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Loneliness

“Never been lonely, Never been lied to, Never had to scuffle in fear, Nothing denied to” Paul Simon 

“Why do the babies starve, When there’s enough food to feed the world, Why when there are so many of us, Are there people still alone” Tracy L Chapman

Loneliness is something that everybody who has lived has experienced. 

Alone and lost photoThis world is a frightening place. There are juggernauts of evil trying to crush the common man. Life is a battle against what seems insurmountable odds. Bad as this is, some people feel that they are alone in this struggle. I want to clearly tell you that you are not alone, there are many on your side.

In the time of ancient Israel, there was the prophet Elijah. Like any true man of God, he was kicking up some dust into the faces of the establishment. What was Elijah’s crime? He was simply telling the truth. He was calling out a wicked and evil people and showing them their sins. Despite having God on his side, the man did work miracles and got messages from the divine, Elijah felt all alone. But God answered him and said there were seven thousand who did not bow their knee to Baal.

Elijah was obviously unaware of these people because if he was cognizant of their presence then he wouldn’t have felt alone. I am telling you today that in society there exists a good number of people who care about you. You may not know them, and you may not see them, but they are out there in society. They are the ones who have rejected this wicked world and live a life contrary to the normal.

Loneliness is perhaps the greatest contributor to peer pressure. Human beings have a natural tendency to want to belong to a group. By being in a group we become a part of something greater than ourselves.  Indeed the sum of the individuals is less than the power of the group. You can see this in all sorts of aspects of life, whether it be sports teams, religions, fraternities, political parties, the list goes on. By joining a group, however, we surrender part of what we are to adhere to the dictates of the organization. Because of loneliness, many will compromise their own beliefs and ideals just to belong.

There are many problems in our country today. That is nothing new at all. Problems are the norm for society. If one can come to understand that they are not facing their problems alone there is a great comfort. A great number of our problems are societal problems. We are not alone in facing the dragon along but rather there is a whole ragtag army with us. With numbers comes strength it is just up to us to organize and then exert our collective will.

Social media is, of course, a tool. It can be used for good or bad. There is the practice of shaming individuals which is an extension of bullying. Conversely, social media is used to share thoughts and ideas. It is a place where people with common interests can communicate one to another. But social media is not enough. We are human beings and we need the company of other human beings. Companionship is as necessary as eating, drinking or breathing.

A big contributor to loneliness is the feeling of inadequacy of self. It is a double-edged sword. People feel unworthy because they are alone and thus they fail to reach out. Also, many other people are alone in a crowd. These people interact socially quite well but live their lives keeping up a facade. They are living a lie, with the loudest being the most insecure.

When I was a child I felt very isolated and unloved. Things were not well at home and the neighborhood was quite brutal. Still, I had enough companionship to meet my needs. As I grew up into an adult so did my ability to socialize. But more than that I became aware of who I was. Once I defined myself I could then go in the direction I wanted to go. The sad thing is that many people never come to terms with themselves. They just meander through life alone and lost.

Life is a journey and I’d like to share my journey with you. Please check out my memoirs “More Than The Madness.” https://amzn.to/2KZBkDe

 

Loneliness

John Kaniecki

John Kaniecki is a full-time caregiver for his wife Sylvia. He is a published writer and works with the Church of Christ. John has lived with bipolar for over thirty years and has been hospitalized nine times, three of which were committed. John has chronicled his life story in his memoirs "More Than The Madness". Also of note is John's book of poetry "Murmurings Of A Mad Man" which are poems written about being committed in Graystone Psychiatric Hospital. John believes in the power of words to change the world for the better. His website can be seen here. His books can be seen on Amazon. You can visit his personal blog "Turn A Page Or Two" here.


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Kaniecki, J. (2018). Loneliness. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 17, 2018, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/fragments/2018/09/loneliness/

 

Last updated: 1 Sep 2018
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 1 Sep 2018
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