“Now here I go again, I see the crystal visions, I keep my visions to myself, it’s only me, Who wants to wrap around your dreams and,, Have you any dreams you’d like to sell? Dreams of loneliness, Like a heartbeat, drives you mad” Stevie Nicks
“Night after night, Going round and round my brain, His dream is driving me insane, In the corner of some foreign field, The gunner sleeps tonight, What’s done is done, We cannot just write off his final scene, Take heed of his dream” Roer Waters.
We all have dreams but most of us live nightmares.
I remember at the bowling alley I met this guy named Gary. He was a nice, meek man and he was bowling with his family in the next lane. We talked between frames and he told me that his job was a quality assurance person in a perfume factory. Who in the world as a child dreams to work in such a capacity? Then figure out all the mundane jobs in the world that pay minimum wage. I’m not knocking them, all jobs have dignity. I used to stock the shelves at a store for minimum wage. But it wasn’t something that I aspired to do, it wasn’t something that I could wake up and say great I am stocking shelves again. Though the truth of the matter was I found a lot of enjoyment in the work. It just wasn’t my dream.
Do you even know your dream? A lot of athletes set their eyes on professional sports. While I would never discourage somebody’s desire, this outcome is a very difficult one to attain. Yet, on the other hand, there is a handful who do make it to the pros. Even the pros dream of being all-stars and the all-stars dream of becoming the greatest ever.
Broadway actor, movie star, millionaire or billionaire, president of the United States, rock star, best selling author, model, the list goes on and one. Reality at times smacks us in the face and tells us that sometimes our dreams are unattainable. That is something about maturity, adjusting our goals and dreams. Instead of being an MVP pitcher winning the world series, somebody might aspire to be vice president in their company.
The best dreams in life are the collective dreams. The dreams for a better world as articulated by Martin Luther King. Personal dreams can be very selfish but collective dreams are the opposite.
But the question then is how does one pursue a dream? I know for certain that dedication and hard work are part of the formula. Long hours of training, study, research, practice, all of these things are essential to making a dream come true. Even then, when all the ingredients are present, dreams don’t always come true. There are chance and circumstance involved. Imagine three Beatles growing up in the same town. Three musical geniuses in the same vicinity. What would John have been without Pual and George?
Some people invest their dreams in their children. This is a precarious thing and needs to be handled with caution. I saw in the baseball world of little league, how some coaches would push their sons into playing the sport. These coaches dreamed of becoming pros and failed. As a result, they tried to live their dreams through their children. These adults were selfish, pushing their sons to great lengths that they personally didn’t aspire to. However assisting somebody to achieve their desire is a wonderful thing, just make sure it is the child’s dream, not somebody else’s.
Sometimes dreams will materialize from nowhere. I have for the past four years or so pursued a career as a professional writer. Though I wrote poetry and stories and started a novel, I never pursued my dream aggressively. It was only when my wife got dementia, and she needed constant care, did I invest my full efforts into my aspirations. I hope out of something that seems so terrible something great will happen.
Finally, never give up. Your dream might be just around the next bend. Keep on striving, keep on believing, because even if you don’t achieve your dream seeking a dream makes you into a better person.
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