2 thoughts on ““Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater?” Science Has the Answer (And You Might be Surprised!)

  • August 9, 2019 at 6:44 am

    I’m guilty of cheating, it started in the early 90’s when I tried to make a long distance relationship work. I justified it as revenge when she didn’t answer the phone calls & I forgot about the time differences. Miami to San Jose is just a slight distance apart right?
    Lack of communication doomed my first marriage and lack of trust doomed the second one too…. the fact it was a rebound didn’t help either.
    I thought after #2 I had taken the tome to learn the lessons but I haven’t yet…. communication is my downfall and with the most recent girlfriend when she told me of a intended move north & east I shut down and stopped talking with her about my feelings.
    I know this is the root of my problems but I’m not sure where to turn to in order to improve myself and make it stick….

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  • August 9, 2019 at 8:51 am

    “A person may cheat because their partner has stopped paying attention.”

    No. You are blaming the victim here. The only people who cheat are those of poor character.

    A person of good character doesn’t lose that character because they need attention. Their response would be to say, “I feel as if you don’t want to pay attention to me anymore.”

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