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Perfection is something that no human being can or will attain, yet many acts as if they can do nothing wrong. 

perfection photoIs there ever perfection in life. Okay, there’s Jesus but we’ll exclude him from the classification of normal because he was, in fact, the Son Of God and thus not ordinary in any way.

I wonder if anything is ever perfect produced by man on planet Earth. In thinking of this article, I remembered the idea of pitching a perfect game in baseball. A perfect game is of course when a pitcher gets every batter out without a walk or an error. But to really be perfect one must pitch a perfect game every time out. Of course, this never has come close to happening.

Instead of allowing the lack of perfection to get you down one should strive to be perfect. Accepting failure, recognizing faults in self, is, of course, a very healthy thing. When one strives to do better real growth and change can happen. If a person is satisfied with their state of being or worse thing that they have arrived in some perfect state, growth becomes stagnated. While few would declare that they are perfect many acts as if they are.

One must always consider the possibility that they are wrong, even about basic things. If one has this attitude the skill of listening will prevail. For if you honestly believe that somebody else with an opinion or idea contrary to yours might be valid you will attempt to understand them. Unfortunately in this world when somebody presents an idea conflicting with the status quo they are shouted down.

Almost every advance in society has been met with its fair share of naysayers. There is always that reactionary force which holds power. This faction resists any kind of change because they are quite content with the status quo. Blinded by selfishness this elite group fears to recreate the world because they fear to lose what they have. This terror overshadows over an improvement that may come.

Mankind has been traveling a path towards equality for all people on planet Earth. We began with some despot with absolute power. God installed the king and thus he had a divine right to exist. The king’s power got limited and nobles had rights. Eventually, people got more share of the power with the right to vote. The next move would be to a socialistic society where the wealth is more equally shared. Of course, this is met with bitter resistance by the people who have enough to live happily with.

Contentment, therefore, is a very precarious thing. I believe that many people realize that something is missing in their lives. In fact, I declare that if you find nothing is missing in your own life you are only deceiving yourself. If you look at the state of the world and are satisfied you are either blind or selfish. How can you say all is well as the planet is being ecologically destroyed, wars rampage, and masses are in bitter poverty? If you fail the consider your fellow man you are in fact evil. We should be concerned with the alien as if it was our very selves suffering.

When you improve yourself you will be improving the world around you. Compassion will motivate you to get involved with people who are not doing so well. When you embrace the misfortunate and poor you will learn their story. You will be able to see the world through their eyes and understand their point of view. This wisdom is invaluable and it will change your life radically. The question is if you have the courage to do the right thing once you learn what it is.

Human beings are in fact, one family. When we come to accept that understanding we will then be able to move on from this divisive competitiveness to a world of cooperation. Together we could create something very wonderful. It will take bravery and vision to grow into the glorious tomorrow. But the real steps you can take are tangible, look inside, see where you are lacking and change.

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John Kaniecki

John Kaniecki is a full-time caregiver for his wife Sylvia. He is a published writer and works with the Church of Christ. John has lived with bipolar for over thirty years and has been hospitalized nine times, three of which were committed. John has chronicled his life story in his memoirs "More Than The Madness". Also of note is John's book of poetry "Murmurings Of A Mad Man" which are poems written about being committed in Graystone Psychiatric Hospital. John believes in the power of words to change the world for the better. His website can be seen here. His books can be seen on Amazon. You can visit his personal blog "Turn A Page Or Two" here.

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Kaniecki, J. (2018). Perfection. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 16, 2019, from


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