Being A Strong Parent
Yesterday, I got some news from a doctor that I wasn’t expecting.  I was expecting to hear about a more moderate problem, and it turns out the problem is actually worse than I had anticipated.  We have a solution, but the news was quite disheartening.

How do I stay strong?  That’s the persistent question.

I know that many of you parents have had to deal with unexpected health problems, financial strain, and other things.  Even if you have made it through without anything minor, you may have something in the future that will floor you.

How Do You Become A Strong Parent

So how do you and I get through this type of situation?  Well, I had a different idea of being strong when I was younger.  I kept it all in and never told anyone how stressed or overloaded I was.  I can’t be sure if the postpartum depression came first, or if the stress lead to the development of my depression.  In any case, my “keep it all in” approach did not serve me well at all.

I told my kids how surprising the news was, but I didn’t pour it all out at once.  I knew I couldn’t do that.  Instead, I have reached out to family members and some friends just to let them know what is going on and how I felt about it.

Letting Your Emotions Out Lets You Stay Strong For Your Family

I still feel a little lost, still reeling from the reality of it.  However, I do feel like I’ve let go of some of it by getting it out.  I know I need that before I speak to another professional so I can stay focused on the practical issues at hand.

I’m determined not to get depressed again through any of this.  My strength is too important to my family to compromise it.  The last few years I’ve found that regular reaching out doesn’t make me look or feel weak – it helps me purge the negativity so I can be calm and steady for them.

Reach Out When You Need Strength

Even if you just reach out to one person, this can make a huge difference.  Don’t go through this kind of parental stress all by yourself.  Allow others to help you and you’ll be a solid rock for your family when they need you most.

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