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Real Men Go to Church

Apparently, if you want to be a real man, you’d better get to church.  Studies consistently show that women are more likely to attend church services than men.  But new research shows that men who attend church services are actually more manly (in the most positive sense of that word) than those who skip.

The study, reported in the  book, Soft Patriarchs, New Men: How Christianity Shapes Husbands and Fathers, by University of Virginia sociologist, Dr. Brad Wilcox, shows that men who attend church are more effective leaders, more attuned to the needs of others, more responsive to their wives and children, and conduct themselves in ways that make them better marriage partners and parents than those men who are church-phobic.

There are a couple of possible reasons for this.  The first  is that people-of-faith generally believe that masculinity and femininity are both tied up in service.  In other words, most Christian faith communities teach that a man is never more masculine than when he is loving and serving another—most especially, his wife and children.

Christianity, with its emphasis on servant-leadership, helps men learn the difficult skill of being a leader without being a tyrant, increasing the likelihood that he will be able to command the  admiration and respect of those with whom he is in relationship.

Secondly, and this is more my own observation that Dr. Wilcox’s, prayer is an exercise in intimacy.  Men who have an honest, consistent, and meaningful prayer life are simply less afraid of intimacy and healthy vulnerability –on both the divine and human level–than men who don’t pray.   They simply have more practice embracing it and making use of it.   Of course, a strong capacity for intimacy and healthy vulnerability are essential ingredients for long-lasting, satisfying, relationships of every kind.

The results are in. It turns out, real men go to church.

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Real Men Go to Church

Dr. Greg Popcak

Gregory Popcak, Ph.D. is the Executive Director of the Pastoral Solutions Institute, an organization dedicated to helping people-of-faith find effective solutions to tough marriage, family, and personal problems.

The author of over a dozen popular books integrating solid theological insights and counseling psychology (including; For Better...FOREVER! , Holy Sex!, Parenting with Grace, Beyond the Birds and the Bees), Dr. Popcak directs a group pastoral tele-counseling practice that provides ongoing pastoral psychotherapy services to faithful couples, individuals and families around the world.

Together with his wife and co-author, Lisa Popcak, he hosts More2Life, Airing M-F, Noon-1pm Eastern (Tune in online or to podcasts at www.AveMariaRadio.net). A sought after public-speaker, Dr. Greg has been honored to address audiences across North America, Australia, and Hong Kong.

For more info on books, resources, and tele-counseling services visit www.CatholicCounselors.com.


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APA Reference
Popcak, D. (2012). Real Men Go to Church. Psych Central. Retrieved on August 15, 2018, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/faith/2012/03/real-men-go-to-church/

 

Last updated: 12 Mar 2012
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 12 Mar 2012
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