We are using my favorite Mental Health Humor (Bipolar/Depression) cartoon about the dominoes falling (#1723 Stuff Happens) to focus on Resilience. Dominoes are a metaphor to make the point with their durability. It takes more than durability for Resiliency.
Is Resilience Complex Or Simple?
What is it that can help give us the power to battle on, jump up and keep-on-keeping-on of GOOD resiliency?
Is it simple or complex? For each person, it really depends on so many varying factors. What is good for me, may take years for others and vise-vera.
“Resilience is not a trait. It’s not something you’re born with. It’s not something you just have…It’s really a battle, not a bounce, an ongoing process that can last for years.” ~ 4 Clinical psychologist Meg Jay
Meg Jay shares a number of “tips to help you become more resilient“…Below are four that seem to resonate with me:
Do we need to have the “Just Do It” or “Rub some dirt on it” mindset? I enjoyed the way 1Dr Harold Cohen defined Resilience, I recommend you read the full post what is resilience.
Below I’ll weigh in on how I feel about a few bullet points shared to help us increase or build up our resilience.
- Having a positive view of yourself (self-image) and confidence in your strengths and abilities (self-knowledge).
Chato Stewart: I’m going to say this is a multiple choice. Because having all three of these is really all you need to do anything in life. Since I lack most of them, yet I’m still resilient. I feel confidence plays a roll, but the self-knowledge may have more weight.
- Being able to regularly make realistic plans, and then being able to regularly carry out your plans.
Chato Stewart Says: Making plans is good, but keeping to them and being regular, I guess, is to keep to a schedule to keep the mind busy and focused.
Check out more examples at Dr. Harold Cohen here 2https://psychcentral.com/lib/what-is-resilience
Rub Some Dirt On It type of Resilience
I was watching National Geographic, an animal channel, the other day and a wildebeest was getting attacked by a lion. It seemed like it was going to be over quick; the wildebeest fought back. It was one on one and the lion kept attacking the hind area keeping away from the horns, it went on for two hours.
Only when you thought the loin had its meal that the most amazing thing I have ever seen happened. An elephant charged in and came to the wildebeest’s rescue and chased the loin away. Then went up to the wildebeest that was kneeling in the dirt with bites and cuts on its back. And the Elephant kicked dirt on the back of the wildebeest a few times, it was wild! And I thought, OH MY GOSH, THE ELEPHANT IS RUBBING DIRT ON IT!!!
The narrator even said that the elephant just gave the wildebeest a great chance to live because of that small, kind act.
So, I guess, we all need to have a friend like that elephant. Yes, one that will throw dirt in your face after you just got mauled!
Fun Grammer Fact: Resilience and resiliency are different forms of the same word. Both nouns refer to the ability to recover quickly from illness or misfortune. But in today’s English, resilience is far more common than resiliency ~ 3 Grammarist.
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1 Cohen, H. (2017). What is Resilience?. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 3, 2018, from https://psychcentral.com/lib/what-is-resilience/
2 Dr. Michael Ungar (2008) What is Resilience?. The Resilience Research Centre Retrieved on March 3, 2018, from http://www.resilienceproject.org/about-the-rrc/resilience/14-what-is-resilience
3 Grammarist.(2008) What is Resilience?. The Resilience Research Centre Retrieved on March 5, 2018, from http://grammarist.com/usage/resilience-resiliency/
4 TED Talks .(2008) What is Resilience?. 8 tips to help you become more resilient Retrieved on March 6, 2018, from https://ideas.ted.com/8-tips-to-help-you-become-more-resilient/