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Being Thoughtful About the New Year

I know the holiday season only began. We just celebrated Thanksgiving, and today is the first night of Hanukkah. (Hope it’s a beautiful holiday for those who are celebrating!!).

But I wanted to share some reflections for the new year, because I’m taking an indefinite break from writing Make a Mess.

Below, you’ll find some food for thought in the form of all sorts of questions for creating your new year:

  • If you’re setting resolutions this year, what if you let genuine curiosity and play guide the goals you choose?
  • What do you want your days in 2019 to look like—and taste, sound, and feel like?
  • What creative project would you like to start? What’s one small step you can take right now or sometime soon?
  • What skill would you like to learn or sharpen?
  • What would you like to pay more attention to?
  • What would you like to pay less attention to, and let go of?
  • If you surrounded yourself with only the things that inspire and support you, what would this look like day to day?
  • Who or what would you like to reconnect to in 2019?
  • What’s one word that defines how you’d like to live in the new year? (Some ideas: quiet, playful, peace, grounded, flexible, magical, inspiring, worthy, love.)
  • What books would you like to read or what topics would you like to explore?
  • Are you choosing certain goals because you think you should? Because someone said you must?
  • How would you like to care for your mental, emotional, physical and spiritual needs in the new year?
  • When do you feel most energized and at your best? When do you feel your energy dipping? When do you require more rest and quiet and calm? How can you use this information to guide how you work and care for yourself?
  • When was the last time you actually played?
  • What are the top three things that you really value? How can you prioritize them and protect that time in the new year?
  • What’s a challenge you’d like to face in 2019?
  • What moments would you like to create?
  • Why do you want what you want?
  • What do you need right now? How can you meet that need in a compassionate way?

I hope you find these helpful. I hope they spark some valuable self-reflection. And I hope you have a wonderful holiday season and a wonderful new year.

P.S., Thanks so much for reading this blog! You can explore the archives here. And you can check out my latest pieces on my other blog, Weightless (which I’ve been writing for nine years!), the Psych Central blog and our mental health library.

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Being Thoughtful About the New Year

Margarita Tartakovsky, MS

Margarita is an associate editor at She writes about everything from taking compassionate care of yourself at any weight, shape, and size, to coping healthfully with difficult emotions. Her goal is to give readers practical, empowering tips to better their lives, and to remind you that whatever you're struggling with, you're never, ever alone.

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Tartakovsky, M. (2018). Being Thoughtful About the New Year. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 29, 2020, from


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