Archives for January, 2012

Anxiety and Worry

Write Your Heart Out

I participated in a writer's group meeting this past weekend, and was very taken by the earnestness and depth of the idea that writing can provide a true benefit for our emotional well being.
Everyone has a story to tell. Everyone can enhance another person's experience by telling their story. We find comfort in being able to relate to each other, and we find meaning in being heard...
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Anxiety and Worry

The Power of Middle Age

Being in your 40's or 50's isn't usually associated with a lot of positive vibes in our culture. It's the age where mental and physical powers are palpably declining, when lofty goals have long given way to harsh realities. It's the time when men are supposedly falling into a midlife crisis and women mourn the end of their ability to have kids.

But middle...
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Anxiety and Worry

Sticking It Out

I recently entered a new Zen center to deepen my Buddhist studies. One of the reasons why I prefer to do it this way is because I enjoy making new friends in a setting like this: You meet the same people at a regular time and place and, over time, get to know one another on an intimate level.
But it's not always easy to join an...
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How Others Influence Our Thinking

I have many people coming into my practice who aren't happy with their decision making skills. "I am way to easily influenced" they will say. "Whatever my wife/father/boss/girlfriend says, I will take it to heart." They want to be more autonomous, more determined and less swayed by others in the way they think about the world and themselves.
While it certainly is problematic if your whole personality is taken over by...
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The Crutch of Psychiatric Drugs

Addictions are very common among vulnerable and fragile personalities, and a certain dependency on substances goes hand in hand with this tendency. Psychotropic medications are no exception.
As a psychologist in private practice who accepts medical insurance reimbursement, I feel privileged because my practice includes a wide variety of adults and families from all over the world with truly diverse histories as well as truly...
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How To Nurture Yourself

We all go through times when we feel low and depleted and there's nobody there to comfort us. Or maybe there is somebody who  is usually available, but is exhausted and stressed out herself.
Sometimes the depletion is chronic and our psychological makeup resembles a bottomless pit of needs and wants, and no person, no...
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Extend Yourself

The half life of an average new year's resolutions is about a day or so. Just my guess, since that's what this type of resolution usually looks like in my mind. "Tomorrow I'll start to diet." "Come Monday I'll plan to go to the gym three times a week." "I'll meditate every morning." "I'll call one of my old high school friends once a week." Blahblahblah.
It's not about planning to...
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