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Being Thankful

“And I thank the Lord there’s people out there like you, I thank the Lord there’s people out there like you” Bernie Taupin 

A thankful attitude will take you a long way. A mind full of envy and lustful desire does nothing but pollute the mind. 

Ladder photoThe first thing one must understand in life is that nobody owes you anything. Not God, the government, the rich, the poor, even your family. Everything you are given is a measure of grace. With this in mind we can look at the most tragic circumstances in life and say ‘Thank God’ for the little that they had.

Take a person born blind. Should that person be angry and feel resentment because they lack sight. That is the natural reaction perhaps but doing what is natural isn’t usually the best policy. Somebody with a ‘handicap’ should focus on the other blessings they possess. After all the blind man still has everything but functioning sight, in this he should be thankful.

Hardship and suffering too can be perceived as blessings. After all in any stories that we read for entertainment the character of the hero and the measure of heroics is magnified by the greater the challenge or evil they face. If one looks at suffering as a negative focusing on what it is taking away from them their outlook on life will be dark. However if one understands that trials and tribulations will build up one’s character then the same things that would break another person lift them up.

Taking the thought line further down the highway a thankful person should be a giving person. If one recognizes in self that they appreciate things in life then they should be willing to share and give them to their fellow human beings. The willingness to enrich others is a sign of maturity. That a person recognizes the reality that human beings have needs and that we are here to meet the needs of others.

There is a lot we can do as we interact with our fellow human beings every singled day of our life. Simply saying ‘hello’ to a person goes a long way. Asking ‘how are you’ and then listening to the reply counts a lot. Sometimes people will say ‘how are you’ and won’t even listen to the response. Smile at people and above all try to be nice. Nobody likes an angry grumpy person full of venom. When in engaged in conversation always be a good listener. Try not to talk over other people and try to understand what is being communicated to you. Try to encapsulate the feelings of a person with your own words to prove to everybody that the message was communicated.

Understand that in everyone’s life self is almost always the most important person in the world to them. After all we are all human beings and despite race, religion, background, wealth or lack of it we share the common humanity. Everybody is concerned about what effects them. In the work place when decisions are made for other people without their input the person ignored is relegated to a status of inferiority. Most employers simply don’t care about the opinion of those they consider ‘in-subordinates’. However if management took the time to listen to the workers who are intimate with their jobs I am quite confident that the worker could give a wealth of good advice on how to improve the working conditions.

Being thankful and content does not mean that one does not try to improve their lot in life. Rather it would direct their methods and approach. There are two ways to succeed in this life. The first is to promote self and try to claw your way to the top. With this outlook people are just rungs on the ladder to be stepped on and used for personal achievement. The second is to be a servant to everybody. To uplift your fellow man, to work together and to inspire others to reach their own potentials.

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Being Thankful

John Kaniecki

John Kaniecki is a full-time caregiver for his wife Sylvia. He is a published writer and works with the Church of Christ. John has lived with bipolar for over thirty years and has been hospitalized nine times, three of which were committed. John has chronicled his life story in his memoirs "More Than The Madness". Also of note is John's book of poetry "Murmurings Of A Mad Man" which are poems written about being committed in Graystone Psychiatric Hospital. John believes in the power of words to change the world for the better. His website can be seen here. His books can be seen on Amazon. You can visit his personal blog "Turn A Page Or Two" here.

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Kaniecki, J. (2018). Being Thankful. Psych Central. Retrieved on June 6, 2020, from


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