). 11 Things NOT To Do With Narcissists. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 18, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/narcissism-decoded/2017/04/11-things-not-to-do-with-narcissists/

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with Athena Staik, Ph.D.

Staik, A. (2017). Narcissistic Abuse and the Symptoms of Narcissist Victim Syndrome. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 18, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/relationships/2017/03/narcissistic-abuse-and-the-symptoms-of-narcissist-victim-syndrome/

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Hammond, C. (2017). 8 Mental Abuse Tactics Narcissists Use at Work. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 17, 2017, from https://pro.psychcentral.com/exhausted-woman/2017/07/8-mental-abuse-tactics-narcissists-use-at-work/

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DoctrSam. (2017). Why You Attract Narcissists!Psych Central. Retrieved on July 18, 2017, from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Xq1eE-t0dY

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Hill, T. (2017). 10 Unbelievable Behaviors Of The Narcissist. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 20, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/caregivers/2017/03/10-unbelievable-behaviors-of-the-narcissist/

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[Narcissism: Secret Lie of Narcissists Narcissistic]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14773 2017-09-01T01:40:32Z 2017-08-31T03:32:05Z Ways Your A Narcissistic Narcissists Home |Ways Your A Narcissistic Narcissists | More | Even More|How To Deal With A Narcissist | Narcissists Joke Secret number 1: Only a narcissist finds sheer pleasure in competing to outsmart another […]]]>

Ways Your A Narcissistic Narcissists

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  1. Secret number 1: Only a narcissist finds sheer pleasure in competing to outsmart another in the use of cruel- or chaos-causing tactics.  ( 3 Secrets to Outsmarting a Narcissist |Athena Staik)
  2. Secret number 2: From a narcissist’s vantage point, like it or not, you are viewed as a fierce competitor — and your relationship is an ongoing competition.  ( 3 Secrets to Outsmarting a Narcissist |Athena Staik)
  3. Secret number 3: The means they use to crush another’s esteem or plans .. are the end game.  ( 3 Secrets to Outsmarting a Narcissist |Athena Staik)
  4. Denial: Narcissism is characterized by iron-clad denial. (11 Ways Narcissists and Alcoholics are Similar. |Dan Neuharth) 
  5. Lack of introspection: Few narcissists are interested in self-reflection.  (11 Ways Narcissists and Alcoholics are Similar. |Dan Neuharth)
  6. Refusal to take responsibility: Narcissists are quick to blame others for making them act as they do. (11 Ways Narcissists and Alcoholics are Similar. |Dan Neuharth)
  7. Self-destructiveness: Narcissists are trapped in a non-stop holding action devoted to preserving their image.  (11 Ways Narcissists and Alcoholics are Similar. |Dan Neuharth)
  8. Narcissists Narcissistic Personality Disorder is different from an addiction in that personality disorders generally persist for life. (11 Ways Narcissists and Alcoholics are Similar. |Dan Neuharth)
  9. Narcissists engage in monopolization and sabotage of any perceived competitors. (5 Signs You’re Dealing with a Dangerous Narcissistic. |Shahida Arabi)
  10. Narcissists charge excessive costs in exchange for minimum value. (5 Signs You’re Dealing with a Dangerous Narcissistic. |Shahida Arabi)
  11. Narcissists exhibit a “their way or the highway” philosophy rather than the idea that “it takes a village.” (5 Signs You’re Dealing with a Dangerous Narcissistic. |Shahida Arabi)
  12. Narcissists They participate in unethical practices and violation of boundaries. (5 Signs You’re Dealing with a Dangerous Narcissistic. |Shahida Arabi)
  13. Narcissists provide false hope and egregiously improbable promises. (5 Signs You’re Dealing with a Dangerous Narcissistic. |Shahida Arabi)  
  14. Don’t take Narcissists at face value. (11 Things NOT To Do With Narcissists. |Dan Neuharth)
  15. Don’t overshare personal information with a Narcissists.(11 Things NOT To Do With Narcissists. |Dan Neuharth)

Are you a Narcissists?

The Psych Central Narcissistic Personality Disorder Test / Quiz and find out.

 Reference

The Incredibles (2004)

with Athena Staik, Ph.D.

Staik, A. (2016). 3 Secrets to Outsmarting a Narcissist (By Not Trying to). Psych Central. Retrieved on July 31, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/relationships/2016/05/3-secrets-of-outsmarting-a-narcissist-by-not-trying-to/

Narcissism Decoded

with Dan Neuharth, Ph.D.

Neuharth, D. (2017). 11 Ways Narcissists and Alcoholics are Similar. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 17, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/narcissism-decoded/2017/07/11-ways-narcissists-and-alcoholics-are-similar/

Recovering from a Narcissist

Recovering from a
    Narcissist

with Shahida Arabi, M.A.

Arabi, S. (2017). 5 Signs You’re Dealing with a Dangerous Narcissistic “Healer” or Guru. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 17, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/2017/07/5-signs-youre-dealing-with-a-dangerous-narcissistic-healer-or-guru/

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Narcissism Decoded

with Dan Neuharth, Ph.D.

Neuharth, D. (2017). 11 Things NOT To Do With Narcissists. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 18, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/narcissism-decoded/2017/04/11-things-not-to-do-with-narcissists/

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with Athena Staik, Ph.D.

Staik, A. (2017). Narcissistic Abuse and the Symptoms of Narcissist Victim Syndrome. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 18, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/relationships/2017/03/narcissistic-abuse-and-the-symptoms-of-narcissist-victim-syndrome/

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Hammond, C. (2017). 8 Mental Abuse Tactics Narcissists Use at Work. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 17, 2017, from https://pro.psychcentral.com/exhausted-woman/2017/07/8-mental-abuse-tactics-narcissists-use-at-work/

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DoctrSam. (2017). Why You Attract Narcissists!Psych Central. Retrieved on July 18, 2017, from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Xq1eE-t0dY

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Hill, T. (2017). 10 Unbelievable Behaviors Of The Narcissist. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 20, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/caregivers/2017/03/10-unbelievable-behaviors-of-the-narcissist/

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More Ways Your A Narcissistic Narcissists

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  1. Don’t feel a need to justify your thoughts, feelings or actions with a Narcissists.(11 Things NOT To Do With Narcissists. |Dan Neuharth)
  2. Don’t minimize a Narcissists dysfunctional behavior. (11 Things NOT To Do With Narcissists. |Dan Neuharth)
  3. Don’t expect empathy or fairness from a Narcissists.  (11 Things NOT To Do With Narcissists. |Dan Neuharth)

    Mental Health Humor cartoons by Chato Stewart

  4. Narcissists will strategize, covertly and overtly hide and blame-shift the labels of “narcissist” and “emotionally manipulative” onto their victims.  (Narcissistic Abuse and the Symptoms of Narcissist Victim Syndrome | Athena Staik)
  5. Narcissists…use language in specific ways, with a specific intent to take another’s mind and will captive.  (Narcissistic Abuse and the Symptoms of Narcissist Victim Syndrome | Athena Staik)
  6. Narcissists mental abuse tactics used frequently: Rage.Once seated, his boss stood up and unleased an intense anger over a perceived missed appointment. It was a minor… but the boss didn’t allow for any spoken words.” (8 Mental Abuse Tactics Narcissists Use at Work. | Christine Hammond)
  7. Narcissists mental abuse tactics used frequently: Gaslighting – “In the middle of a team meeting, Grace’s manager artfully wove a story about how she successfully negotiated a deal with Grace’s customer.” (8 Mental Abuse Tactics Narcissists Use at Work. | Christine Hammond)
  8. Narcissists mental abuse tactics used frequently: The Stare. (8 Mental Abuse Tactics Narcissists Use at Work. | Christine Hammond)
  9. Narcissists mental abuse tactics used frequently: Silent Treatment. (8 Mental Abuse Tactics Narcissists Use at Work. | Christine Hammond)
  10. Narcissists mental abuse tactics used frequently: Projection.(8 Mental Abuse Tactics Narcissists Use at Work. | Christine Hammond)
  11. Narcissists mental abuse tactics used frequently Twisting. “Instead of agreement, her boss said that Tina was the reason for the lack of efficiency and refused to cooperate with any suggestion. To make it worse, her boss demanded that Tina apologizes for her comments.” (8 Mental Abuse Tactics Narcissists Use at Work. | Christine Hammond)
  12. Narcissists mental abuse tactics used frequently: Manipulation. (8 Mental Abuse Tactics Narcissists Use at Work. | Christine Hammond)
  13. Narcissists mental abuse tactics used frequently: Victim Card. (8 Mental Abuse Tactics Narcissists Use at Work. | Christine Hammond)
  14. A narcissist is a wolf like a predator that feeds on people that are: Self-sacrificingA narcissist is a wolf like a predator that feeds on people that are: Emotionally open
  15. A narcissist is a wolf like a predator that feeds on people that are: Emotionally open

Are you a Narcissists?

The Psych Central Narcissistic Personality Disorder Test / Quiz and find out.

 

 Reference

The Incredibles (2004)

with Athena Staik, Ph.D.

Staik, A. (2016). 3 Secrets to Outsmarting a Narcissist (By Not Trying to). Psych Central. Retrieved on July 31, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/relationships/2016/05/3-secrets-of-outsmarting-a-narcissist-by-not-trying-to/

Narcissism Decoded

with Dan Neuharth, Ph.D.

Neuharth, D. (2017). 11 Ways Narcissists and Alcoholics are Similar. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 17, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/narcissism-decoded/2017/07/11-ways-narcissists-and-alcoholics-are-similar/

Recovering from a Narcissist

Recovering from a
    Narcissist

with Shahida Arabi, M.A.

Arabi, S. (2017). 5 Signs You’re Dealing with a Dangerous Narcissistic “Healer” or Guru. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 17, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/2017/07/5-signs-youre-dealing-with-a-dangerous-narcissistic-healer-or-guru/

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Narcissism Decoded

with Dan Neuharth, Ph.D.

Neuharth, D. (2017). 11 Things NOT To Do With Narcissists. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 18, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/narcissism-decoded/2017/04/11-things-not-to-do-with-narcissists/

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with Athena Staik, Ph.D.

Staik, A. (2017). Narcissistic Abuse and the Symptoms of Narcissist Victim Syndrome. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 18, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/relationships/2017/03/narcissistic-abuse-and-the-symptoms-of-narcissist-victim-syndrome/

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Hammond, C. (2017). 8 Mental Abuse Tactics Narcissists Use at Work. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 17, 2017, from https://pro.psychcentral.com/exhausted-woman/2017/07/8-mental-abuse-tactics-narcissists-use-at-work/

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DoctrSam. (2017). Why You Attract Narcissists!Psych Central. Retrieved on July 18, 2017, from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Xq1eE-t0dY

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Hill, T. (2017). 10 Unbelievable Behaviors Of The Narcissist. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 20, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/caregivers/2017/03/10-unbelievable-behaviors-of-the-narcissist/

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[Even More Narcissism: Secret Lie of Narcissists Narcissistic]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14775 2017-09-01T01:40:11Z 2017-08-31T03:31:46Z Even More, Ways Your A Narcissistic Narcissists Home |Ways Your A Narcissistic Narcissists | More | Even More|How To Deal With A Narcissist | Narcissists Joke A narcissist is a wolf like a predator […]]]>

Even More, Ways Your A Narcissistic Narcissists

Home |Ways Your A Narcissistic Narcissists | More | Even More|How To Deal With A Narcissist | Narcissists Joke

  1. A narcissist is a wolf like a predator that feeds on people that are: Famished or hungry for love and affection. – Samuel Lopez De Victoria, Ph.D
  2. A narcissist is a wolf like a predator that feeds on people that are: Naive people– Samuel Lopez De Victoria, Ph.D
  3. A narcissist is a wolf like a predator that feeds on people that are: People who trust anybody– Samuel Lopez De Victoria, Ph.D
  4. A narcissist is a wolf like a predator that feeds on people that are: Lonely people– Samuel Lopez De Victoria, Ph.D
  5. A narcissist is a wolf like a predator that feeds on people that are: Idealists– Samuel Lopez De Victoria, Ph.D
  6. A narcissist is a wolf like a predator that feeds on people that are: People with no boundaries making hard to distinguish predators or safe person.– Samuel Lopez De Victoria, Ph.D
  7. Narcissists will try to compete with you in any form:  will try to belittle you, reduce you, or minimize you or manipulate you and trying to control you. (10 Unbelievable Behaviors Of The Narcissist.| Támara Hill)
  8. Narcissists will see their interactions with you as a game. (10 Unbelievable Behaviors Of The Narcissist.| Támara Hill)
  9.  Narcissists will be passive-aggressive or aggressive in communication. (10 Unbelievable Behaviors Of The Narcissist.| Támara Hill)
  10. Narcissists will never give you peace: Some narcissists are so vulnerable and weak psychologically and emotionally that they will keep a disagreement or arguing going for days, months, and maybe even years. (10 Unbelievable Behaviors Of The Narcissist.| Támara Hill)
  11. Narcissists will express their 5 year old ego when they are challenged: Again, the narcissist is emotionally and psychologically immature.. (10 Unbelievable Behaviors Of The Narcissist.| Támara Hill)
  12. Narcissists will cause unnecessary drama and almost thrives on drama. (10 Unbelievable Behaviors Of The Narcissist.| Támara Hill)
  13. Narcissists will form cliques all around you to feel powerful and empowered. (10 Unbelievable Behaviors Of The Narcissist.| Támara Hill)
  14. Narcissist Will use their social and emotional intelligence to gain notoriety: embellish their accomplishments, brag, or seem very unauthentic. (10 Unbelievable Behaviors Of The Narcissist.| Támara Hill)
  15. Narcissist Will behave immaturely: Narcissistic individuals the extra mile to make trouble, get revenge, or be vindictive…empowered by … make life miserable, unbearable, or uncomfortable for everyone else. (10 Unbelievable Behaviors Of The Narcissist.| Támara Hill)
  16. Narcissist will pull in other people who are vulnerable to them to conquer and divide. (10 Unbelievable Behaviors Of The Narcissist.| Támara Hill)
  17. Entitlement Narcissists are defined by entitlement.

Are you a Narcissists?

The Psych Central Narcissistic Personality Disorder Test / Quiz and find out.

 

 Reference

The Incredibles (2004)

with Athena Staik, Ph.D.

Staik, A. (2016). 3 Secrets to Outsmarting a Narcissist (By Not Trying to). Psych Central. Retrieved on July 31, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/relationships/2016/05/3-secrets-of-outsmarting-a-narcissist-by-not-trying-to/

Narcissism Decoded

with Dan Neuharth, Ph.D.

Neuharth, D. (2017). 11 Ways Narcissists and Alcoholics are Similar. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 17, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/narcissism-decoded/2017/07/11-ways-narcissists-and-alcoholics-are-similar/

Recovering from a Narcissist

Recovering from a
    Narcissist

with Shahida Arabi, M.A.

Arabi, S. (2017). 5 Signs You’re Dealing with a Dangerous Narcissistic “Healer” or Guru. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 17, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/recovering-narcissist/2017/07/5-signs-youre-dealing-with-a-dangerous-narcissistic-healer-or-guru/

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Narcissism Decoded

with Dan Neuharth, Ph.D.

Neuharth, D. (2017). 11 Things NOT To Do With Narcissists. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 18, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/narcissism-decoded/2017/04/11-things-not-to-do-with-narcissists/

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with Athena Staik, Ph.D.

Staik, A. (2017). Narcissistic Abuse and the Symptoms of Narcissist Victim Syndrome. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 18, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/relationships/2017/03/narcissistic-abuse-and-the-symptoms-of-narcissist-victim-syndrome/

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Hammond, C. (2017). 8 Mental Abuse Tactics Narcissists Use at Work. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 17, 2017, from https://pro.psychcentral.com/exhausted-woman/2017/07/8-mental-abuse-tactics-narcissists-use-at-work/

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DoctrSam. (2017). Why You Attract Narcissists!Psych Central. Retrieved on July 18, 2017, from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Xq1eE-t0dY

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Hill, T. (2017). 10 Unbelievable Behaviors Of The Narcissist. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 20, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/caregivers/2017/03/10-unbelievable-behaviors-of-the-narcissist/

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[Are Extreme Obstacle Races Good for Your Mental Health?]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14737 2017-08-14T22:50:16Z 2017-08-08T02:51:26Z Extreme Obstacle Race“ I’m running to test my limits, NOT need to get lab tests… ” Extreme Obstacle Race, think WARRIOR DASH, SPARTAN SPRINT, TOUGH MUDDER is the Golden Goose for paid obstacle […]]]> Extreme Obstacle Race

“ I’m running to test my limits, NOT need to get lab tests… ”

Extreme Obstacle Race, think WARRIOR DASH, SPARTAN SPRINT, TOUGH MUDDER is the Golden Goose for paid obstacle race — Think about it,  people pay $72  – $256 (per person) to be covered in mud head to toe, then have to run in muds of all types and thickness. Contestants jump into icy pools of muddy water, need to scale high obstacle of all kind, leap over the wall after wall into the muddy pond below. Then there is the ever so fun belly crawl under barbwire. And you’re paying for the trip, as a way to experience life or to reach some higher-level existence.

People, this is paid torture! People are buying it in the droves and there is a rush on the market!!!

Getting caught up in the race fever excitement

Getting caught up in the race fever excitement can be easy. As I must admit, there are a lot of positive reinforcement tools that go into group obstacle courses.

I know I have enjoyed watching many shows that feature Spartan courses. I’ve loved the original ninja warrior and now the American version is entertaining. Something about obstacle courses that seem to get my attention. I just wish they would not use such offensive names when describing them.

Why does exercise always have to be described as something you do when you’re crazy, nuts or insane?

I wonder also how many of the Spartan obstacles races or muddy runwater obstacle courses are good for your Mental Health or Physical Health?

Well if you go to the cheapest costing mud run that is now a “crazy party” …Could this name possibly be offensive to any one?…”Rugged Maniac” family fun powered by MensHealth:

“race is all about having a good time with your friends and making your weekend fun and active.”

They build 25+:

“epic obstacles for you and your friends to play on (like fire jumps, water slides, trampolines, and underground tunnels), put them in a 3-mile course, and then throw a crazy party with plenty of beer and music!” https://ruggedmaniac.com/

Now truthfully, YES, I hate the HUGE stigma propaganda of all these types of “Extreme Obstacle Races”.  They belittle every person living with a mental disorder, and they do it to our faces. What is more, they use the greatest motivator of all… Money and crowd bullying tactics.

Truth, I would love to participate in a Rugged Maniac Extreme Obstacle Race–a family event day that I would love to try to do some day.  “If” they change their name and get rid of “Maniac.”  They do raise money for the American Cancer Society. Or allow you to choose another charity, but how many Mental Health Organizations will accept money from Rugged Maniac?

Get Some Mud Run Shoes 

There are dangers with many Extreme Obstacle Races like Spartan obstacles, or any race that needs good mud run shoes.

Do participants go to the extreme obstacle course games, most definitely. Is it unhealthy, most definitely, the races are commonly held in rural areas.  The area where there is animal grazing, “the soil could be contaminated with germs (bacteria, viruses) like E. coli, norovirus, and Campylobacter from the animal feces (poop). And, somehow, those germs can get into people’s mouths.  Warns the CDC and they share the following advice:

What can adventure race participants do to play it safe?

  • Avoid swallowing any surface water during the race. The water doesn’t have to be muddy to make you sick.
  • Wash your hands and face with soap and water immediately after completing the race, especially before eating or drinking.
  • Be considerate to other racers: Stay out of the race if you are vomiting or have diarrhea on race day.

What can organizers of adventure races do to protect racers?

  • Build muddy challenges in areas where there is not likely to be animal feces.
  • In your information for participants, include advice on how they can protect themselves and others from diarrheal illness:
    • Advise them to avoid swallowing any surface water during the race.
    • Encourage race participants to seek medical care if they develop diarrhea after the race.
    • Ask them to not participate in the event if they are vomiting or have diarrhea on race day.
  • Provide facilities for participants to wash their hands and face after the race. Adventure Races https://www.cdc.gov/features/adventure-racing/index.html

The following is more eye-opening dangers from Shape:

6 Scary Mud Run Dangers to Watch Out For

Campylobacter
22 participants at a Tough Mudder race in Nevada contracted Campylobacter coli (C. coli), a bacteria that causes severe diarrhea, nausea, vomiting, and abdominal cramping that can last up to a week

Norovirus
Just last month in France, more than 1,000 people came down with symptoms of norovirus, including diarrhea, vomiting, and fever, shortly after a mud run event.

Flesh-eating bacteria

Broken neck
People have been paralyzed and killed after breaking their neck during mud runs. In 2013, a man lost his life during a West Virgina race after jumping 15 feet into freezing, muddy water. 

Leptospirosis
This bacteria is found in animal urine and can survive in water and soil for weeks or even months, according to the CDC. 

Rhabdomyolysis
“A lot of people sign up for mud runs because it seems like fun, but then they get to the course and discover how challenging it is,” Dr. Patel says. If you haven’t been exercising regularly and exhaust yourself on one of these courses, you could set yourself up for a dangerous condition called rhabdomyolosis. “Rhabdomyolosis occurs when you get traumatic breakdown of your muscles at the cellular level,” Dr. Patel says.  3 Exercises to Help Train for a Mud Run.)

http://www.shape.com/fitness/tips/6-scary-mud-run-dangers-watch-out

 mud runs near me

 

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[Woke Up To A Tropical Storm]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14729 2017-08-01T04:41:07Z 2017-08-01T03:30:33Z Ah, Living in Florida, the sun, the fun, the beaches, and waking up to a surprise Tropical Storm (Emily)! Well, actually, I listened to the Tropical Storm rolling in all night. […]]]>

Ah, Living in Florida, the sun, the fun, the beaches, and waking up to a surprise Tropical Storm (Emily)!

Well, actually, I listened to the Tropical Storm rolling in all night.  I’ve haven’t slept well lately.  Hearing the deep roars of thunder, seeing the flash of lightning in the windows, and the wind whistling and echoing about the trees; this made for some eerie-special-effects weatherwise!

This tropical storm came and went with not much fuss locally for us.  It was quick, so quick I have to make a reference of how it reminded me of my own struggle with my mental illness.

Mental Health and Tropical Storms

Some weird analogies that can be drawn from today and living with a diagnosed or undiagnosed mental disorder. Even when things are going swimmingly, superbly, awesomely, and we feel so balanced one day–we can go to bed and wake up into the most outrageous, enormous, tropical storm building into an emotional Hurricane for no reason whatsoever.  So is the nature of the beast that is mental illness.

I’ve lived it, I’m sure many of my peers have experienced it, Sometimes, we may believe the only thing we can do is ride out the storm.  It’s not true, there’s help, but from whom and from where?

One place you can check out if your not already a member is here Forums at Psych Central

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Chato Stewart Thoughts On a Few Other Storms as

told via Mental Health Humor Cartoons.

Today’s Tropical Storm Emily, while not so eventful, did get me thinking about other “storms” and so I thought I would share some of my favorite Mental Health Humor Storm-theme Cartoons

 

The Tropical  Kids Storm

The Tropical  Ice Cream Storm

Mental Health Humor by cartoons by Chato Stewart

The Tropical  BRAIN Storm

The Tropical No Silver Lining Storm

Mental Health humor silver lining Positive Psychology

The Tropical  Social Media Storm

Without Warning Audreys Social Life was Over- by Chato Stewart

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[The Bands Heartbreaking Letter to Chester Bennington #ripchester]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14701 2017-07-28T03:56:17Z 2017-07-28T03:55:39Z “We’re trying to remind ourselves that the demons who took you away from us were always part of the deal.” Linkin Park | Dear Chester Chester Bennington Was Linkin Park Remembering […]]]>

“We’re trying to remind ourselves that the demons who took you away from us were always part of the deal.” Linkin Park | Dear Chester

Chester Bennington Was Linkin Park

Remembering Chester Bennington | Heartbreaking Letter | Heartbreaking Letter

I hope the band stays together, it’s an unknown future as it stands. I know they have a long history; going back to late 90’s.

As musical talent… personally, I alway felt Chester Bennington was the talent, as lead singer, he was the voice, the sound, the scream of Linkin Park. Their success is on the vocals angst and pitch perfect screams of Chester Bennington, his pain, his emotion inflection, his voice to me will always be Linkin Park. Other bands may lose a bandmate, sad as it is, but the band can keep going. I don’t think it’s Linkin Park without Chester?

What about you: Is it Linkin Park without Chester?

In the “Dear Chester” letter below the Band published says “our love for making and performing music is inextinguishable. While we don’t know what path our future may take…”  Inextinguishable no, it’s difficult or impossible to extinguish their love for music, but their path…it will be hard to replace Chester.

Sounds to me that Linkin Park knows the band is done, too.  If they go on without Chester Bennington’s voice what kind of a band are they? Of course, no one can step in Chester’s shoes, but will they try to find another vocalist so the band will go on?

Only time will tell. I hope they release any unpublished work.

 

Linkin Park‘s Heartbreaking Letter

The following was posted on the https://linkinpark.com/ website as an official statement from the band.

Dear Chester,

Our hearts are broken. The shockwaves of grief and denial are still sweeping through our family as we come to grips with what has happened.

You touched so many lives, maybe even more than you realized. In the past few days, we’ve seen an outpouring of love and support, both public and private, from around the world. Talinda and the family appreciate it, and want the world to know that you were the best husband, son, and father; the family will never be whole without you.

Talking with you about the years ahead together, your excitement was infectious. Your absence leaves a void that can never be filled—a boisterous, funny, ambitious, creative, kind, generous voice in the room is missing. We’re trying to remind ourselves that the demons who took you away from us were always part of the deal. After all, it was the way you sang about those demons that made everyone fall in love with you in the first place. You fearlessly put them on display, and in doing so, brought us together and taught us to be more human. You had the biggest heart, and managed to wear it on your sleeve.

Our love for making and performing music is inextinguishable. While we don’t know what path our future may take, we know that each of our lives was made better by you. Thank you for that gift. We love you, and miss you so much.

Until we see you again,

Linkin Park
Visit Chester.LinkinPark.com

Remembering Chester Bennington | Heartbreaking Letter | Heartbreaking Letter

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Resources » Suicide and Crisis
In case you or someone you know needs support, here are some resources:
Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK
Crisis Text Line, the free, nationwide, 24/7 text message service for people in crisis, is here to support. For support in the United States, text HELLO to 741741 or message at facebook.com/CrisisTextLine.
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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[Remembering Linkin Park #ChesterBennington #ripchester]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14700 2017-07-28T03:54:04Z 2017-07-28T03:54:04Z Coroner Ruled Chester Bennington’s Death a Suicide. Here is what is reported: On Friday, July 20th, the Los Angeles County coroner ruled Chester Bennington death a suicide by hanging. Watch […]]]>

Coroner Ruled Chester Bennington’s Death a Suicide.

Here is what is reported:

On Friday, July 20th, the Los Angeles County coroner ruled Chester Bennington death a suicide by hanging. Watch Commander Lt. Rudy Molano said an autopsy was conducted on July 21.

Coroner office spokesman Ed Winter’s confirmed last week that no drugs were evident in Bennington’s room.

Bennington’s suicide echoed that of his good friend, Chris Cornell, who hanged himself in May. He had a strong bond with Cornell and died on what would have been the Soundgarden singer’s 53rd birthday on Thursday. – CBS

Remembering Chester Bennington | Heartbreaking Letter | Heartbreaking Letter

Message from Linkin Park:

We’re trying to remind ourselves that the demons who took you away from us were always part of the deal. After all, it was the way you sang about those demons that made everyone fall in love with you in the first place. You fearlessly put them on display, and in doing so, brought us together and taught us to be more human. You had the biggest heart, and managed to wear it on your sleeve.”

Remembering Linkin Park

For me, I want to just talk about how Linkin Park’s music reverberated my own inner thoughts and feelings, it connected with my pain and emotion in a way that no other musician has in a long while. I would listen to any collection of their titles Bleed It Out.

 Linkin Park was part of a new youth revolution, and Bennington’s voice was its blaring trumpet. Both his delivery and lyrics melded earnest vulnerability with unhinged anger. Songs like “In the End” and “Crawling” have him violently shifting between those moods, tenderly delivering declarations of defeat before rage bubbled up through his throat for vein-popping screams of angst. – Rolling Stone |Chester Bennington: An Honest Voice of Pain and Anger for a Generation

 

The past few days struck me hard, more than I thought I would.  The loss of Chester Bennington is deeply sad, losing him to his “demons” his Mental Illness affected me deep inside! I was more caught up in how and what the music did for me, then what it took to sing it, and the pain and suffering that was in the verses.  I just knew this person got me and understood.  That was enough for me.  What else could I do that he is not already talking about and advocating and educating others about mental illness.

“My whole life, I’ve just felt a little off,” Bennington said in conversation with Music Choice earlier this year. “I find myself getting into these patterns of behavior or thought – especially when I’m stuck up here [in my head]; I like to say that ‘this is like a bad neighborhood, and I should not go walking alone.'” Rolling Stone |Chester Bennington My Mind Is Like a Bad Neighborhood

Knowing very little about Chester other than his music, it moves me, it soothes my moods when things get tough. It’s the first channel I listen to via Pandora “Linkin Park!”

What I did know he experienced a life with depression, addiction, and abuse, and the suicide while shocking was not a surprise.

The connection to my own life, moods, age, and the fact that on the outside he “seemed” fine rang true with me.  I have lived it, many times, days when you get into your head, and you feel trapped.  The idea of gloom and doom grows into hopelessness.  The longer I’m there, stuck, the bigger the walls of death are being built around me.  Constant never end pounding of a drum to harm myself or worst.  Hopeless dread, and grim thoughts circling in my head, while I am stuck. All the while, on the outside I ‘m looking fine, might even be laughing or smiling.

Everything you say to me
(Takes me one step closer to the edge)
(And I’m about to break)
I need a little room to breathe
(‘Cause I’m one step closer to the edge)
(And I’m about to break)

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Resources » Suicide and Crisis
In case you or someone you know needs support, here are some resources:
Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK
Crisis Text Line, the free, nationwide, 24/7 text message service for people in crisis, is here to support. For support in the United States, text HELLO to 741741 or message at facebook.com/CrisisTextLine.
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Remembering Chester Bennington | Heartbreaking Letter | Heartbreaking Letter

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[Remembering Linkin Park’s Chester Bennington #ripchester]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14686 2017-07-28T03:56:38Z 2017-07-27T18:42:13Z “Some studies have shown that for every death by suicide, 200 people have attempted suicide and 400 [other] people have thought about it.”—THE GAZETTE, MONTREAL, CANADA. Chester Bennington lost his long […]]]>

“Some studies have shown that for every death by suicide, 200 people have attempted suicide and 400 [other] people have thought about it.”—THE GAZETTE, MONTREAL, CANADA.

Chester Bennington lost his long and public battle to the killer that is mental illness. His bandmates and friends who know him best were shocked, heartbroken, and dismayed over the tragedy.  As were all of us fans of the band, Linkin Park, devastated.

Any one that knows their music and sound knows the emotional voyage you take with each song, but when Chester starts to whale out the verse and hit those high notes… chills!

Remembering Chester Bennington | Heartbreaking Letter | Heartbreaking Letter

Everyone who collaborated or wrote or sang and listened to Chester Bennington sing know he had demons, he sang about them often. The very “demons that ultimately led to his suicide.” – Dear Chester

It was not that this is a shock and there were no signs, the man was a walking bull-horn. It’s that the man seemed to have it coming together, then Chris Cornell’s suicide in May 2017. Was Chester’s decision to suicide fueled by his grief?

Is art reverberating into real life-

Linkin Park Lyrics “In The End”

[Chester Bennington:]
I tried so hard        –           And got so far
            But in the end     –      It doesn’t even matter
                          I had to fall          –          To lose it all
                                    But in the end
         
        It doesn’t even matter

#RSPCHESTER

Some questions we may never have answered, one that needs to be addressed more is Suicide.

MYTH: Talking about suicide—or even using the word—encourages people to try it.

FACT: Bringing the topic out into the open often helps a person with suicidal thoughts to consider other options.

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Resources » Suicide and Crisis
In case you or someone you know needs support, here are some resources:
Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK
Crisis Text Line, the free, nationwide, 24/7 text message service for people in crisis, is here to support. For support in the United States, text HELLO to 741741 or message at facebook.com/CrisisTextLine.
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Updated – Videos Recommended by Reader – Thanks, C.

Breaking the Habit- Linkin Park

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v2H4l9RpkwM

Like a Stone- Audioslave

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7QU1nvuxaMA

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[More Nature’s Ambiguous Life Lessons #TwoTailedLizard]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14663 2017-07-22T20:17:10Z 2017-07-22T03:20:27Z Now, this is #Cool #mustsee I #love this so–it had to be More Nature’s Ambiguous Life Lessons with a real live #TwoTailedLizard.  This little guy or gal lived in our yard […]]]>

Now, this is #Cool #mustsee I #love this so–it had to be More Nature’s Ambiguous Life Lessons with a real live #TwoTailedLizard.  This little guy or gal lived in our yard a while back.

It’s a Brown Anole Lizard, they grow to be about 8″ long; most of it is the tail. And the width is an adult’s finger or thumb.  The kids have caught and played with lizards since we moved down here.  The one rule is if the lizards lose their tail, the kids had to let them go.  You have to be very quick to catch them, but the kids got so good…one time we had a tank filled with over 20 or more.

Letting them go and catching them again was a lot of fun for the kids.  They have grown out of it, now they are into the bigger game.

For defense, lizards will bite with a death grip! It won’t hurt most adults, however, to any children it might pinch a bit.  When they don’t let go, it freaks some out and they get jumpy.  I have a few pics, I won’t share, of me with one on each earlobe–biting lizard earrings.

Lizards’ other defense as mentioned earlier, they will dislodge their tails.  This TWO-TAILED Anole Lizard is the first we’ve seen in 15 years. Read that it happens more often than you might think. Though seeing one is a different story; It’s Sooo Cool!

I did not let the kids play/handle this one–since I thought the kids may be the reason the Anole tossed its first tail.

This little guy (I really think it’s a gal) had a good life in our yard that summer!

Chato Stewart Thoughts

I can’t help but apply the Two Tailed Lizard on how I live my life. Yes, the lizard is forced into a life of resilience, tossing its tail when in trouble. But this little guy shows me what I can do while living with so many mental health challenges.  Yes, I may have to cast off old my negative ways of doing things.  May be it was my negative talk or my many other mental health challenges, but now I can look back to see what has grown from it, and it is uniquely beautiful to my recovery.

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[S#!T Happens in Life: What We Do Next Can make Us Grow or Wither Away]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14623 2017-07-14T09:24:11Z 2017-07-14T09:26:07Z  Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans. ~ John Lennon        I.        Dealing When S#!T Happens s#!t happens Part 1  |  s#1t happens Part 2 | Bonus Chato Stewarts […]]]>

 Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans. ~ John Lennon

       I.        Dealing When S#!T Happens

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It’s said “whatever doesn’t kill us, makes us stronger”, Surviving years and decades living with bipolar disorder, yes, a serious mental illness that does kill in so many ways.  But, surviving it daily does make us stronger.  I see in myself, I see it in others, the daily struggles, many unforeseen issues that knock the wind out our guts, pulling the rug from our feet. It is enough to make…

Life is not is determined by fate!  I was not fated to have a mental illness.  It was fate that gave me my wife of 25 years.  Fate did not grow my waistline to be over 350 lbs.  No one human can accurately predict the outcome of any endeavor.  We may come close, but use the knowledge we have.  An example is all I ate was double cheeseburgers for the next 60 days, it’s not “Fate” that’s giving me the extra 15 to 20 pounds. Just a bad diet of food.

Fate is nothing more than chance.  Being in the right place at the right time, both can have a positive or negative outcome.

Whatever happens in life is fine – just trust in that. ~ Orlando Bloom

We can believe we are going to have a great day, we may even make it a mantra, “today is going to be a great day, today is going to be a great day, today is going to be a great day.”  That doesn’t mean it will be a great day, no matter how hard you want to believe.  Stuff happens!

No matter what happens in life, be good to people. Being good to people is a wonderful legacy to leave behind.~ Taylor Swift

 

Things happen every day. You can’t spend your whole life trying to guard against something happening. If you do that, in my opinion, you’ve wasted your life.~ Tony Stewart
Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving. ~ Albert Einstein

 

I returned to see under the sun that the swift do not have the race, nor the mighty ones the battle, nor do the wise also have the food, nor do the understanding ones also have the riches, nor do even those having knowledge have the favor; because time and unforeseen occurrence befall them all. ~ Bible

Living with a Mental Illness diagnosis is not our fate.   Rather, we have to take what happens in life and grow or we will mental health wither away.

Our legacy is not going to be: poor this one or poor that one, they suffered badly with bipolar or depression.   We don’t have to let our mental health be the punch in the gut then uppercut to the face for a knock-out punch.

Take action, do something.  It’s not our fate to be sick…is just what happens.  It sucks!  But if we “spend our whole life trying to guard against” what’s going to happen next, we risk losing balance/losing ourselves.

Life is like riding a bicycle, living with a mental or mood disorder –is like riding a mountain bicycle downhill in an extreme obstacle race.  You’re going to have steep drops, get smacked in the face with tree branches, and you may fall a few times.  But what is great, we can dust our self off and get back on the bike.

It’s because time and unforeseen occurrence befall them all, we don’t know what’s going to happen.  There is no time for the “what if’s”– just keep moving.

s#!t happens Part 1  |  s#1t happens Part 2 | Bonus Chato Stewarts Notes

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[S#!T Happens in Life: What We Do Next Can make Us Grow or Wither Away]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14632 2017-07-14T09:25:26Z 2017-07-14T09:25:19Z  Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me. ~ Carol Burnett        I.       Part Of Life is Stepping in S#!T, It Happens […]]]>

 Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me. ~ Carol Burnett

       I.       Part Of Life is Stepping in S#!T, It Happens

Having lots of clean wipes helps, some dry dirt or green grass too will da the trick to wipe it off, too.  Yet when we step into it in life… Having a game plan in mind on how to handle these gifts of stress can help us out of the pit of pooh.

s#!t happens Part 1  |  s#1t happens Part 2 | Bonus Chato Stewarts Notes

   II.           10 Things I Learned to do When S#!T Happens

  1. Count to 10/ Take a breath – Not to yell OH S#!T or blurt out something else.  No, give yourself a chance to think before we react.
  2. Lemonade – Depending on what happened, I try and just make the best out of it…take a lemon and make a strong Lemonade.
  3. When it really hits the fan: I pray for faith, for strength, and work with my prayers. Doesn’t mean God is going to solve/cure my every issue now.  It gives me hope things can get better.  Hope is a very powerful coping tool.
  4. Stay the course and dredge up the creek till I hit shore.  Turning back cause things are hard, or giving up hope we can just wither away.  Stay true to moving forward, with knowledge, education, advocacy.  Whatever your mental health goals… Stick it out, taking baby steps.

When stuff goes wrong, when life sucks, when we get knocked down, just remember we can get back up.  When we do finally get up (cause let’s face it getting up again sucks too) but when we do get up, remember taking baby steps is still forward moment.  If all we can do is take baby steps, they add up.  And before long, we will see progress.

I love this clip from What About Bob.

 IV.            Life Happens Summary

Here is my thought on the matter…

In short, Life Happens!  Work on not letting something so huge as a mental Illness keep your life derailed. Make baby steps if needed to move towards a better you: happy and joyful in life and everything else still might suck, but at least it will suck with a smile.

We can’t control what happens to us in life, we might be able to have a false sense of control but STUFF happens that pops the bubble quickly.  Have balance, smile, and laugh more and smell the roses to improve our outlook on life.

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[S#!T Happens in Life: Chato Stewart Notes]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14635 2017-07-14T09:28:14Z 2017-07-14T09:20:51Z Chato Stewart Notes The idea behind the cartoon is simple, “Stuff Happens.”  I thought how to draw it happening over and over, and always getting up again and still thinking […]]]>

Chato Stewart Notes

The idea behind the cartoon is simple, “Stuff Happens.”  I thought how to draw it happening over and over, and always getting up again and still thinking Postie.

s#!t happens Part 1  |  s#1t happens Part 2 | Bonus Chato Stewarts Notes

That’s when I thought about how the kids and I always played Dominoes.  Setting them up and tipping them over and over again.   That’s when I sketched the idea down.  I thought it would be fun to share the sketch and my finished Mental Heath Humor cartoon.

 

Mental Health Humor by Chato Stewart

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Life is made up of challenges that cannot be solved but only accepted.  – Roger Ebert *          Challenge: Take Time for Our self Our lives are […]]]>

Life is made up of challenges that cannot be solved but only accepted.  – Roger Ebert *

  1.          Challenge: Take Time for Our self

Our lives are full of challenges, and if we are living with a “mental health challenges” diagnosis; Our challenges can be extremely complicated. There are many challenges if you’re a caregiver for someone that’s diagnosed or living undiagnosed or uncontrolled mental illness.

The challenges are numerous; the list could go for miles. I will not presume to understand fully.  Would you not agree that many of the challenges are acclimating, building on or on top of other problems? As they build up, as layers and piles of stress and anxiety mount these challenges will devastate lives.

One of the most overwhelming and stressful conditions that come with living with a diagnosis to caregiving is…time! Or better put the lack of time!

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APA Reference

* Fun Fact: about the Roger Ebert quote, “Life is made up of challenges that cannot be solved but only accepted.”   Yes, Roger Ebert did write it, but he was not trying to inspire or advocate for others with any types of challenges. No, rather it’s a quote from the Sleep Furiously 2011 movie review.  https://goo.gl/q6Joje

 

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[Challenges: Time With The Family]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14567 2017-06-30T20:23:34Z 2017-06-30T20:23:34Z Taking Time With The Family Having balance is key.  Sometimes, we are so focused on getting well, getting better–that we forget about everything; everyone else!  We can miss the special minutiae of […]]]>

Taking Time With The Family

Having balance is key.  Sometimes, we are so focused on getting well, getting better–that we forget about everything; everyone else!  We can miss the special minutiae of everyday life. The stop and smell the roses periods.  We have to remember that Not taking time for yourself and for loved ones can have long-term crushing effects.

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Time and Mental Health|Mental Health Challenges|Time With The Family

Taking time every day for ourself does benefit the whole family!  It will have powerful benefits for our overall health.  Taking a few quiet minutes or more is all that is needed.

Taking time with family and loved ones, peers, even if we have to fake it till we make it, I believe still will have some benefit.  I think of #5 of the 10 list: “Your Social Calendar is Restricted by Your Partner’s Depression.”  I think back over the 25 years Joan and I have been married.  And the many, many, many gatherings, parties, outings, and “social restriction” imposed on her by me experiencing symptoms of undiagnosed/then diagnosed (2003) Bipolar Disorder and Bipolar Depression.

When I could, I will say that again, when I could, I would go to the great demand of the old fake it till I make it…putting on the smile and looking so-called normalish just to make sure Joan and kids could get out of the house and get some uplifting association.

This is not going to save a relationship, but the idea here is to make time for the family.   To get out of the house (avoid isolation), try to be willing to take a break from mental illness.  Not to ignore our wellness plan, but to take time for our self and for our family.

If only a few minutes playing a game, or at a park, a day out, a few days vacation, a week or more… Take time with loved ones as often and as much as we can.

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[10 Mental Health Challenges    ]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14566 2017-06-30T20:23:04Z 2017-06-30T20:23:04Z This IS NOT THEIR fault, it’s NOT OUR fault, it’s not the family’s fault, no one is to blame, it’s the nature of the mental illness.  Like waves of the […]]]>

This IS NOT THEIR fault, it’s NOT OUR fault, it’s not the family’s fault, no one is to blame, it’s the nature of the mental illness.  Like waves of the sea pounding, and slamming against the rock–eroding rock slowly till it breaks.  And trust me, unless things change, we will lose friends and will have loved ones turn their backs on us, and even once strong, loving, and caring marriages can crumble.

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Time and Mental Health|Mental Health Challenges|Time With The Family

Here is a good example from the viewpoint of the caregiver of a person living with depression.

Alex Alexander, wrote the 10 Common Challenges When Your Spouse Has Depression*:  https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2016/11/04/10-common-challenges-when-your-spouse-has-depression/

  1. Your Depressed Partner May Have Suicidal Thoughts.
  2. You Always Have to Be An Advocate.
  3. You Feel Like a Google Search Engine for Depression.
  4. You Feel Guilty About Your Own Happiness.
  5. Your Social Calendar is Restricted by Your Partner’s Depression.
  6. You Are a Target for Their Anger.
  7. You Sometimes Feel You Are Walking On Eggshells.
  8. Your Sex Life Has Seriously Diminished.
  9. You Always Want to Make Your Partner Better.
  10. You Constantly Hide Your Worry0”.

Pegi Burdick or Your Tango opened up on a post about  the “Real Reason” she “Divorced” her “Depressed Husband.”

I was married to a man who was financially broke and borderline depressed. In the beginning of our marriage, I was fine with his passivity because he was always letting me make all the decisions, large and small…But, as time moved on and we had to navigate bigger decisions, like selling my house, moving, career changes and his health limitations, his attitude became stressful and I became angry.

Yet I was not in touch with my anger. It showed up as withdrawal of affection and my husband and I became like roommates, not lovers or two people committed to each other ’till death do us part.’

I am very nurturing, and taking care of him started to wear me down. I was not getting my needs met… ~ Pegi Burdick Contributor**

APA Reference
Psych Central. (2016). 10 Common Challenges When Your Spouse Has Depression. Psych Central. Retrieved on June 30, 2017, from https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2016/11/04/10-common-challenges-when-your-spouse-has-depression

**Pegi Burdick Contributor. (2016). The Real Reason I Divorced My Depressed Husband. Your Tango. Retrieved on June 30, 2017, from  http://www.yourtango.com/experts/pegi-burdick/why-I-stayed-married-to-depressed-man

 

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Chato B. Stewart http://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor <![CDATA[Challenges: Time and Mental Health    ]]> https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/?p=14565 2017-06-30T20:22:46Z 2017-06-30T20:22:46Z Not Taking Time with the Family and can negatively affect our mental health. Time is alive; it is always moving forward ticking away, and once it’s gone, it’s gone!  When […]]]>

Not Taking Time with the Family and can negatively affect our mental health.

Time is alive; it is always moving forward ticking away, and once it’s gone, it’s gone!  When we are always focused so intensely on our mental health, balance or caregiving, time can zoom past, days, weeks, months, and years.  Our episodes or days could feel like the churning of a washing machine or the spinning of tornadoes.  Or crushing and destructive as a category five hurricane.  Patching everything back together again, only to have it blow up again, and again, and again, week after week, month after month, year after year.

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Time and Mental Health|Mental Health Challenges|Time With The Family

Daily our peers are facing astronomical challenges and move on to the next day.  Each day suffering through the symptoms of whatever our mental health issue we live with and are burdened by… as time passes, it takes a toll on loved ones, on marriages, on relationships.

As weeks blur and weeks pass by, the goal of wellness and balance seem like one constant interweaving link.  Totally focusing on getting our loved one better from depression or bipolar disorder or anxiety or any other mental illness, maybe unrealistic.  This is something that many families learn the hard way when looking for the short-term cure.  It takes so much precious time to try get the loved one back to the way “they”, “we” were before the depression, bipolar episode, psychotic break. There may be some results, but for many of us– getting back to the who we were before the illness took a choke hold of our lives, well, that time is gone.

 

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