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What Will They Say About You?

“I’ve always had a deep respect and I mean that most sincere; The band is just fantastic, that is really what I think, Oh, by the way, which one’s Pink?” Roger Waters 

I am listening  to the people eulogizing John McCain, which brings me this question, ‘What will they say about you?’ sacrifice photoA funeral is, of course, a place to say nice things about the deceased. I am sure no invitations to speak were given to the people John McCain bombed or for the citizens of the countries that Senator McCain vigorously advocated imperialistic wars against. I say this because in the world we live in there are always many sides to the story. There are other voices speaking on the life of John McCain than the well dressed, well-polished speakers giving well-prepared words.

So I ask you when you die, and you will indeed die, ‘What will they say about you?’

The Bible says a man is known by his fruits. Words are very cheap and actions mean everything. I think about the church I belong to. The Church of Christ is an extended family and though there are numerous congregations we consider all part of one greater body. I know some people who are pew sitters, that is they only come to church services and do no service. There are others who are very active in ministering to the poor and needy. There are some who talk the talk standing before an audience proclaiming the word of God but will never go out into the street to tell the gospel message while others have a zeal for the lost talking to their neighbors and strangers.

I start with what I am familiar with because it is a good point to extend from. What kind of person would you coworkers say that you are? After all, work is an extremely important aspect of life as it consumes so much of our time. In fact, many in society identify primarily with their job. That is their occupations defines them as the most important aspect of their existence. Are you kind to your fellow workers? Are you ruthless and manipulative? Are you aloof? Perhaps how a person does a job is more important than what a person does?

How are you to your family? Do you provide for their physical needs? Do you provide for their emotional and spiritual needs?  Are you faithful to your spouse? Do you encourage your children and help them to be all that they can be in life?

You see we all begin life with a blank page. When we are young we learn many lessons, by teaching and examples. But as we grow older there comes a time when we question the answers we were given. Some come to reject the truths as lies while others zealously embrace them.

Of course, the bottom line is what, if anything motivates you in life. Some people are ruled by greed and selfishness. Others dedicate themselves to their families. Of course, life is never black and white but there is always both shades of gray and colors involved.

On the television, during the funeral, the speakers are telling personal stories of the late senator. What stories do others have to share that they experienced with you? Would you be ashamed if they told them or would you be proud?

Always beware when the world has nothing but praise to give to people. The majority of my heroes were villainized and slandered in their lifetimes. Only as time progressed did these people eventually achieve a status of respect. This starts out with Jesus who as called crazy, a sinner and a demon. In fact, the Good Lord was so despised in his lifetime that he was crucified at the demands of the general population.

You see it is very interesting what people will say about you but in the end, it means not a single thing. There is only one opinion that matters and that is God. God will not only see all of your deeds but he will look upon one’s heart. I used to work with an engineering company and the boss donated money to a certain charity. He didn’t do so because he had any compassion or because he cared for anybody, but rather because one of the clients was enthusiastic about the charity. In other words, it was good business to do so.

So take a long, hard and, honest look at your life. Think about what your story will be. If it isn’t something you would be proud of there is time to change your life. And remember, in the end, only  God’s opinion will matter.

Please check out my thoughts in my book “Letting It Out”. I am sure you will love reading it.


What Will They Say About You?

John Kaniecki

John Kaniecki is a full-time caregiver for his wife Sylvia. He is a published writer and works with the Church of Christ. John has lived with bipolar for over thirty years and has been hospitalized nine times, three of which were committed. John has chronicled his life story in his memoirs "More Than The Madness". Also of note is John's book of poetry "Murmurings Of A Mad Man" which are poems written about being committed in Graystone Psychiatric Hospital. John believes in the power of words to change the world for the better. His website can be seen here. His books can be seen on Amazon. You can visit his personal blog "Turn A Page Or Two" here.

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Kaniecki, J. (2018). What Will They Say About You?. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 10, 2019, from


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