2 thoughts on “Three Stories of How Perfectionism and Depression Got Way Too Close To Suicide

  • April 27, 2018 at 6:48 am

    It seems like we’re finding novel and effective ways of naming mental issues, call them “depression” or “ADHD” if you want, but it isn’t quite as clear that we have effective ways of treating them. It’s nice to have hope that a therapist can help, but that hope evaporates the second you cross the threshold into his office. In fact, even calling it “treatment,’ i.e., a medical procedure, is misleading, because whatever goes on between a therapist and a patient is largely a step into the unknown.

    • April 27, 2018 at 8:04 am

      Hello H.W. It sounds as if your experience with therapy may have been somewhat vague in focus. And there are therapists certainly who don’t specify what kind of treatment protocols they offer, which can lead to the client feeling, as you say, as if there’s a lot of ambiguity. Some of that “not knowing” is reflective of the natural process of therapy, however. You as the therapist or the client may not know or recognize the full extent of the trauma or pain you’re trying to help the patient heal. To your point about treatment, The relationship itself between client and therapist is vital for the experience to be helpful, but many techniques have been researched well and have been shown to be effective. EMDR and cognitive/behavioral techniques, for example, have stout research behind them. But there are conditions certainly where healing is much more difficult. Thanks for your comment, and I hope if you try therapy again, you’ll search for a therapist that will be very clear in the goals that the two of you set, and use what they know has been helpful to others.


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