2 thoughts on “Sexual Abuse or Merely Bad Boundaries?

  • June 25, 2018 at 7:24 pm

    It’s similar to when medical stuff needs to be done to a child and they feel sexually violated it. E.g. to do a clean catch urine sample as a child, having a parent wash down your genital area (long after being out of nappies) prior to catching the specimen. Even just having them watching and helping you to catch the sample was bad enough. Or Dr’s inserting urethral catheters as part of tests without the child really knowing or understanding what is happening to them. I was severely affected by procedures such as these which continued until I was in my teens. But, none of it is considered sexual abuse, even though the impacts are pretty much the same.

  • June 26, 2018 at 8:32 am

    remember good boundaries is only been emphasized over the last 15 years.

    people are far more aware of them & openly discuss them. As a teen of the 70’s
    & promiscuity the whole boundary thing was pretty much non existant & in fact those who even talked about them was seen as uptight.
    as societal norms evolve & change we ossilate I think between what we consider normal. . . I do think people mindlessly parent as they were parented …until someone objective & TRUSTED teaches us to reconsider….certain behaviors that negativly impact us…


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