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The Cheated Children of Parental Alienation

‘For all sad words of tongue and pen, The saddest are these, “It might have been”.’ Those bitter words written by John Greenleaf Whittier always come to mind when I consider how much children affected by Parental Alienation are robbed of what is rightfully theirs.

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  • September 5, 2018 at 12:49 pm

    I came from a very loving functional family. My first marriage was to a sociopath. When we separated it was not my choice, and my kids had witnessed much abuse of me by their father. Yet when I villainized him to my teenage kids, they started defending HIM. So I quickly realized that trying to alienate my kids back fired on to me. So I stopped and 25 years later I still don’t badmouth their father to them….unless they are the ones doin the bashing. lol. BUT now I am watching my stepdaughter trying to make her son hate his father yet she is the one who destroyed her marriage. The child, since they split at 2 ½, has been showing violence towards animals and people, mainly his own mother. She doesn’t think her 8 year old understands what she is saying on the phone but he hears everything. Now he is having big troubles at school. Tantrums n school if she can even get him to go to school. This is so sad and my husband and Ii are trying to make up for what his mother is doing to him. She’s got so many issues and will not see what she is doing to her son. Any advice?

  • September 8, 2018 at 10:34 pm

    “It might have been.” Many thanks to Ivy Blonwyn for this heartfelt essay. Those of us who have been through this pain always struggle to articulate it. I’ve chosen to write a novel about custody, parental alienation, and abduction from a loving and devoted dad’s perspective. It’s called HALF THE CHILD. ( I hope it touches many of the kids and parents of both genders who have lived such dramas.

  • September 11, 2018 at 11:44 am

    My mother was the toxic one who villanized my dad even before they separated and divorced. After that,she did it even more. We bought it,and I hated my dad. He never did the same back to her though. After I got married,my dad patiently kept calling and eventually we became friends.The catch? Now I hate her! I haven’t spoken with her in 15 yrs now either. Shes a narcissist who made my fathers and our lives hell. (I can see now what I couldn’t see then!) Shes still that way.My 2 sisters still talk to her. We were never dirty though,because we did all the cleaning.I feel at 56,like she stole part of my life.A very big one too. One that includes parents,families on either side,and childhood itself.It still affects my current life in ways you don’t understand if it didn’t happen to you. (it has little to do with self pity) People don’t realize what this does to a person. Even the relatives talked dirt on one or the other to us. Now I have no family and my dad passed away 6 yrs ago. I have my own adult kids,but they don’t live close by.


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