Life After Loss
with Ilissa Jae Ducoat, LPC, FT


When Father’s Day Hurts

It’s hard to turn on the TV or scroll through social media this week without seeing references to Father’s Day. Ads everywhere for the perfect gift, sweet articles highlighting a father’s sacrifice for his family, even memes about the comical side of parenting, can hijack us, bringing us to a painful place.

Two kinds of people are reading this post right now, those who have never had a significant loss, and those who nodded along with the first few lines. Both groups of people should continue reading. 


Navigating Difficult Anniversaries After Loss

After experiencing a substantial loss, any day can make us feel like the world’s been rocked off its axis. The uniqueness of significant dates, anniversaries, and circumstances brings a special kind of challenge, one that can be difficult to navigate.

These challenges can be predicted and prepared for, or they can blindside us.

Significant anniversaries often hold a strong emotional charge, especially when it is one of the first. The date of a loved one’s death or the ending of a significant relationship are two of the most commonly discussed anniversaries. These are fixed dates within a calendar. People often anticipate having a rough day, fear the possibility of a flood of emotion, or wish they could fast forward their lives past this date.


The Stigma of Grief

Grief is defined as deep sorrow, especially sorrow caused by someone’s death. The concept of deep sorrow is far from tangible. Our culture tends to crave hard evidence, concrete proof of such things. Without it, grief is merely subjective, a dangerous label when considering the implications on our lives following substantial loss.

In the field of psychology and counseling, there are different assessment tools for professionals to get a sense of how a person is grieving. The Center for Research on End of Life Care’s Grief Assessment