Clashing With Your Partner? Try Anger Management for Couples

If you are human and you are in a relationship it is inevitable that at times you will be angry with your partner. I often suggest to couples that if you never hear the neighbors fighting, it probably means that they have moved or that you should call 911.

The goal in sustaining a vibrant and loving relationship is not to prevent authentic differences, feelings and disagreements but to express them in a way that does not escalate into anger that threatens the emotional or physical well-being of either partner.

Complying at all times, fear of making waves, hiding resentments, or equating every disagreement to the inevitable break-up is emotionally exhausting and anxiety producing. If it is not safe to be angry in a relationship – it is not a safe relationship.

Stephen Mitchell, author of


It is Midnight – ” Where is Your Elf on the Shelf?”

Most people, particularly those with children have heard of the “ Elf on the Shelf”. The Elf on the Shelf tradition was created in 2005 by Carol Aebersold and her daughter Chanda Bell who decided over a cup of tea to bring back a Swedish story from Carol’s childhood of an elf sent from Santa to watch over children at Christmas time. Based on the book,The Elf on the Shelf: A Christmas Tradition, which Carol and Chanda self-published in 2005, the tradition took off...

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Why Do We Emotionally Need ” Small Talk”?

There is nothing small about “small talk.”

Defined as polite conversation about unimportant or uncontroversial matters, especially used on social occasions, small talk has often been seen in a pejorative or dismissive way.

Actually, small talk has a much broader meaning. Whether we love it or dread it, whether it serves us as a “ tool or trait,” we use “small talk” for meeting important psychological needs.

We use it to make connections, to regulate anxiety and to facilitate...

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Reporting Rape and Sexual Abuse: The Difficulty Finding a Voice to Heal

According to a telephone survey of a nationally representative sample of 16,507 adults, nearly one in five women has been a victim of rape or attempted rape and one in 71 men reports having been raped or the target of attempted rape.

As alarming as these statistics may be, they greatly under-represent the numbers who have suffered. Men and boys tend not to report being raped and women rarely report rape by a partner or acquaintance. Sadly, ¾ of all rapes are committed by...