Clashing With Your Partner? Try Anger Management for Couples

If you are human and you are in a relationship it is inevitable that at times you will be angry with your partner. I often suggest to couples that if you never hear the neighbors fighting, it probably means that they have moved or that you should call 911.

The goal in sustaining a vibrant and loving relationship is not to prevent authentic differences, feelings and disagreements but to express them in a way that does not escalate into anger that threatens the emotional or physical well-being of either partner.

Complying at all times, fear of making waves, hiding resentments, or equating every disagreement to the inevitable break-up is emotionally exhausting and anxiety producing. If it is not safe to be angry in a relationship – it is not a safe relationship.

Stephen Mitchell, author of


It is Midnight – ” Where is Your Elf on the Shelf?”

Most people, particularly those with children have heard of the “ Elf on the Shelf”. The Elf on the Shelf tradition was created in 2005 by Carol Aebersold and her daughter Chanda Bell who decided over a cup of tea to bring back a Swedish story from Carol’s childhood of an elf sent from Santa to watch over children at Christmas time. Based on the book,The Elf on the Shelf: A Christmas Tradition, which Carol and Chanda self-published in 2005, the tradition took off...

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Why Do We Emotionally Need ” Small Talk”?

There is nothing small about “small talk.”

Defined as polite conversation about unimportant or uncontroversial matters, especially used on social occasions, small talk has often been seen in a pejorative or dismissive way.

Actually, small talk has a much broader meaning. Whether we love it or dread it, whether it serves us as a “ tool or trait,” we use “small talk” for meeting important psychological needs.

We use it to make connections, to regulate anxiety and to facilitate...