We are moving to our new house next week. This is all very exciting and I can’t wait to finally be in there. But the next ten days are going to be pretty ridiculous. This is starting to tweak the supermom in me. I’m young, I’m smart, I should be able to do this, right? Yeah, don’t count on it.
We are moving most of our worldly possessions in a 24-hour period to a new location. Plus we have parent teacher conferences, a science project due, three dance classes, flu shots, an annual physical checkup, and probably something else I’m forgetting in the meantime. Oh yeah, and did I mention we’re moving?
I have been down this road before. Too much stuff, too little time, and people getting frayed around the edges. Having this moment of reflection, I can see that it is in everyone’s best interest that I get a different plan. The wing-it-and-get-stressed method won’t keep anyone calm.
My mom will be helping me cook some meals ahead of time at the end of this week. We will have family around during the move. I know I could call a few of the moms that I know from school to help get kids back and forth to dance. The question is, how much will I allow others to help me?
Will I let my pride get in the way? Is there a prize for moms who don’t ask for enough help when they could really use it? What habits can I let go of to make room for the added chaos of moving? What habits would be useful for me to keep during the added chaos of moving? If I don’t speak up and say that I need help, I might not enjoy this long-awaited move as much as I could.
Many people go through worse situations than what I’ve just described. Long illnesses, long commutes, pending divorces, jobs being lost, businesses failing, and more. Regardless of what your family life challenge is, it is so important to ask for help. Nobody is a hero if they just stay quiet and take it. It just adds more problems to your plate because you have run out of gas.
I think I’m on the right path to making the rough edges smoother over the next ten days. But I know I have to keep watch with myself. As the moving date grows closer, the pressure to get things done will undoubtedly increase. Probably more yoga, a few phone calls to ask for help, more laughs, extra hugs, and patience. Now if I could just find the tape…