Tommy: Whatcha watching buddy? Let me see, why won’t you show me that video? Com’on This is getting weird!
Published on: Sep 29, 2015 at 11:24
#Psychologysays We value memories of some1 more than the actual person! So, we may miss the #memories more, even if UR with them.²
Caption: Do you value good friends from a distance?
“Psychology says” our quotes that have gone viral over the years and have been shared in so many different forms of social media–will make your head spin. The validity of many of these quotes have very hard to find…studies or original factual proof to back up the claim. So, in essence, they are more pop-culture and psychological fact. They are fun, but I think I will like to draw a few from time to time.
I started with last Mental Health Humor cartoon titled #Bipolar #Depressed Fake A Smile the psychology says quote was: psychology claims if you fake a smile actually boosts you; and psychology says smiling even when you’re sad can improve mood because you are using muscles that trigger chemicals in your brain that tell you that you are happy.
In the above, Mental Health Humor cartoon, I added the Tweet within… actual psychology says quoted in the cartoon to help drive the point.
Now do I think memory is important? How true could this quote really be? Do you find yourself longing for the good old days of a friendship even when you’re with the friend? Remembering how things used to be or events of the past, things you used to do? What about our memories: why do some stay with us and others we seem to forget?
Ever wonder why some memories can stay vivid for years while others fade with time? The answer is emotion. Your memory will only hold on to new information (working memory) gained from your daily life for about five days (this is your short-term memory). Memories that are not emotionally significant are usually forgotten after this five-day waiting period (this is the time taken to transfer events from short to long term memory). The brain will learn or memorize all kinds of information with frequent repetition and constant use. However, if a memory containing only facts is not frequently used, the information slowly fades away. This is why you remember some events from the past with vivid detail, particularly the ones that were emotionally charged (like a favorite possession, an unjust punishment or first love).~¹ A. Karmin
So emotional memories are vivid for years, that seems to line up with “Psychology says We value memories of someone more than the actual person!” Since there is an emotional connection linked to the memory (but fading over time) may be why people long for greener pastures.
How do you feel? Is the friend you’re with not the same as the friend you remember? People change, we change, friendships change – but if you are living in the past friendship how fair is that to your so-called friend?
Yes, time spent with you and your friend can create a lasting bond that represents a good portion of life. Yes a true friend is someone you want to share everything with.
I read a bumper sticker the other day, that cracked me up. It’s a bit morbid but it really punches home point about friendship when it says:
“Friends help you move, Real friends help you move bodies”
¹ 9/28/2015 |Dwelling on the Past: How Emotions Shape Your Memory |
— chatobstewart (@chatobstewart) September 29, 2015