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A Dream Versus A Fantasy

“You may say I’m a dreamer, But I’m not the only one” John Lennon.

We all have dreams in life and we all have fantasies. Maturity teaches us what the difference is. 

Dreams photoSimply put a dream is something attainable while a fantasy is impossible. A simple illustration of this is if you have a lottery ticket it is a dream to win the jackpot, but if you never buy a ticket it is pure fantasy. A dream is something that one can do tangible things to help improve the chances of it having. In this example a method of trying to secure the improbable dream would be purchasing more tickets.

Of course some things will never happen. Many children dream of being professional athletes. However the physical reality denies that possibilities. But here is the thing, one never knows that one will not achieve until they try their best. True dreams should never be abandoned.

Having a mental illness is a very debilitating event. My bipolar illness and my hospitalizations made my life take a detour down a bumpy and precarious road. It was a dream of mine that I would one day simply have a job. After returning to college and graduating not only did I return to the work force but I found employment where I could support myself. I even found myself a nice wife to share my life with.

I recall those harsh days when depression disabled me to the point that all I could do was lie in bed and think of different ways of how I could kill myself. I never thought that I would return to a normal life. As such I invested a lot of time in writing song lyrics. It was my dream that I would have a hit song and make a lot of money, so I could live. I wrote hundreds of song lyrics and got them copyrighted. I never had a hit song or even a song on the radio but I still have the dream. In all honesty I never pursued my ambitions that hard.

Today once more I find myself in a difficult situation. My wife suffers from dementia and I cannot work a traditional job. Once more I set my dreams upon my writing. I hope that somehow I could earn enough money to support my family and even help out needy friends. It is over three years that I haven’t worked a traditional job but I have worked very hard on my writing. Perhaps if my dreams come to fruition I will be thankful for my wife’s illness. I would never had had the courage to quit my regular job and to invest all my energies into writing.

So here I am with over a dozen books out, all published by small publishing companies. I have learned a lot about the writing business, mostly by trial and error and making mistakes. I don’t mind making mistakes because you learn from them. The dream is still alive and real. In fact I have two books of science fiction stories that are just coming out now.

I have found out that good writing is not enough to have a successful book. It also takes good marketing. So I am faced with the challenge of how to promote my books. If I had the answer I would have done it already. Writing this blog is one way I hope to promote my other writing. It gets my name out.

In the end be careful what you wish for because your dream may come true. If I became an author with the status of Stephen King or Tom Clancy my life would lose its privacy.

Here are links to those two books that are just coming out, “Dark Matters” and “From Chaos To Cosmos” Please support my dreams.  http://bit.ly/2CqIy3p

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A Dream Versus A Fantasy

John Kaniecki

John Kaniecki is a full-time caregiver for his wife Sylvia. He is a published writer and works with the Church of Christ. John has lived with bipolar for over thirty years and has been hospitalized nine times, three of which were committed. John has chronicled his life story in his memoirs "More Than The Madness". Also of note is John's book of poetry "Murmurings Of A Mad Man" which are poems written about being committed in Graystone Psychiatric Hospital. John believes in the power of words to change the world for the better. His website can be seen here. His books can be seen on Amazon. You can visit his personal blog "Turn A Page Or Two" here.


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Kaniecki, J. (2018). A Dream Versus A Fantasy. Psych Central. Retrieved on June 18, 2018, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/fragments/2018/02/a-dream-versus-a-fantasy/

 

Last updated: 27 Feb 2018
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 27 Feb 2018
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