Do you deal with tactless, annoying people in your life? Maybe the tactless one is a friend or family member? And you’ve tried everything to deal with their rude manners. How do you handle them? What can you do?
I spent many years in the sales world, selling fun products from shoes, printing equipment, and my favorite the beer vending machine! Selling products was fun when I was in a good mood having a manic high (though I did not know that was what it was back then. I just thought I was an AWESOME sales person that could sell anything.)… but when my mood was low, down, depressed, I couldn’t even make one call or look a buyer in the eye.
I never understood how I could go from a top seller month then when my mood changed, I started having no clue how to sell anything. It was UP and down, UP and down with the moods…not a way to live when you’re paid on commission.
I got to a point where I would do a take-away-sale. Very tactless, but it was mood driven. I would judge my potential customer and say to them you’re not going to buy this product or you can’t afford that stuff. Total honest thoughts not welcomed by most buyers… they want to be told a story, hear how this product will fill their need, solve their problem, make their life easy…Not that they can’t afford it or that it’s too much power for them, or they can get a cheaper one at Walmart!
Here is the funny part: I would make bigger price sales in the down months… Not make more money, but sell larger ticket items. What does that say? You tell someone they can’t have it, they don’t need it, and it’s too much money…AND they buy just to spite me and prove me wrong.
So, I was wondering was I being “tactless” to just “frank?”
In my mind, tactless people were those who said something without thinking about others’ feelings, not necessarily very hurtful, just not thinking or caring much before speaking.
While being frank was a person to the point, precise on the money, just the facts as they see them. Concrete is the ugly, it’s ugly…if it tastes bad, it is nasty–no beating around the bush. Just the facts-jack.
So, I’m wondering how do you think of yourself?
Tactful – Tactless – Frank
Originally Posted at Chato Stewart’s Mental Health Humor at Psych Central: https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor
Stewart, Chato. (2018). Tactless People. Psych Central. Retrieved on Aug 28, 2018, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/humor/2018/08/fun-tactless-people/