7 thoughts on “Adult Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse: 21 Challenges

  • December 19, 2019 at 12:24 pm

    So glad to hear that you’re talking about this. There is an incredible amount of body shame, due to the pornified culture affecting the way we view our own male or male bodies, and those of others. To get out of the cycle of destructiveness, one needs to recover their true identity, real intimacy, and learn how to see the body as God has intended. Recovering these three elements is crucial in order to live in an integrated way.

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  • December 19, 2019 at 3:41 pm

    This story really hit me hard! Been dealing with every symptom on this list since has long as i can remember. Dont really want to get that deep into it but, first time it all made sense

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  • December 20, 2019 at 5:27 pm

    Thank you for the story and I have PTSD FROM MY ABUSE AND SUFFER FROM ALL THE PROBLEMS ON THE LIST DAILY BUT CAN’T AFFORD THERAPY FOR IT BECAUSE I HAVE NO INCOME AND STATE INSURANCE WHICH I’M SURE WOULDN’T COVER IT SO I JUST HOLD IT ALL IN AND TRY NOT TO THINK ABOUT IT SO GOD BLESS AND THANKS AGAIN

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    • January 3, 2020 at 5:22 pm

      Rhonda,

      Thank you for sharing. I am glad you found this article helpful. This blogsite was created to give survivors a voice as well as a platform. I would encourage you to explore counseling in your area that provides services on a sliding fee scale. In some instances, services can be provided for free. Please do not suffer in silence. We hear you!

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  • December 22, 2019 at 5:33 am

    This really hit home. My father died four years ago and I have been in therapy with my psychiatrist since then. In the first two years of therapy we dealt with grief, and I learned what I thought was a typical childhood was not. My father was verbally and emotionally abusive. He was controlling and a big user of the silent treatment. This caused huge abandonment issues for me. Because of the strength of the relationship between my therapist and I we were able to go further and discovered through our sessions and the nightmares I started having that my father had sexually abused me as a child. I had repressed all memories of this while he was alive as a survival technique. The last year has been frightening and difficult but worth it. I thought the truth might break me but Now the depression I had and anxiety, shame, guilt, low self worth, trust issues, etc all make sense. For the first time in my life I know there is NOT something inherently wrong with me. I didn’t cause or deserve the abuse. Therapy is giving me a chance to live with hope for the future. My husband of 31 years and I recently started couples counselling to learn how to communicate and be open with our feelings. We will also be able to talk through the abuse by my father and not let it hurt our relationship. Luckily I am Canadian so my psychiatrist is free and insurance pays for our couples counselling. Get help to heal. I am just starting to learn how to move forward with my therapist’s help.

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    • January 3, 2020 at 5:01 pm

      Angie,

      Thank you so much for sharing this and it couldn’t have been easy. That being said, sharing your story will help not only you but those that are suffering in silence. It is my personal belief you are only as sick as your secret, you have released that secret and exposed it for what it was, egregious abuse against a child. You have begun the process of taking your power back. You didn’t receive the support you needed during and after the abuse and for that I profoundly apologize. This was never your fault, you deserved to be heard, protected, and supported, you were not. Your story and stories like yours will empower others to share their stories, warn others about the latent effects of child sexual abuse, shame and guilt harbored by unsupported survivors. and let their voices be heard. My goal of starting this blog was to give survivors a platform to have our voices heard. I understand how harmful it is to be told not to ruin your survivors life “he or she was just a kid when they abused you”, yet trying to make sense of “where were the concerns for me and my needs”.

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    • January 3, 2020 at 5:17 pm

      PJ,

      Thank you so much for sharing your story. I am also happy you have started therapy and have begun the process of working through your past abuse. Your story will reach and empower others that have not found or developed their voice. Childhood abuse often robs survivors of many opportunities that can interfere with healthy adult functioning. Childhood Sexual Abuse, specifically, by someone that has been entrusted to care for the child robs children of loving, caring years, but continues stealing valuable experiences and healthy coping mechanisms that carry on well into adulthood if left untreated. Adult survivors of sexual abuse who publicly speak out create change in the silence that surrounds this crime. The act of speaking out can end the false sense of shame that survivors often carry. You have been to break this silence by going to counseling, speaking your truth, and learning how to appropriately communicate your feelings to your husband. Good luck with your new life! The opportunities are endless!

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