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One Step At A Time

“Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.” God

How do you make it through life? I mean the tough times when all seems bleak and not a ray of hope shining. One step at a time. 

Hike  photo“’Every journey begins with a first step,’ spoke the man thinking he was so wise. ‘What a fool,’ said the Eagle to the Salmon.” FeatherLeaf

Life is not fair and the struggles we go through are not always universal. Personally, I suffer from bipolar disorder. I am a full-time caregiver for my wife who suffers from dementia. Both my parents and my brother died because of cancer. I’ve had other friends who went through cancer as well. But a lot of things have never happened to me. Fortunately, I have never been homeless. I have talked to a lot of people who are, but unless you experience something firsthand you can’t claim intimate knowledge of it.

Everybody has their problems, though from some vantage points they may seem trivial, however they are not. Look at people clawing and fighting to make themselves a stellar career. They have a lot of money and prestige but still, they face frustrations and difficulties. It is, of course, nothing as serious to other tragedies but to the business executive, it is what they got, and the monster is real and hideous.

So how does one go through a time when all seems hopeless? One must have that faith that everything, in the long run, will work itself out. That in fact dreams do come true.

I am presently a struggling artist. A writer, poet, and lyricist. Because of my situation of taking care of my wife I cannot work a regular job, so I try, as best I can to devote my time to my art. That somehow I can support our financial needs through it. But it seems that hope will never materialize. But what are my alternatives? To surrender and give up? I cannot accept those options. I only fail if I don’t give it my best shot.

One thing about walking the road is that little blessings and successes will pop up. For example, I was notified this morning that a poem of mine had been accepted for publication in some magazine. It was a delight. It was like I have been wandering in the desert, with my throat dried and parched and somebody gave me a drink of water. Trivial as it might seem it lifted my spirits. It helped fuel the enthusiasm that is present as I now write these words. When something good happens celebrate the accomplishment.

It is in the struggle that the character of the person is created. That the lessons of faith, hope, perseverance are manifested and learned. A long drawn out battle with life will make the person into something noble and grand, at least if the person learns the right lessons. I have observed in elderly people there are two types. That one is very happy, optimistic and loving, while the opposite exists. That some people close to death are toxic and bitter about life. I now can understand why.

Is the cup half full or half empty? It doesn’t matter just be grateful you have something to drink.

Taking the next step must be done even if you can’t see the next one down the line. I remember when my friend’s parents were going through some bad times. My mother was assisting Mr. R and Mrs. R. Mr. R was suffering from diabetes and as a result, he was getting a lot of hospital bills for astronomical amounts. Mrs. R was desperate and didn’t know what to do. My mother got a box and every time that a bill came my mother would simply say, “Throw it into the box.”The time came that Mr. R passed away and finally Mrs. R. followed. And for all those bills that cause them so much worry and trepidation in the big picture they didn’t mean a thing.

So keep on living. You are not alone in your struggles one hundred percent of mankind is going through something in their lives. Be a blessing to somebody today if it is within your power. Remember we all share humanity.

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One Step At A Time

John Kaniecki

John Kaniecki is a full-time caregiver for his wife Sylvia. He is a published writer and works with the Church of Christ. John has lived with bipolar for over thirty years and has been hospitalized nine times, three of which were committed. John has chronicled his life story in his memoirs "More Than The Madness". Also of note is John's book of poetry "Murmurings Of A Mad Man" which are poems written about being committed in Graystone Psychiatric Hospital. John believes in the power of words to change the world for the better. His website can be seen here. His books can be seen on Amazon. You can visit his personal blog "Turn A Page Or Two" here.

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Kaniecki, J. (2018). One Step At A Time. Psych Central. Retrieved on June 16, 2019, from


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