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Start Saying ‘No’!

We all deserve a guilty pleasure, right? The Jeremy Kyle Show: that’s mine. While it spotlights the worst of human behavior and the sickest of dysfunctional, incestuous, adulterous relationships, there’s clearly no lack of our fellow citizens whose convoluted lives provide the sensational fodder for the show.

What happened to us, Great Britain? What happened to us as a nation? To quote one of our greatest writers, George Bernard Shaw, we are the nation of ‘Shakespeare, Milton and the Bible’. When did we sink to widespread drug use, blackout drinking and rampant sexual activity replete with the transferring of STIs and conception of unwanted children.

Are we not better than this? More adult? More mature? When did we sink so low?

As parents and children often appear together on the show, it’s easy to see that the apples don’t fall far from the tree. Is it not a parent’s responsibility to raise the next generation to be better than they are. To raise them up, to wish better for them. To teach them not to repeat our mistakes? To set the example?

Shhhhhh, can you hear it? That’s Queen Victoria spinning in her grave for we have failed our children, Great Britain.

Women of Great Britain: why do we put up with it!? Yes, many men are cheaters. Repeat cheaters. Chronic cheaters. But who are they cheating with? These aren’t relationships. They’re quickies behind the chip shop with someone.

So again I ask, women, why are you doing it? Cause I’m pretty sure it has little do with an actual desire for sex, a high libido and certainly not love. ‘No’ is a perfectly acceptable answer to these cheap affairs, Ladies, and solves the cheating problem, the STI epidemic and unwanted pregnancy in one fell swoop. When we reclaim our dignity, Ladies, the men will be forced to reclaim theirs but we have great power as we lead the way.

Men, what happened?! Gone are the days when men treated women with respect instead of bragging “I can get any bird I want for dinner and a bag of weed’. No, no, no! You disgrace yourself.

When Judge Berg wrote that The Jeremy Kyle Show is ‘a plain disgrace which goes under the guise of entertainment’, I don’t agree. Jezza is the much needed voice of reason in a nation that’s lost its moral code. I consider myself lucky to be raised by a parents who taught their children the same morals that Jezza so emphatically expresses and taught them to me and my siblings as clearly, emphatically and aggressively as Jezza, God bless ‘im.

No, I say the show is a necessary ‘evil’ in a nation that has lost its moral compass. A cautionary series of tales that, yes, entertains but also puts the fear of God, the shudder of ‘there but for the Grace of God goes I’ into the soul of the great British public.

So I ask again, what happened to us, Great Britain? Where did we lose our decency, our self-control, our good judgment? Do we still have it? Have we taught it to our children, but more powerfully, have we modeled it for our children with our own lives?

Do we cheat on our partner?

Do we tolerate chronic cheating by our partner?

Do we take drugs or fund others’ drug use?

Do we practice safe sex? Are we promiscuous?

How can we expect the next generation to live well, long, healthily and happily if we ourselves are not their role model? Or do you not want your child to be healthier, happier and more stable than you?

There was a time when the sun never set on the British Empire and the world looked to us for a model of elevated thought, culture, art, music, theatre, education, lifestyle. Now we provide salacious headlines for The Jeremy Kyle Show!?!

Wake up, Great Britain, and start saying ‘No!’ to the ills and evils destroying our nation. When there are no more horrible stories to tell Jeremy Kyle will be the day we reclaim our greatness.

We as a nation are better than this.

Start Saying ‘No’!

Ivy Blonwyn

Ivy Blonwyn is a Welsh freelance writer and photographer. She and her husband have been trying, unsuccessfully, to start a family for several years. Ivy can relate to the pain, confusion, jealousy and sense of injustice that accompanies infertility. But she also knows the pain of being a step-mother to children who’s vindictive birth mother has systematically employed Parental Alienation to distance them from their birth-father, Ivy’s husband, Rhys. Her articles, often illustrated with her photos, are intended to validate and comfort those who suffer from infertility, Parental Alienation and the pain of sexual abuse. She finds solace in indulging her passion for plein air photography during long tramps with her husband through the fields, hills and castles of Cardiff. Follow Ivy on Facebook at or contact her at [email protected]

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Blonwyn, I. (2018). Start Saying ‘No’!. Psych Central. Retrieved on August 14, 2020, from


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