Hello, readers. This post is about those hardest moments in your life and your kids’ lives, the moments you hope to avoid but often can’t. Your child faces immense disappointment, has to endure something difficult, or has to learn how to cope with strong yucky emotions. They all have them, and it’s up to us as parents to teach them how to get through them. I know I’ve written about this topic before, but it’s a little more personal today.
Readers who have been with the blog since last summer will know that my oldest daughter had a surgery that wiped out a lot of her ability to be active. It was necessary, and it made for a really different summer. Unfortunately, we learned this spring that the surgery did not do all it was supposed to and we had to face it again this summer. Huge disappointment, frustration, and wondering about what went wrong.
It was my husband’s and my job to both allow her to express difficult emotions and also encourage her to roll with it. Not easy, let me tell you. It took courage for me to keep that balance of honest feelings and strength. I think it was tough for her, too. She has a lot of courage to face it again and I know she will get through it well. If I could, I’d just take this all away and she wouldn’t have to be bothered with surgeons or orthodontists ever again. But since neither my husband nor I have any such power, all we can do is be there for her and teach her to keep going on.
We are taking care of her surgery today, so it’s Day 1 of Sedentary Summer 2.0. Things will all roll downhill from here and we’ll start our countdown to various milestones of progress once again. Courage is the good stuff we create when we are faced with fear. When the details of the disappointment, emotional pain, or upheaval have passed and are no longer fresh, we are left with a valuable gift to use again and again. And thank goodness for that.