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In Memory of a Toxic Mother

On this Mother’s Day of love and cheer,

I recall how you hurt me year after year.


When you pushed me to tears,

Instilled a myriad of fears,

Raged after countless beers,

Ridiculed all my careers,

Humiliated me amid my peers.


Oh, but how you did domineer,

Impose a life of drudgery and drear,

Manipulate with gifts and compliments that felt insincere,

Almost never lending a compassionate ear.


You stomped on my cheers,

Made me hate mirrors,

Stabbed me with jeers,

Delivered with sneers.


After you died, my head finally did clear.

I shed my ugly-duckling veneer.

Now that I see my life as freer,

I am so glad that I’m still here,

And no longer you do I revere.


On this Mother’s Day, I hope you can hear

The many hurts you made me endure.


This poem is dedicated to all the sons and daughters

who just want to be loved by their mothers.


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In Memory of a Toxic Mother

Jessica Loftus

Jessica Loftus has worked as a licensed clinical psychologist and national certified career counselor for more than 20 years. She currently offers counseling sessions via telehealth in Illinois. Her website,, outlines steps for making a career decision. details. See her retired blog, "Pet Ways to Ease Stress,"

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Loftus, J. (2020). In Memory of a Toxic Mother. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 8, 2020, from


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