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Change Your Life

Do you want to change your life? Would you like to thrive instead of just survive?

There is one powerful thing that would make any meaningful change in your life more likely. And that’s acknowledging and really taking to heart that the life you’re living right now, is a unique—one time ever—event, not to be wasted. 

This has to be a heartfelt understanding, not just be an intellectual one. And to make this viable, you would need to decide to live for this one life, not for the next. You would need to become conscious of what your life is, make an assessment, and then choose what you want your life to be.

Realistically, if you don’t become conscious of this astounding “this life” opportunity, you’ll probably continue to live life pretty much as you always have.  Nothing much will change.

Choose To Thrive Instead of Just Survive

If you want a vibrant life, you’re going to have to wake yourself up, turn off your autopilot, and “do yourself” differently. And you’ll need to stop all the busy-ness you’ve been creating in order not to notice how you feel, and then make an assessment of what your life is.

  1. Is your life a life of your own choosing?
  2. Are you living a life in reaction to your parents?
  3. Have you made some covert agreement to live your life to satisfy   your partner’s needs?
  4. Are you living your life based on your parents’ expectations, your cultures’ dictates or perhaps old stories about yourself?

Most people are not living self-designed lives—and aren’t aware of it.

If you are not living your own life, are you uncomfortable enough to let go of whatever you are holding onto that doesn’t serve your health and happiness any more? Are you hiding in the safe ‘known’, which keeps you from experiencing, feeling, and getting the most out of your life?

Sometimes the familiarity of unhappiness can feel like the safer choice than the unfamiliarity of what we don’t know.  Are you too afraid of rocking the boat—or perhaps of saving the boat—to get couples counseling?

The one thing you can do to change your life is to remind yourself every day, that this is the only day I will ever experience THIS day! And ask yourself, “Is this how I want to live?”  How alive do I feel today? Am I thriving or just surviving?

As the soothsayer says…”the end IS near.” Or at least we’ll get to the end much sooner than we can imagine. And if we are sleepwalking through most of our lives, we’ll get to the end and feel our life was a blur. Most people do just that.

Take A Break

Sometimes taking a clear break from your life is necessary to get some perspective on what your life is. Retreating from all the distractions in your current life and going on an intentional retreat can help you get in touch with yourself.

On retreat, you’ll get to know what you feel, what you value, what you want your life and relationships to look like, and how to make changes in your life with integrity. And you’ll likely find deep wisdom within yourself that you’ve been too busy—all your life—to even notice.

For more on how to wake up and change your life visit our website.


Change Your Life

Jake & Hannah Eagle

Jake & Hannah Eagle conduct small retreats at beautiful locations around the world for the purpose of encouraging people to live more consciously. They also provide coach and health consultations.

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, . (2015). Change Your Life. Psych Central. Retrieved on August 4, 2020, from


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