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Love Is The Answer

“Oh, oh, oh and the silicon chip inside her head, Gets switched to overload, And nobody’s gonna go to school today, She’s going to make them stay at home” Bob Geldof

It saddens me to see the death of seventeen people today in Florida. And before the bodies are even buried the hard questions arise. Could there have something been done to prevent this? 

And the answer without question is ‘yes’.

America is a culture steeped in violence. This is displayed in the fact that we favor the much violent football to soccer.  Like the ancient Romans in the coliseum we gather to celebrate the viciousness of the sport.  Football is a sport  where we applaud a ‘good hit’ or a sack. Of course our military is marching in almost every corner of the world.

Somebody once told me that ‘international’ policy and ‘domestic’ policy of a country are the same. I truly believe that as a ‘capitalistic’ country this is true.  Those who control the power structures are simply trying to accumulate more and more at the expense of everybody else, even if that means others must pay the ultimate price.

You don’t see the connection?

When society functions properly you don’t have endless war. When society functions properly you don’t celebrate the warrior at least not in the aspect of their potential to kill. A good society does not seek to dominate but rather to serve. We live in a country which advocates conflict and competition. There is no economic equality in society, rather each person is isolated and forced to fend on their own.

Instead of focusing on the success of the individual we should be focusing on the success of the people as a whole. I should be just as concerned with the well being of my neighbor as I am with myself. I we all had such an attitude nobody would be hungry or alone. It would go a very long way in reducing the violence that is in our society. I wouldn’t see somebody as an enemy but rather as a friend.

In order for the war machine to keep marching on the propaganda must produce a climate of hostility. After all if we were presented the enemy as fellow human beings we wouldn’t want to go and kill them would we? So we label them ‘terrorists’ and that justifies whatever atrocities we chose to inflict upon them.

Donald Trump is quick to claim credit for the stock market’s performance. If he had an ounce of integrity he would ‘man up’ and take the blame for this rise in violence. On Facebook I once confronted a Trump supporter about the man’s slogan “Make America Great Again”. My questions were simple, “What does it mean to make American great?” and secondly “What concrete steps are we going to do to bring this ‘greatness’ about?” I was promptly unfriended.

Children are watching. How do you think little children react to Donald Trump’s threat of using “Fire and Fury the likes of which the world has never seen” against another sovereign nation. Right there he is advocating violence, violence like we tragically saw today.

And what about Donald Trump’s wall? Instead of building a barrier to keep poor people out why don’t we spend those resources on helping them out of their poverty at home. Instead we get the message that some people are better than others.

Which brings us full circle to those who control the world. They seek supremacy and so the actively sow seeds of discourse. After all if spontaneous peace broke out we wouldn’t need the shackles of government to ‘protect’ us.

So the answer boils down to “Love” one another. And the first concrete step you could do in “Loving” somebody is understanding them. So if you are sincere about making a positive change in your life I challenge you to learn of some culture or group of people that is different from you.

As always I present a book to offer for sale at the end of my blog. I invited you to purchase my personal story “More Than The Madness” which tells of my struggle with mental illness.

Love Is The Answer

John Kaniecki

John Kaniecki is a full-time caregiver for his wife Sylvia. He is a published writer and works with the Church of Christ. John has lived with bipolar for over thirty years and has been hospitalized nine times, three of which were committed. John has chronicled his life story in his memoirs "More Than The Madness". Also of note is John's book of poetry "Murmurings Of A Mad Man" which are poems written about being committed in Graystone Psychiatric Hospital. John believes in the power of words to change the world for the better. His website can be seen here. His books can be seen on Amazon. You can visit his personal blog "Turn A Page Or Two" here.

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APA Reference
Kaniecki, J. (2018). Love Is The Answer. Psych Central. Retrieved on February 22, 2019, from


Last updated: 14 Feb 2018
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 14 Feb 2018
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