I was recently informed that Psych Central was acquired by Healthline Media, which will be transitioning Psych Central’s content onto their own platform. Yes, that is true.
We all want to have control. We want to control our environment. We want to control people in our lives. Why? Perhaps because we have needs that involve others (e.g., being loved, accepted). Nevertheless, it is very difficult to control other individuals. If we engage in controlling behaviors—blaming, threatening, guilting, shaming, and blackmailing—then we might drive people away. By trying to control them, we paradoxically push them to resist, rebel, and defy our wishes.
I have been discussing effective communication recently. I started with a post on the value of offering
How to communicate effectively? For instance, when someone shares their pain or details of a personal difficulty with us, how do we respond in a helpful way? In a
In a scene from Scorsese’s Taxi Driver, one driver, Wizard (played by Peter Boyle), is trying to offer advice to Travis, another cab driver (played by Robert De Niro). Wizard tries to but ultimately fails to communicate words of wisdom to Travis, who then hesitantly says, “Yeah, I don’t know. That’s about the dumbest thing I ever heard.” Wizard replies, “I’m not Bertrand Russell. Well, what do ya want, I’m a cabbie, you know.”
Problem-solving is a valued competency. Successful problem-solving frequently requires knowledge, skills, and activities related to systematic exploration, critical thinking, organization, planning, monitoring, flexibility, persistence, imagination, and creativity. A methodical approach to solving problems might look like this: