4 thoughts on “Aspie Parent, Neurotypical Child: Five Lessons

  • July 3, 2018 at 3:54 am

    but since most aspergers are….male, does this info apply to an asby ….daddy?

    • July 3, 2018 at 12:16 pm

      I would say yes, as my partner functions the same way with his young adult children. I feel conflicted about how to help them understand that he is not uncaring, but quite the opposite.
      I find it interesting that Blonwyn also writes about Parental Alienation, as his ex-wife has used his way of interacting with them as fodder for why they shouldn’t interact with him anymore. With 2 of the children (boys) having been diagnosed with Asperger’s, she should know better than anyone why their father interacts the way he does. It makes me very sad, as I know hurts him very deeply.

    • July 3, 2018 at 1:38 pm

      very interesting question. im not sure.

      i only found out at age 60 from my therapist , that the father of my two grown up kids who also sees same therapist….about our lost son, that she is quite sure his
      father has Aspergers.
      ALL these many many years …my guilt about my handsome lost ….son, now 40 years old was due to my bad parenting & walking out when he was only 3.
      my daughter says we never showed her intimacy…& BOTH my kids blame us.
      what a mess. but this revelation that dad has Aspies has really thrown a spanner in the works !

  • July 3, 2018 at 12:14 pm

    Thank you for writing this. I am also an “Aspie” mom (there are a lot of us out here). I have 2 grown children who are autistic as well and one who is NT.

    Thank you for hilighting the fact that, although a lot of us do have trouble showing affection, relating to our children, processing emotions etc. you are right – we care and feel deeply.

    And just know – most of us are keenly aware of our own struggles and how they affect you.


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