4 thoughts on “5 Ways Mother Issues Become Weight Issues

  • August 24, 2018 at 2:57 am

    Hi Katherine,
    I couldn’t NOT comment on this post — it has me wondering, “Could this be at least PART of why I have struggled with weight for so long?” While simultaneously telling myself “Nooo, that can’t apply to me, my mom is a caring mom who has ALWAYS loved her kids!” She never insulted us and was rarely in a bad mood.
    Yet I have struggled with weight since around age 10 when I gained a few pounds. It wasn’t problematic then but it became so by my mid teens. We ate 3 meals daily and a snack after school and one before bed. I remember a few times binging on food I guess you’d call it because I would walk to the neighborhood store, buy a box of Banquet Fried Chicken and a Tonys pizza and soda and cook both of them and eat as much as I wanted, as much as I possibly could. And then I’d feel miserable with stomach ache and guilt. This would happen when I was alone and only sporadically to that extent. But there was never any guidance around food–we always had several kinds of sugary cereal around for breakfast, and snacks were chips, popcorn, cookies, Suzy Q cakes or Puff Pastries and soda. It is probably not surprising that I am preparing for weight loss surgery!
    I was told by a therapist at least once that the weight could be related to the sexual abuse by my former stepfather. I always have blamed myself for the weight because no one MADE me eat junk food. I never have heard it could be issues with mothering too.
    Oddly enough, off and on in therapy I have described feeling empty inside and also, feeling even as an adult that I sometimes feel like a little girl wanting to be held, rocked and comforted. And several times after beginning therapy I was absolutely freaked out by having this dream of being breastfed. It terrified and embarrassed me yet it wasn’t a sexual thing and in the dream I remember how comforted and safe I felt.
    Ok, I am freaking myself out now so I am going to go think about something distracting and pleasant lol!

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    • August 27, 2018 at 6:27 pm

      Thanks so much for writing. It is good to hear from you again. And yes those mother issues keep popping up in various forms. Good luck with your weight loss surgery!

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  • August 27, 2018 at 4:39 pm

    This hit so close to home in a way I’ve been struggling to even recognize for a while now. Thank you.

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    • August 27, 2018 at 6:21 pm

      Thanks so much for writing. I think it is sometimes so insidious it is hard to recognize. Good for you. I hope this helps.

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