Home » Blogs » Polishing the Fragments » Something Good Is Going To Happen

Something Good Is Going To Happen

Optimism-  hopefulness and confidence about the future or the successful outcome of something.

I can guarantee you that something good is going to happen to you. You just got to hold on. 

Hope photoThe power of positive thinking has long been espoused and praised. There was a scientific experiment where rats were placed in identical environments which was a pool of water. In one the lights were turned off and the other they were on. The rats then swam. The one who could see lasted a lot longer than the other. Now besides telling us that scientists are cruel it tells us about hope. The rat that could see a possible way of escape clung on to life longer.

Much of life is how you look at it, do you really appreciate what you have? Let us take somebody who was born without the ability to walk. Is God cruel because he denied that person his mobility? Would it better be that that person had never been born? What about all the other blessings in life that that person enjoys?

So though it is trite and cliche you should count your blessings. Not only is something good is going to happen but good things are already happening to you, the question is do you appreciate them. One’s focus on life has a lot to do with mental health. Let’s look at suicide for example. As one who suffered from severe clinical depression I know the deep haunting despairs. I spent my days in bed just thinking about how to kill myself. I may still be in such a sad condition but I moved out of my own self pity.

One thing that I did was that I started to read a couple of books that were in the room where I was staying. Right away this was a positive as it moved my focus away from self. When one is fixated with self bad things tend to happen. It is the root of narcissism on one extreme and depression on the other. But in reading my mind gravitated away from my misery and problems and back into life in general. Things which seemed insurmountable just kind of vanished.

Which brings the question as to why does a person go to the extreme of suicide? I know of a person who recently killed themselves. He was involved with illegal activity and he got caught. With seemingly no way out he took his life. I know of another friend who desperately wanted to be with his wife. It was all he talked about. Finally he went of to Pennsylvania to be with his wife. When things didn’t work out he took his own life.

When in group therapy I always gave this suggestion to my peers with mental illness, “You can always take your life tomorrow”. Of course as the song says tomorrow is always a day away. No matter how bad things seem for the present things can get better. In fact if you look at life fairly good things are already in your life.

It is in our darkest times that a person’s character is made. People who have a lot of trouble in life tend to be the kindest and most understanding. Those who live a life of privilege are spoiled and petty. So though it is very difficult to do we should welcome hardship, knowing that if we persevere we will come out of it as a better person. A simple thing to say a nearly impossible thing to do.

Hope is in the mind and thus effects everything you do. If you expect bad then you will sour your prospects. If you expect good your chances of having better encounters improve. So much of life is what you make of it. For example if you are in a conversation with a person and you think that person has a negative view of you it will most likely effect how you interact. You will perceive neutral or even positive remarks for bad. If you think positively you will even overlook negative remarks hoping for the best.

For people with mental illness we cannot afford to dwell in the shadow under a cloud of doom. If I go out into the world and believe that everybody is going to reject me because of my mental illness my prospects for success are limited. I am defeated before I began. However if I am fully convinced that people want to take an interest in me it will make all the difference in the world.

Something good is going to happen. Something good is happening. Look for the best in all.

Here is a feel good book called “The Lost Cantos Of John Kaniecki”. https://amzn.to/2CCwnxz

Something Good Is Going To Happen

John Kaniecki

John Kaniecki is a full-time caregiver for his wife Sylvia. He is a published writer and works with the Church of Christ. John has lived with bipolar for over thirty years and has been hospitalized nine times, three of which were committed. John has chronicled his life story in his memoirs "More Than The Madness". Also of note is John's book of poetry "Murmurings Of A Mad Man" which are poems written about being committed in Graystone Psychiatric Hospital. John believes in the power of words to change the world for the better. His website can be seen here. His books can be seen on Amazon. You can visit his personal blog "Turn A Page Or Two" here.


2 comments: View Comments / Leave a Comment

 

 

APA Reference
Kaniecki, J. (2018). Something Good Is Going To Happen. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 24, 2018, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/fragments/2018/04/something-good-is-going-to-happen/

 

Last updated: 27 Apr 2018
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 27 Apr 2018
Published on PsychCentral.com. All rights reserved.