Are You Free? (Part II) Escape from Freedom

With the 4th of July just past, most of us have been at least unconsciously reflecting on freedom, but a lot of people are confused about what that really is.  As I shared in my first post on the subject last week, freedom isn't the ability to do whatever you want.  Freedom is your capacity to be your best self in every moment; the ability to do what's best for yourself and others at all times, regardless of your feelings to the contrary or the pressures you're...
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Anxiety

Are You Free?

(It's good to be back!  Thank you for your patience during my recovery.*)

Right now, in the middle of the Fortnight for Freedom, many People-of-Faith are organizing to assert and protect our first and most cherished freedom, the Freedom of Religion which, although a universal human right, is legally enshrined in the First Amendment of our Constitution.

But with all this talk in the press about "freedom," it might be...
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Faith

Religious People are Stupid and Mean (Studies Show)

Well, to be fair, that's not exactly what the researchers said.  But it would be easy to draw those conclusions from a casual reading of two recent reports.

The first study, from the University of British Columbia, notes that "Analytic Thinking Can Decrease Religious Belief."   (Although, considering the methodology, which appears to have involved having people do a questionaire measuring religious belief, do some mental activities like filling out additional questionaires intentionally printed in hard-to-read fonts [to engage analytic reasoning...
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Faith

Gay Marriage: Not a Religious Issue

In response to Vice President Biden's comments this weekend in favor of gay marriage, many of his fellow Democrats, especially those who represent African American and Hispanic districts (two demographics generally opposed to same-sex marriage initiatives on, primarily, religious grounds) are having fits of apoplexy, arguing that they cannot support gay marriage ostensibly because it is against Christian teaching (and not just Christian teaching, but many other traditional faiths as well).

As the religion guy around...
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Faith

Gifted: Faith and Self-Esteem

Sometimes you’ll hear people make the comment, “He thinks he’s God’s gift to the world.”  They mean it as a criticism, but the statement is true about each and every one of us.  You ARE God’s gift to the world.

Christianity teaches us that everything we have; our talents, our treasure, even our minds, bodies and spirits, have been given to us as a gift that we are to use to work for the good...
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Faith

Raising Loving, Moral Kids: An Interview with Dr. Greg and Lisa Popcak

Today, Lisa Hendey, host of the very popular site, , interviewed my wife, Lisa, and I on the publication of our new book, the completely revised and updated 10th Anniversary Edition of Beyond the Birds and the Bees: Raising Sexually Whole and Holy Kids.

In the interview, we share a bit about our life, our kids, and what it really takes to raise children who can be authentically...
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General

“Redemptive” Suffering v. Codependence

A colleague recently said to me, “You Christians are  all co-dependent.”

He was referring to the premium Christianity places upon being willing to sacrifice oneself for the good of others. Like many people, he confused co-dependency with what is more properly called,  “redemptive suffering” and there’s a big difference.

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