Archives for April, 2012

Anxiety and Worry

Thrusting Through Anxiety

Everybody who has ever had an anxiety attack knows how hard it is to reign in thoughts during such an episode. We completely buy into whatever frightens us.

Sometimes, people don't even know that they are having an anxiety attack and instead get caught up in the physical symptoms that come with it.

They freak out over heart palpitations and sweaty palms, and with increasing fear the chest starts...
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Anxiety and Worry

Stop Waiting For Your Life To Change

So often we get caught up waiting for something big to happen so we can finally feel ready to make a change.

"Once I have my college degree I will go out and take charge of my life."

"As soon as my daughter is out of the house, I can start taking care of myself."

"I can make new friends as soon as my social anxiety is gone."

Thus are the hindrances of the mind...
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Anxiety and Worry

Feeling Supported

So many of us feel starved for support and attention. We feel alone, and riddled by doubts about what we should do and who we should be. We constantly obsess about what is lacking from our lives.

How many of us have woken up in the wee hours of the morning, anxious and in the grip of fear. "I shouldn't have said that, now I'm going to lose that person.""I wish I...
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Anxiety and Worry

Forgive Yourself

One of the most destructive forces in our own minds is the critical voice that seems to comment on much of what we do.

“Why did I say this? I look like such a fool.”

“I could have jumped in here and helped my colleague out, I’m such a dope.”

“This didn’t turn out right, I have to do it all over again.”

It seems like in many ways we are...
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Anxiety and Worry

But You Said…

So often, we are unaware of the effect of our words on others.
Something we say may linger in another person's mind, and we underestimate the importance it may have on them.
Something that was said weeks ago may linger in our minds, and is brought up after the other long forgot about it.

Our perception, as well as our memory, is extremely selective.

We tend to pay attention to only...
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Anxiety and Worry

Love Your Body


A poor body image is often connected to low self esteem: We don't like not having a perfect flat belly. We hate our poor thighs and ankles because we want them to look differently.

We squeeze every pore and rip the skin off our cuticles to try and gain control over what is so hard to control:our emotions.

When we are anxious or feel critical of ourselves, it seems that we have to do something. We have to distract...
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Being Defensive

We all get defensive at times. I know I do when I'm having a really bad day and feel like I'm not being heard or misunderstood. And let's face it, we are not being heard or understood by others all the time. It's part of being alive.

Defensiveness is one of the most destructive dynamics among couples. One, or maybe both at the same time feel tired, fragile...
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