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“I don’t know how you get anything published. Your writings aren’t mature enough for adult readers. And like most conservatives you can only rely on poor Hillary when you run out of words. Get a life.” Lucille

Here is a recent comment to a post I did on Psych Central. Did it cross the line into bullying? 

Bullying  photoThis comment comes from my Narcissist Versus Sociopath post. It was an attempt by me to illustrate the difference between Trump as a narcissist and Clinton as a sociopath. In all honesty, it probably wasn’t one of my better articles. With limited space to write sometimes, complex issues are difficult. I couldn’t go into the depths that I would have with unlimited space. Instead, I presented certain negative facts about Trump and Clinton hoping that the readers would make the connection.

In response, Lucille made the above comments.

“I don’t know how you get anything published” she begins. It is perfectly fine to express one’s discontent. Constructive criticism is valuable to a writer. However, the comment seems extreme based on Lucille’s reading only one of my posts. I can tell this by her later calling me a conservative.

“Your writings aren’t mature enough for adult readers.” Now the comments have moved away from my inability to write to the matter of maturity. These are two separate issues. One involves my skills as a writer the second concerns my content. I feel this comment is totally uncalled for. If one reads the article it talks about the politics, comments, and actions of Trump and Clinton. Such material is clearly on an adult level.

Now comes the saddest part of Lucille’s comments when she calls me a conservative. Her statement is in fact comical. If Lucille had bothered to research my posts I think she would quickly find out that I am not a conservative. While I uphold Christian values I am definitely not on the right.

Next, she makes a blanket statement about all ‘conservatives’ referencing Hillary Clinton. Herein lies the nerve, that I spoke negatively about Hillary Clinton. If anybody read the article one would see that it speaks negatively about both Trump and Clinton. Lucille can only focus on the one aspect, she is far from being fair.

Why did Lucille do this? In society, people tend to identify with things larger than themselves, whether it is sports teams, political parties, organizations, religion or countries. Lucille has obviously associated herself with Hillary Clinton. So much so that anything negative spoken about Clinton is a personal attack on Lucille.

Nothing in this world is perfect and everything is subject to criticism. As a Christian, I have associates who attack Jesus and the Bible all the time. While a great deal is a mockery they raise some valid points. Being a mature human being I acknowledge their points of view. Even though I think they are wrong I don’t go about trying to tear them down.

And so we come to the most offensive part of Lucille’s comments where she tells me to “Get a life.” If Lucille’s words haven’t already crossed the line it has now. Is there anything constructive that I can draw from that comment? If one read my biography that is on the bottom of the page she would see that I suffer from a mental illness. I am after all a human being with feelings. To say such a thing, through the anonymous media of a comment, is both cowardly and cruel.

I don’t mind criticism, but it should be done in the right spirit. If it is not I have every right to call it out and identify what it is. Lucille’s comments are nothing more than cyberbullying.

But this leads us to a broader concept of society in general. How shallow people can be when they can’t accept criticism. If Lucille disputed the accuracy of the facts that would be one thing. Or if she merely stated the article was terrible, I could accept it. Instead, she launches a barrage of insulting comments aimed at me personally. As a writer, I face rejection every single day. It’s a tough business and a brutally honest business. Maybe Lucille is spot on about this particular article I wrote but with a broad brush, she condemns me, not only as a writer but also as a human being. All it seems based on one piece of work.

Shame on you Lucille, you have demonstrated a real problem that exists in society. And thank you for giving me something to write about this morning.

Please check out my book “From Chaos To  Cosmos” It is better than my previous article, promise.


John Kaniecki

John Kaniecki is a full-time caregiver for his wife Sylvia. He is a published writer and works with the Church of Christ. John has lived with bipolar for over thirty years and has been hospitalized nine times, three of which were committed. John has chronicled his life story in his memoirs "More Than The Madness". Also of note is John's book of poetry "Murmurings Of A Mad Man" which are poems written about being committed in Graystone Psychiatric Hospital. John believes in the power of words to change the world for the better. His website can be seen here. His books can be seen on Amazon. You can visit his personal blog "Turn A Page Or Two" here.

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APA Reference
Kaniecki, J. (2018). Cyber-bullying?. Psych Central. Retrieved on January 23, 2019, from


Last updated: 15 May 2018
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 15 May 2018
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