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Don’t Give Up Until You Receive Your Blessing

“Jacob wrestled the angel, And the angel was overcome” U2

No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.” God 

The key to suffering is holding on to it until you get your blessing. That is one of the lessons behind Jacob wrestling with the angel, he wouldn’t let go of the struggle until he got his blessing.

Jacob Wrestling The Angel photoBad things, suffering happen in everybody’s life. If we compare these things one to another some sufferings may seem trivial compared to others. Somebody starving in Africa, or living in a war zone, or working long hours in a third world factory just doesn’t compare to a young lady whose parents just don’t understand. But have compassion on that young lady because in her life her troubles dominate.

Why me? That is not a terrible question to ask if your readily accept the answer and move on. We suffer because in suffering the character of an individual is made better. That is a hard lesson for a youth to understand in the midst of their turmoil and pain. But for an adult, who is mature in the ways of the world, they should understand this reality. To continually as ‘why me?’ and wallow in your pity is a negative thing.

Some people never learn there lessons. Take the drunk who continually wakes up with a terrible hangover not even able to remember the night before and all the stupid things he has done. Still we do not understand lessons immediately. As a child I was bullied. Now later in life I understand the importance that compassion should be shown to all people, no matter what. Ill will, hatred, mocking and teasing have no place in society.

Suffering is something that will bring about humility. Humility is a key to success in this world. I realize that from the White House on down that this world is dominated by arrogant people who don’t have a lick of humility. However position and place does not equate with success. Rather a person who has truly learned the lessons of this life demonstrates his achievement by the way he carries himself. A person who is truly successful is somebody who is a blessing to others. A person full of love and compassion.

So much of suffering is inflicted by our fellow human beings. War, unfair economic systems, social inequalities are all promoted by people. If we learned to behave properly we could overcome all of these dividers. Unfortunately the crux of the problem is that a faction of people do not want an egalitarian society. Instead people covet power and material possessions. Their lust for these things are so great that they will inflict pain and suffering on their fellow human beings to achieve their success. They will take this to the extreme of organized murder and organized theft which is commonly called war and colonialism.

In the struggle there are many people who see the suffering that is inflicted on others. Many people speak out against what is wrong with the world and try to organize to help out their fellow human beings. There is a huge segment of the population that sits indecisively, quietly accepting the official line, while inwardly feeling uneasy about the whole thing. After all it is a a great feat to break the shackles of indoctrination and to realize that most of what has been taught as truth is in fact a lie.

“Be wise as serpents and innocent as doves”. This world is full of perils and to live successfully we must be able to learn from our experiences. In other words we must grow. I know that many do not grow because I see so many of the evils of the world repeated in generation after generation. I have decided in my life to reject the evils of this world. That war itself is never to be waged. That oppression should be fought. That hatred and evil should be met with love and goodness.

Please check out my book “From Chaos To Cosmos”. It is a book of science fiction stories where I touch on social issues.


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Don’t Give Up Until You Receive Your Blessing

John Kaniecki

John Kaniecki is a full-time caregiver for his wife Sylvia. He is a published writer and works with the Church of Christ. John has lived with bipolar for over thirty years and has been hospitalized nine times, three of which were committed. John has chronicled his life story in his memoirs "More Than The Madness". Also of note is John's book of poetry "Murmurings Of A Mad Man" which are poems written about being committed in Graystone Psychiatric Hospital. John believes in the power of words to change the world for the better. His website can be seen here. His books can be seen on Amazon. You can visit his personal blog "Turn A Page Or Two" here.

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APA Reference
Kaniecki, J. (2018). Don’t Give Up Until You Receive Your Blessing. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 16, 2018, from


Last updated: 5 Mar 2018
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 5 Mar 2018
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