5 thoughts on “Depression and Perfectionism

  • September 23, 2009 at 2:24 pm

    This is absolutely true!

  • September 23, 2009 at 4:36 pm


    I hear you there! I used to be obessed about things being just “right”
    One day I realised I could not control everything nor should I even wish to.
    Life has been easier since, although I am still somewhat “perfectionist” at heart!

  • September 24, 2009 at 4:54 am

    i believe that perfectionism can also lead to depression, if a person constantly fails to reach his impossible goals he will surely end up depressed

  • December 17, 2009 at 8:06 am

    A number of people I know, including myself, are perfectionists suffering from depression and a surprisingly high percentage of us are eldest or only children – I think we absorb the desires of our parents that we be special and perfect with our mother’s milk and it just intensifies as we age.

    My dad can still embarrass me by introducing me as his clever daughter – she has a masters degree you know – like that makes me something unusual. I love him to bits, and my mom, and they love me, but they had and have very high expectations of what I might do in the world.

    I have an only son and have seen the same desire for perfectionism in him since he was very small. I am proud of him but the main thing is that I love him and would have done no matter how bright or able he might or might not have been. I also see the same tendency towards anxiety when faced with something new or stressful. So I tell him that he tried his best and he can’t compare himself to me, his dad or anyone else – but I know the message only goes in a little way.

  • April 14, 2010 at 6:10 pm

    Your articles on Dysthimia and Perfectionism are timely for me. I’m a pig. Messy desk, messy car, etc., but when I think about doing something work-related or fun-related, everything has to be perfect. On a good day, I go ahead and do it, but on a normal day, it never gets done. There is an element of anxiety involved, too. It has the power to perpetuate itself and lead to more depression. Mindfulness seems to be a key to overcoming it…being away that it will never be perfect and that there is learning in winning and losing.


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