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The Universal Language – The Gift of Laughter

Laughter spans age, gender, language and culture. We make each other laugh and we emotionally respond to laughter in others. As humans we are one of a few species that laughs and we laugh from the time we are babies.

Since biblical times, we have not only been laughing, we have been reporting on the benefits of laughter on mind and body:

“A merry heart doeth good like a medicine.” Proverbs 17:22

“You don't stop laughing because...
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Out of Sight-Out of Mind: The Reality of Disenfranchised Grief

One of the most powerful and frightening articles I read this summer was Leslie Jamison’s Opinion piece, “Rape, Race and the Jogger”. She starts by reminding us that this summer three female joggers, all around 30, all white, were murdered. The information about one of these joggers caught my attention when it was first reported, because the murder occurred close to my childhood home and closer still to my childhood fears. The warning, “ Never go into the weeds alone!” that had carried...
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Reporting Rape–Finding a Voice to Heal and Help

According to a telephone survey of a nationally representative sample of 16,507 adults, nearly one in five women has been a victim of rape or attempted rape and one in 71 men reports having been raped or the target of attempted rape.

As alarming as these statistics may be, they greatly under-represent the numbers who have suffered. Men and boys tend not to report being raped and women rarely report rape by a partner or acquaintance. Sadly, ¾ of all rapes are committed by...
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Driving With Your Partner: An Opportunity for Stress Regulation

Reality, fiction and lyrics suggest that romance unfolds in cars. Given the privacy, small space, music, heat or lack of it, cars invite emotional connection and events to remember.

Not Always Paradise By the Dashboard Light    

If you are in a relationship, however, you also know that as romantic as being in a car with your partner can be – there is the other side. Driving together can go from good...
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Do You Have A Problem With Destination Memory?

Have you ever realized or been informed that the person you are talking to has already heard the joke or story you are telling?

“ I already told you this?”

If you have been in this situation, you are not alone. You are dealing with what experts call, Destination Memory.

Destination memory is the ability to remember to whom you told what. The reason that so many of us have problems with it, is that it has been found to...
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Success in a Marriage Means More Than Just Being Faithful!

To really maintain a loving and vital marriage, you need to do more than just be faithful. For a successful marriage, you need to come home in a way that makes your partner know why you are coming home to him or her.

In his interesting and provocative book, Monogamy, Adam Phillips suggests, “…the cruelest thing one can do to one’s partner is to be good at fidelity but bad at celebration.”

Is he right? I think...
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