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The Big Picture

“And in the end, The love you take, Is equal to the love you make” Lennon & McCartney

Though it is an ambiguous and abstract statement I am going to say that the meaning of life is ingrained in being loved and loving others but in the opposite order.

Big Picture photoThe answer to what Love is is a very simple statement, God is Love. However the answer to what God is is extremely complex. There are quite a number of religions all with their spins and twists, all holding different attributes to God. But Love on the other hand could be relatively simple to observe and understand.

In layman’s terms Love is an unselfish act of kindness. Here the heart really matters. If I am nice to you or do things for you for some ulterior motive is disqualifies the act as love. Say for example you are a corporation and you donate a hefty amount of money to a charity, that’s a very good thing. But if it is done in a show off manner it is another thing. You know where they have the grand television show and the corporation representative hands the recipient a huge check literally three feet in length. So huge that you can see the amount from far away. Well things like that don’t count as Love rather it is self promotion.

I am going through a great deal with my wife Sylvia. I am a man in need. I have had sisters from the church come over and stay with her so I could go food shopping. The same sisters came and cleaned our apartment. The one congregation gave us a wheel chair. Which brings me to another aspect of love, it is tangible in nature. That is I can measure it.

Thoughts and prayers are great sentiments but as far as I am concerned that is the extent of them. I would trade ten thousand ‘thoughts and prayers’ for one phone call. I’d trade a dozen phone calls for a visit. You really find out who cares for you when you are in need.

Love also generates a way of carrying oneself. I person who believes in Love will treat others with dignity and respect regardless of the situation. I am fully convinced that the most important person in your life is you. Therefore if I recognize that fact I should treat you in an important manner. I should be pleasant, say hello, ask how your days is going in sincerity. I’m not trying to be your best friend but just giving everything that a human being deserves.

Love of course has different magnitudes. Love increases when it is a selfless act that affects those outside our normal sphere. It is great to take care of family and friends. To care for a neighbor is good as well. But to looked out for the stranger, alien or outcast really shows a devotion to mankind. Luke chapter 10 tells a story about a man who is wounded by bandits and is left to die by the side of the road. Both a Levite and a priest pass by the man giving him no aid. In fact they go out of the way to ignore him. A Samaritan however sees the man and takes care of his wounds. Then he puts the man on his donkey and takes him to an inn. There he tells the innkeeper to do whatever is necessary for the man and that the man will pay for all expenses.

You see we can never have enough Love in the world. Love would but an end to war, hunger, loneliness and give your life meaning. If you doubt that, I suggest that you look at the big picture. When you are on your death bed and you look back at all you did what do you think will matter to  you?

Please check out a book of Love, “Sunset Sonnets”

Photos by Mikey G Ottawa,

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John Kaniecki

John Kaniecki is a full-time caregiver for his wife Sylvia. He is a published writer and works with the Church of Christ. John has lived with bipolar for over thirty years and has been hospitalized nine times, three of which were committed. John has chronicled his life story in his memoirs "More Than The Madness". Also of note is John's book of poetry "Murmurings Of A Mad Man" which are poems written about being committed in Graystone Psychiatric Hospital. John believes in the power of words to change the world for the better. His website can be seen here. His books can be seen on Amazon. You can visit his personal blog "Turn A Page Or Two" here.

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Kaniecki, J. (2018). The Big Picture. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 19, 2019, from


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