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Treating Others Right

“Come on people now, Smile on your brother, Everybody get together, Try to love one another, Right now” MICH HANSEN, JONAS JAYBERG, PHILLIP JACKSON 

Learning how to treat your fellow man is probably the most important lesson that you can learn in life. 

Kiss on the cheek photoWhen I worked at the engineering school I got a job with the development office. I would travel with the vice president and we would talk to successful alumni. Of course, development meant fundraising and successful meant having money. Anyway, do you know what qualifications the alumni had in being successful? It wasn’t getting good grades in school, but rather it was those who just barely graduated but had good interpersonal skills.

I recall how the owner of the engineering company would talk. He would express to another about doing something for their ‘mutual benefit.’ Ah, the nuances of language.

Unfortunately, the world seems to honor dishonesty. I have seen my share of liars and conman. The scum that they are would tell a lie without the slightest hesitation to get their way. In fact, they turned their low life behaviors into an art form. I am glad that these selfish individuals are gone from my life.

Perhaps the key thing in dealing with another person is that in that person’s life ‘self’ is most likely their number one concern. There is a lot to be said about being compassionate and kind. People will remember being treated right. In the long run, the high road is the way to go. Treat others you would like to be treated.

In the United States, we are taught a Eurocentrist history and philosophy. However, we are not a homogenous society by any means. Unfortunately, those with  European background do not take the same amount of time to learn about their fellow citizens. I personally have studied the history of  African Americans, Native Americans, and the labor movement. This ignorance exhibited only works because the power dynamics have the ‘white male’ is the one with dominance.

Still, the ignorance makes for a very volatile society. When people counter ‘black lives matter’ with ‘blue lives matter’ I know that there is a problem. To explain it succinctly ‘black lives matter’ is not declaring that any lives are of less worth. Rather it is saying that ‘blacks’ are killed by the police at a disproportionate rate compared to the rest of the population. As a side note Native Americans too fit this criterion. In fact, the racism against Native Americans is probably fiercer than the exhibited to any minority. ‘Black lives matter’ is trying to fix a specific problem while not marginalizing others.

So the lesson is that if you want to understand somebody learn about where they came from. Study their history and culture. A little bit of knowledge goes a long way. I was talking to somebody who belonged to the Nation of Islam. When in our discussion I mentioned Wallace Fard he was quite impressed that I knew who that individual was.

Perception is a very important thing when it comes to dealing with others. People, based on what makes them up will look at the identical situation with different opinions. Take an ‘Israeli’ and a Palestinian and ask them the history of their land. When you compare the two stories I bet you would think that they weren’t talking about the same land. In understanding others, we must not only understand the truth of the matter but the falsehoods that one has been taught.

Christopher Columbus discovered America in 1492? True or false? Well that is a matter of perception because two hundred million people were living in the ‘Americas’

Manifest Destiny, the belief that God gave some mandate for ‘white America’ to settle the Americas. True or false? False, it is a flagrant and racist lie.

For some reason, the people in the United States considered themselves superior and felt obliged to steal the lands from the indigenous peoples living there. To justify their evil they came up with fancy and complicated doctrines. Here’s another one social evolution. This a derivative of Darwin’s theory of evolution saying that only the strongest will survive. This again is a lie used to justify ruthless and wicked behavior by the elite.

Careful now, the lying isn’t over. Remember the weapons of mass destruction that were supposedly the reason for the invasion of Iraq? It was a total fabrication and the U.N. weapons inspectors told it so.

So to complete the circle I cite the historical falsehoods to challenge what you think that you really know. I was one fully indoctrinated into the American way but my eyes were opened. I have made an honest inquiry into life and my results would probably shock you. To put it succinctly the general population is being manipulated by lies to get you to do their bidding.

Smile, say hello, be kind, listen to the story of another and don’t judge. Be open-minded into other ideas as well.

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Down On The Avenue

It’s black and blue down on the avenue
The brothers are into free enterprise
And everything I say is absolutely true
Except in the parts where I speak lies

We’re all equal over here
See slavery disappear
Old money lost control
White men invented rock and roll
You ain’t got a clue
Till you’ve been down on the avenue

You can’t win with that imported sin
So get on your knees and be born again
The worst gang is dressed up in blue
And the F.B.I. haven’t got a clue
Nobody tells the company what to do
We’re all happy down on the avenue

We’re all equal over here
See slavery disappear
Old money lost control
White men invented rock and roll
You ain’t got a clue
Till you’ve been down on the avenue

I am still angry over Wounded Knee
I am still fighting to become free
And it’s sad that I know your history
When to some it is just a mystery

We’re all equal over here
See slavery disappear
Old money lost control
White men invented rock and roll
You ain’t got a clue
Till you’ve been down on the avenue

Government people are pawns of money
And this song isn’t meant to be funny
And they laugh all the way to the banks
And they don’t even give them any thanks

We’re all equal over here
See slavery disappear
Old money lost control
White men invented rock and roll
You ain’t got a clue
Till you’ve been down on the avenue

 

Photos by Internet Archive Book Images,

Treating Others Right

John Kaniecki

John Kaniecki is a full-time caregiver for his wife Sylvia. He is a published writer and works with the Church of Christ. John has lived with bipolar for over thirty years and has been hospitalized nine times, three of which were committed. John has chronicled his life story in his memoirs "More Than The Madness". Also of note is John's book of poetry "Murmurings Of A Mad Man" which are poems written about being committed in Graystone Psychiatric Hospital. John believes in the power of words to change the world for the better. His website can be seen here. His books can be seen on Amazon. You can visit his personal blog "Turn A Page Or Two" here.


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APA Reference
Kaniecki, J. (2018). Treating Others Right. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 20, 2018, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/fragments/2018/08/treating-others-right/

 

Last updated: 21 Aug 2018
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 21 Aug 2018
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