The ego tends to be defined as some sort of singular tool or strategy that we all use to fit into the world. In reality, the ego is a composite of inter-dependent practices and habits that we are taught at a very young age that we need to exist in the world. We are told that we need to be a person who is accepted by others. The ego tends to be defined as some sort of singular tool or strategy that we all use to fit into the world.
In reality, the ego is a composite of inter-dependent practices, beliefs, and habits that we are taught at a very young age that we need to exist in the world. It is the ideal version of ourselves given to us by anything and everything outside of ourselves. The ego ideal.
This is by far one of the most important aspects of the driving force behind having an ego. If we are likable, then we are valued. To be likable, in the sense of the ego, is to be a person who is relatable and vulnerable. We tend to assume, that anyone outside of this particular definition, as someone who is closed off and defensive.
Another example would be, that to be a law-abiding citizen, is the ego guiding the process of what we define it to mean when we say we are human. However, this is simply just another element of agreeing to certain behaviors, that we have corporately agreed upon as law-based ethical propositions.
However, all of these elements that comprise the ego, negates one glaringly obvious short-sighted emergence. In that, if we are to talk about what it means to be human (in the sense of philosophical ontology) – then to be a valuable human, is to do all of the above things.
That means we must allow the ego to maintain itself as the filter that we need to define ourselves as valuable. However, to have a series of things that are true about us all the time is to also assume that we need those things to determine how valuable we are or how valuable our contributions are to human progress.
Sabina Spielrein wrote a treatise on how the destruction of the ego ushers in our very becoming. Sabina was first a client of the late Carl Jung, and then an eventual psychoanalyst. Her contributions included this notion that the ego was not a necessary component, but more of a vanishing mediator. A component of our identity that we didn’t require long-term access to sustain a coherent identity.