Archives for June, 2011

Anxiety

Hoarding Behavior: Another Perspective

Whether you are someone who lives around the piles of things you cannot throw away, you had an aunt who was too embarrassed to let anyone into her cluttered home or you have seen the TV show "Hoarders" – you know something about hoarding.

What is less known is the cause. Hoarding which involves thoughts, feelings and behavior and can be chalked off as eccentric or can be so extreme as to...
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Do Women Ask for What They Need? A Surprising Finding

Against the back drop of three waves of the feminist movement, both men and women might affirm that women ask for their needs.  On a more personal note, if you ask married men the same question, too many might say “They never stop asking.” And if you are a mother or have ever faced a mother trying to get what she needs for her child – you know enough to step out of the way!

It comes then as a surprise that research across...
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What If You Find Your Partner Using Porn or Cybersex?

For some adults the use of pornography, which includes adult and sexually oriented DVDs and websites or Cybersex which might include visiting sexual chat rooms or sending explicit sexual emails, may be a passing curiosity, a source of sexual stimulation or serious addiction.

For adults in committed relationships, the secret use of pornography or cybersex is far more complicated, as it can ultimately impact both partners and pose a risk to their relationship.

Discovering Your Partner’s Secret Use

When a partner walks in on the...
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General

Death of a Sibling: Overlooked Grief

It was some time after spending weeks in ICU with our youngest son, that I realized - If we had lost him, we would have also lost his brother. In times of crisis, we too often overlook the bond between siblings and the unique but unrecognized grief suffered when a brother or sister dies.

Karen Hickman, founder of Gold Star Siblings shares that when her brother was killed serving in Vietnam, she felt like an outsider at...
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affair

Can A Marriage Survive An Affair?

Too often we witness the dismantling of marriages by couples in the public light as well as those of friends and acquaintances because of an affair. Almost always outsiders feel compelled to condemn, condone and debate the question: Can a marriage survive an affair? 

The fact is, regardless of what the world thinks, only the couple can decide if their marriage can survive.

In my work with couples standing in the emotional debris of an affair, I have...
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