Archives for November, 2012

Coping Skills

Maybe This Year It Will Be Different…

I don't know who wrote the following words of wisdom about stages of recovery.  It's been around as long as I can remember and this is just one version.

Stages of Recovery

Stage 1:
I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost. I am helpless. It isn't my fault. It takes forever to find a way out.

Stage 2:
I walk down...
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Borderline Personality Disorder

Willfulness

One day in second grade I raised my hand to read aloud certain paragraphs of a story. I loved to read. I skimmed ahead and found a dramatic section that would allow for varying voice tones. The teacher selected a different section for me to read. I protested that I wanted to read the section I had chosen. She skipped me and I didn't get to read at all. I was being willful.

We may think of willful behavior...
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Coping Skills

Finding the Middle Path



Marsha Linehan, includes dialectical thinking as part of Dialectical Behavior Therapy. One component of dialectical thinking is to find the middle path. When you think or feel in extremes, that usually leads to misery.

In The Mindful Child, Susan Greenland tells a fable about an old man who lived with his son on a farm near a tiny village.  One day the farmer's horse ran away.  The neighbors told him how sorry they were to hear about...
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