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Grading On A Curve

 “Judge not, that ye be not judged.  For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.  And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?” God 

What do you expect from others? Are you critical or do you overlook things? 

Shadows photoThe world is gray and definitely not black and white. Fiction has poisoned our mentality where the monolithic evil fights the pure wholesome good. After much turmoil, trauma and of course entertainment, in the end, the good guy triumphs. Life is nothing like this at all.

We are all broken in some way or other. There is some fundamental area in our life that needs improvement. If you disagree with this statement I suggest you check the arrogance meter because that would be your problem. Also, many times were cannot discern our deficiency.

At this point in life, I can see both the negatives and the positives in those who are close to me. It is hard to tell what a person is like from casual observance. There was this person in my church who I thought was a decent man. In fact, I signed a form for a character reference so that he could become a bounty hunter. This man eventually went to rape a woman or at least attempt to rape. Most likely he was guilty of other crimes as well.

In the same way, I want others to overlook my faults I overlook the faults of others. I know that within me is no perfection and if  I expect it from others I am going to frustrate myself. I am not turning a blind eye, rather I see the wrong and overlook it. I help people when I can but so much in life takes an internal realization to start recovery or improvement. Like an alcoholic or a drug addict, until they admit they have a problem there really is very little one can do to help them, outside of hanging on and being a friend.

Living life this way helps one tremendously. Overlooking a problem is denying reality, it is setting you up for a fall. Because when a person lets you down from your expectations it hurts. It’s like rooting for a sports team and not anticipating a win. You’re not happy when they lose but your life doesn’t get shattered.

We must take this lack of perfection a step further and apply it to society in general. Government is a very important area. How could a government made out of imperfect people act perfectly? It is impossible. Yet, our leaders act with so much self-righteous arrogance. I recall Bill Clinton when confronted with his lying to Congress he had this to say, “It depends upon what the meaning of the word is… is.” I wonder if I lied under oath in court and used that line on the judge. After the judge got done laughing I’d be in serious trouble.

In fact, when looking at the government we should approach things from the other side. Instead of realizing that all good has bad,  we should think that in the darkest evil there is some good. One day the truth is going to come out of everything from the Kennedy assassination to all the pedophilia that our elected leaders are engrossed in. Castles of sand will melt into the sea eventually. The bottom line is if you put your hope in a man you will be terribly disappointed. If you think our politicians are righteous you are in blatant denial.

There is something in a person that makes them the way they are. My dad, for example, was a child of the depression. While never going hungry, because his dad was a baker, the experience had a profound effect on him. Money became something that was extremely important to him. Beyond his greed and lust for mammon, which he definitely had, I believe also that he viewed money as a security. Something that having would help him and his family avoid some hardships he went through and witnessed others suffer from. Saying all this my dad didn’t sell his soul out for the dollar bill. He pursued chemistry as a trade where he could probably have found other occupations more lucrative.

Calling politicians the scum of the Earth insults the scum. Not only do politicians lie but they lie in such a persuasive and convincing matter that millions are fooled. The bottom line is that they will do almost anything and everything to get into power and when they get into power they will do anything and everything to keep powers. When an honest politician gets in power it is a short lived rarity. Still, I won’t condemn them as totally evil, just mostly. There still lives a spark of humanity and there is hope for them all. So I expect the government not to help the people and when they do something good I am delighted. If you look at things from the other vantage point you will be let down, day after day after day.

See the good and evil and hope for the best expecting the worst.

Please check out my book that makes a statement on the evil in society. “I Should Have Been A Rock Star” is a very entertaining science fiction books the lifts the rock to expose the underbelly of satanic evil in our society.

Photos by Robert Couse-Baker,

Grading On A Curve

John Kaniecki

John Kaniecki is a full-time caregiver for his wife Sylvia. He is a published writer and works with the Church of Christ. John has lived with bipolar for over thirty years and has been hospitalized nine times, three of which were committed. John has chronicled his life story in his memoirs "More Than The Madness". Also of note is John's book of poetry "Murmurings Of A Mad Man" which are poems written about being committed in Graystone Psychiatric Hospital. John believes in the power of words to change the world for the better. His website can be seen here. His books can be seen on Amazon. You can visit his personal blog "Turn A Page Or Two" here.

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Kaniecki, J. (2018). Grading On A Curve. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 15, 2019, from


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