Archives for May, 2012

Anxiety and Worry

The End Of The Phone Call

Have you ever wondered why you never use all the minutes on your phone plan anymore? Why you instead had to add another feature for text messaging and how you keep hesitating to make an old fashioned phone call?

You are not alone. I've been reading more and more articles about a new trend that some people call "telephobia." According to market researcher Nielsen, the amount of phone calls has...
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Anxiety and Worry

When Anger Is Missing

Anger is often seen as a destructive force. But it may be just as harmful when it is chronically suppressed.

We all get mad at times. It can be righteous anger, like when someone hurts us. Or it can be overly exaggerated, like when we throw a fit about the slightest mishap.

Whatever the source, anger is most constructively dealt with in relationships when it is communicated immediately and...
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Anxiety and Worry

Feeling Responsible

Many of us carry a burden that consumes a lot of energy: we feel responsible for the happiness of others, even when it's not our job to worry about that.

The phenomenon comes in many shapes, and often goes back to early childhood experiences and the role we played in the family.

One of my clients, let's call her Rose, became aware of her own dynamic after a visit with her...
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General

When You Should Quit Facebook

Lots of people are starting to feel overwhelmed by a leisurely activity they used to enjoy tremendously: social networking sites.

The first major complaint is the time that is sucked away by facebooking, tweeting and the like. With smart phones and other mobile devices, the Facebook or Twitter app is a constant presence. Whenever there is time to kill, people like to go online and check what’s new with their...
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Anxiety and Worry

Finding Your Higher Power

Alcoholics Anonymous utilize the infamous term of the "higher power," which is ordinarily meant to describe God.

Lots of people feel that there isn't one. How would a God who dwells somewhere outside of our existence allow all these terrible things, that humankind is afflicted by, to happen?

But there is an alternative concept to the divine that cannot be found in the bible: It...
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Anxiety and Worry

How We Underestimate Our Own Power

Many times we are so hung up on what we are lacking, or what we can't have, that we completely disregard the power we already have. Especially in intimate relationships.

In my psychotherapy practice, I have worked with a number of couples where this discrepancy in perception becomes quickly obvious. One partner will feel "steamrolled" or overpowered by the other, especially during fights.

The curious thing is that very often neither partner feels...
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