2 thoughts on “My Husband, His Porn and How I Cope

  • March 17, 2018 at 7:58 pm

    I never had a problem with porn use by my past partners because to me so long as it did not take away from our relationship, and it was no excessive unhealthy use who cares? I had and have no moral opposition to it. We often watched it together. But that all changed when unbeknownst to me I began dating a porn addict. My first clue was he could not reach orgasm in bed, ever and he was young and healthy. Needless to say it was his porn use. How do I know that? Because when he stopped so did his problems in bed. So while I get your point, and agree that porn use by a spouse and certainly porn addiction is not a woman’s fault, I think your husband using porn to cope with uncomfortable feelings is a slippery slope. Women need to be made more aware of porn addiction and it’s effect on relationships.

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  • March 18, 2018 at 6:29 pm

    Although this article assumes a lot of myths about porn and ‘addiction’, I prefer to emphasize the writer’s compassionate recognition that a partner’s porn use, and even problem use, are not reflections of her as a sexual partner. They do not constitute infidelity, or even betrayal unless such use is an violation of an explicit of an agreement not to use it. Most couples do not have such conversations, and proceed on differing assumptions.
    To evaluate what porn means in your relationship, it is crucial to discuss it.

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