Making Forgiveness Possible In Your Relationship

We have discussed in earlier blogs the impact of trauma on relationships, reconsidering the anger in your relationship, communication for anger management, the impact of trauma on sexual intimacy and attempts to reclaim it.

Where Does Forgiveness Fit In?

With Couples, forgiveness implies the recognition...

Couple Communication for Anger Management

Couples can use the language between them to make love or to make war. Sadly, verbal aggression can be a dangerous trigger to destructive exchanges or even physical violence. Effective communication techniques, on the other hand, help couples manage difficulties and anger in a...

A Military Program Offers a Message for Couples

On Oct 15, 2009, the front page story in the New York Times by Rod Nordland described Operation Proper Exit, a program which invited American servicemen wounded in the Iraq War back to Iraq to visit those very places where they suffered severe injury and loss as a way to help achieve psychological closure.

When we consider healing and recovery from trauma, revisiting ( literally,in this case) fosters the remembering and mourning necessary for integration of traumatic memories and unspeakable loss. Welcomed back by...

What Is Couple Psychological First Aid?

Nationally and internationally, the most endorsed response in the first hours and weeks after a traumatic event is Psychological First Aid.
Just as Medical First Aid is given immediately to a person to minimize injury and reduce future medical complications and disability, Psychological First Aid involves providing connection, safety, basic needs, information, and recognizing if professional care is needed as a way to reduce the possibility of longterm emotional impact.

Couples Psychological First Aid unfolds from an understanding of the power of attachment by researchers...


Do Men and Women React Differently to Trauma?

A New York Times article on Jan. 7, 2005 reported on grieving parents in Sri Lanka who lost children in the Southeast Tsunami. It describes a couple. The mother, pictured with a group of women, is crying and talking about her daughters. The father,  who feels there is no value in dwelling on loss, asserts that "this is no time to give up" and focuses his energy on rebuilding the family home.

Their reactions speak to a gender stereotype that is perhaps crosscultural -  in the face of traumatic loss, women need to speak about...